Abantwana sele bekhulile, abazukulu bekhulayo ... Nsuku zonke ngokuphindaphindiweyo intloko ihanjelwe ngcamango emibi oya kuyo indlela ongayifumana ngayo umlingane womphefumlo. Kodwa ukuba uqalise ubomi kunye ne-slate ecocekileyo akukhawulezi! Umele uphulaphule ezinye iingcebiso kwaye utshintshe ubomi bakho.
Yintoni okulindele ukuyifumana?
- khuselo;
- inkxaso kunye nethuba lokuxelela iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo;
- themba;
- ukuvisisana, ukufezekiswa kwemfuno yokuphila umntu oqhakazileyo;
- ukuqonda ngesigama-magama;
- ntlonipho.
Kutheni ungakwazi ukufumana iqabane? Yintoni ekumisa?
- Ulahlekelwe "ubuntana bodwa," oko kukuthi, ucinga ukuba iminyaka yakho isele ibe yinto engcolileyo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukwenza izenzo ezigqithisileyo kunye nokukhawuleza. Kwaye uthatha kwaye uzame, ngokukhawuleza uthanda ukufunda izixhobo zobuchwepheshe ezintsha okanye ugxume ngeparachute.
- Mhlawumbi, ukuthanda umntu kuya kuba novuyo, ngoko iimeko zezifo zithuthunyiswa kwaye zithatha zonke izinto ezinokuthi zenze ulwalamano olutsha. Ewe, xa uziva ungalunganga, awufuni ukucinga ngothando ... Zizinyame: hamba ugqirha, mhlawumbi uyazibandakanya kunyango okanye xa uhamba nawe; qalisa ukutya ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uhambise ngaphezulu.
- Thelekisa nento oye wafumana ngayo: kunye nomthandi, owayengumyeni. Njengomthetho, abafazi abangumhlolokazi bacinga ngako. Umlingane olahlekileyo wayephelele, kwaye uqala ukucinga ukuba akukho mntu uza kuhlangana nawe ngcono, ulwalamano olunjalo aluyi kuphinda luphindwe. Musa ukubeka kwi-sekbekrest, vumela uvuyiswe. Ndiphe ithuba. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, cinga ngezinto umyeni wakho onokuthandayo, ukuze ungayi kubandezeleka, kodwa qhubeka uhlala, kwaye ungahlali nje, kodwa ujabule.
- Uye wedwa iminyaka emininzi, ukuba wanyamalala ebantwaneni nakubantwana abazukulu, awukwazi nje ukuba ungayenza njani ngokuhlukileyo. Lo ngumqobo wakho kubomi obonwabileyo. Kufuneka ube nensimi yakho, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba uneminyaka engama-30 okanye i-65. Akuyimfuneko ukuba uchithe ixesha kunye nabazukulu bakho imini nobusuku. Khumbula ukuba kwiminyaka emihlanu ukuya kweyishumi iimfuno zabo ziya kuqala ukuvela, abahlobo kwaye baya kukunika ixesha elingaphantsi. Yaye uya kuhlala kwindawo ephukile ...
- Usetshenziselwa esinye isambatho, isidlo esisodwa, indlu enye kunye nosuku lwamaxesha, uhlala "unamathele" ngexesha. Khumbula, ukuze ubomi be-zagrilanova imibala kufuneka benze into ngokwabo kwaye batshintshe, kunjalo?
- Zihlaziye: emva kwakho konke, imilinganiselo yakho nemikhwa, uvele ugugile, uthathe umdla kunye nesondo. Oku kusebenza kwimfucuza, kunye neenwele, kwaye uhleli ebhentshini ngambewu yelanga, kunye nengxoxo eqhubekayo, nini kunye naliphi inani eliza kunikwa umhlalaphantsi.
Makhe siqwalasele izizathu ezintathu ezibalulekileyo zokuba umfazi emva kweminyaka engama-50 ufuna ukutshata. Emva kwakho konke, egameni le nqaku, ukugxininiswa kukugqithiseleyo kwiminyaka, nokuba yintoni enye inokuthi, yonke into yenziwa ngokuhlukileyo kule minyaka. Ngenxa yothando olukhulu, bayatshata eneminyaka eyi-18 ukuya kweye-22, ukuze bangabonwa njengendoda endala (nangona awuyintombazana ixesha elide) kwiminyaka engama-26 ukuya kwe-30. Abafazi abaneminyaka engama-35 ubudala bazama ukuphuma emtshatweni ukuze babele umntwana-ithuba lokugqibela, kodwa kwiminyaka engama-50 kutheni?
Ukutshata emva kwe-50 ukuphucula imeko yezinto eziphathekayo
Kwilizwe esiphila kuyo, zonke iintengiso kwi-akhawunti yomsebenzi zineenkcukacha encinci: "ezingadluli kwiminyaka engama-35", oko kuthetha ukuba ukuba uneminyaka engama-40 nangaphezulu kangangokuba u-50, ngoko umsebenzi ulahlwa, kuba abaqeshi bacinga ukuba sele usuphele. Kwaye oku kwenzeka, nangona kunjalo ukuba unyaka ngamnye umhlala-phantsi womhlalaphantsi womfazi ukwandisa kwaye uthembisa ukuba baya kukwandisa ngaphezulu, kodwa indlela yokufumana umsebenzi kwaye aphile ngaphambi kokuba umhlala phantsi kwiimeko ezinjalo akukho mntu unokuchazela. ukubonisa zonke iingcamango kunye nezimangalo zokucinga ukuze uphile. Ngamanye amaxesha kulula kakhulu ukufumana umyeni kunomsebenzi kwaye amvumele ukuba azikhathalele. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ufumane kwaye wenze indoda yakho ibe yindoda ephilileyo, kufuneka ube nempilo, ulungele kakuhle, uhlakaniphile, ulungile kwaye unobulumko kakhulu. Ngenxa yokuba unomncinci okhuselekileyo ngendlela yeentsuku ezingama-20 ukuya ku-30 ubudala ezithatha izihlwele ezikufutshane nabantu abanjalo, kuphela ukusebenza kunye nokuhlala kwiindleko zabo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, lo ngumsebenzi onzima kakhulu - ukufumana indoda emele ngokwezemali eya kunika wena kunye nabantwana bakho. Kufuneka uqaphele rhoqo isalathisi, ukubonakala, soloko uhamba kakuhle, ungayithobeli ingqungquthela yabanobhala abancinci nakuzo zonke izinto ukuzithoba kumlingane.
Ngako oko, ukuze ufumane indoda emva kweminyaka engama-50, akufanele ube yintlobano yesondo, isilumko, isithande, udibana nomlingane emsebenzini ovulekileyo ngomlomo wakho, kufuneka ufezeke.
Kodwa ukufumana phi umntu onjalo? Njengomthetho, "baphila" kwiiklabhu ezivaliweyo, iindawo zokutya ezibizayo, izitrato zabo okanye ama-hippodromes, amabhishi ahlawulwe kwezinye iindawo ezifake imfashini.
Ukutshata emva kweminyaka engama-50, ukungabi yedwa
Esi sizathu esiqhelekileyo sokukhangela indoda kule minyaka. Abantwana sele bekhulile baze bahlala ngokwahlukileyo, umyeni uye waya kwelinye ibhinqa, okanye wafa, kukho umsebenzi, kunye nempilo, kunye nemali, kodwa akukho nto yokuzonwabisa - akukho nto yokwenza. Inentliziyo entliziyweni, kwaye iyamkhathaza, ngoko ngolunye usuku ngelixa ukhangele uluhlu olulandelayo ngothando, wanquma ukutshata. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kunjalo, ke umntu uya kufikelela kuwe, kuba into ephambili kukuba kufuneka abe ngakuzo. Zama ukufumana umntu osemncinci ongekho kakuhle kakhulu kwiingcunnings zamabhinqa okanye ngokuphambene nento, indoda ekhulile ngakumbi, efana nephupha malunga nekhaya kunye thu thuzela. Musa ukujonga amadoda eneminyaka yakho, kuba phantse bonke abanomdla ngokulala kunye namantombazana amantombazana. Khumbula ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu kumntu kukutya ngokumnandi kwaye zonke izinto zakhe zizalisekile. Ngamanye amaxesha amenza izipho ezibizayo kwaye asebenzele ubhiya. Ukuba ufuna ukutshata nje ukuba ubalekele ekubeni unesizungu, ngoko ke akudingeki ukuba ulalane, ubulumko kunye nobuhle, kufuneka ube nemoto yakho, indawo yokuhlala, i-akhawunti yebhanki, ukwazi ukupheka ngokumnandi kwaye unomnqweno oqinileyo wokuncintisana nobomi bakho xa wenza isigqibo sokufumana indoda.
Ukutshata emva kwe-50 ukuthanda nokuthandwa
Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kunzima ukukholelwa, kwaye emva koko abafazi abaninzi emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane baphosa zonke iingcamango ezinokuthandana ngokwenene, kunye kunye. Umdala lowo wesifazane, ngakumbi ukuba unolwazi kunye namava, kwaye ukuba emva kweminyaka engama-40 sele ehlala yedwa, ngoko oku kubuhlungu kakhulu. Iinguqu, iintlanganiso, ukuthengiswa, ukuhlukana, ukulahleka akufundisi nje ukujonga ihlabathi ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa kunye nobudlelwane namadoda. Ngaphezu koko, ngaphambili ungacinga ukuba ufuna inkosana ihashe elimhlophe, kodwa ngoku sele uqonde ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe ungaphila ngokuthula. Kwiminyaka emininzi ukuthanda umntu lula, kuba asifuni ukuba umntu abe ngumntu ongaphezu kwemvelo, kwaye ngaphezu kweminyaka baqala ukucaphukisa izinto ezininzi. Ibhinqa kuqala liwa ngokuthandana, uze ucinge. Emva kwengu-50 umfazi oqala ukucinga, ulinganisa yonke into kakuhle, aze avumele ukuba athande.
Khumbula ukuba bonke ubudala bayathobela ukuthanda. Vumela ukuba uphile ngokwenene. Khangela ifilimu "UMoscow akakholelwa kwiinyembezi," kuba kuphela kuphela kwi heroine eneminyaka engama-40 ubudala ethanda uthando. Ewe, uya kuthi le yibheyi, kodwa awuyi kukholelwa kwimimangaliso, ayiyi kwenzeka kuwe.
Musa ukubheka iminyaka yakho, khumbula ukuba kule meko kuyinzuzo yakho. Umdala oba nguwe, unamava, umonde kunye nobulumko onakho.
Ngaba ngokwenene ukutshata emva kweminyaka engama-50?
Ngokwemvelo, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ukhangeleka njani kwaye unako "izandla zegolide". Ukuba ungumfazi ohlambulukileyo, kwaye kwi-60 yakho kunye no-50 unganiki, ke unako amathuba amaninzi.
Ukuba awukwazi abantu abanembali, bafunde kwi-intanethi, abafazi bayatshata xa bengabantwana kuphela, kodwa nabazukulwana. Kukho iiforam ezininzi kunye neendawo ezizele amabali. Ukutshata emva kweminyaka engama-50 ngokwenene, into eyona nto ayikukushiyeka kwaye ungadli ithemba.