Okwangoku, umthamo womtshato wendabuko wathatyathwa ngabaququzeleli bomtshato, othembisa ukubhiyozela okungenakulibaleka "ngokubhekiselele kwisiseko esiphezulu". Ngona mzuzu osondeleyo njengesiphakamiso sicetywayo. Le ndoda ngexesha elifanayo kufuneka icinge ngokucacileyo ukuba akayi kukhwela indandatho (parachute) de iphendule ukuba "yee." Kwi sicelo "indlela yokwenza isipho kumntu", injini yokukhangela iphinda ikhuphe amaphepha ambalwa ekhonkco. Kodwa kukho umehluko omkhulu. Abasetyhini bachazwa ngokungenakwenzeka ukuba benze isiphakamiso, zingaphi iintshukumo ezifunekayo ukuba zikhuthaze okhethiweyo ukuba akhulume amagama athileyo. Isiphakamiso somtshato, okokuqala, sihlala siphupha umfazi? Isithethe sokunikela izandla kunye neentliziyo sasisungulwa ixesha elidlulileyo ...
Ngubani ophuphayo?
Umfazi wanamhlanje uxakeke ekufumaneni umyeni ongaphantsi kunokuba sifuna ukukholisa amaphephancwadi kunye namafilimu. Uzimeleyo ngokwezoqoqosho, isikhundla sakhe kuluntu sithinteke ngakumbi kwimfundo, emsebenzini, amava, iimpawu zakhe, kunokuba yena utshatile. Kwaye kukho yonke intombazana akusoloko eyazi ukuba uya kuba ngumfazi wokwenene kuphela kumntu xa umcela ukuba abe ngowakhe.
INkosana ukusuka ebuntwaneni
Nangona kunjalo, abafazi abafumana isibonelelo sesandla kunye nentliziyo, ngentliziyo, badaniwe nangendlela eyenziwe ngayo. Mhlawumbi inyaniso kukuba imemori yethu igcina isithombe esivela kwincwadi yabantwana abathandwayo: inkosazana enhle kunye nenkosana yehashe elimhlophe - kwaye engaphantsi imemori yabantwana ayivumelani. Ukuthandwa ngumntu onokuthandana naye, nokuba yindoda yamakhosikazi, kwaye sifuna iziganeko ezingaqhelekanga: isiphakamiso esenziwe kwibhaluni, ingqungquthela egumbini le-champagne, imvula yama roses ...
Inkqantosi evela kwinqaba
Namhlanje, iphupha lomtshato kunye nenkosana - njengoCinderella okanye Ubuthongo Bokulala - lingabonakala lukhohlisi, okanye luze lubonise ukungahlanjululwa komphuphi. I-Massmedia yakha inkolelo enhle malunga nendlela ubomi obuphumelelayo bubukeka ngayo. Inkqubo yangaphambili yenkcubeko eqhutyelwa kwiingcamango zobuqili nobuhle, amandla, ulwazi, amandla. Ngoku bathetha ngokuphumelela ebomini ngokuphathelele ubutyebi, impumelelo yelizwe, ukufaneleka, imfashini. Ngubani ongakhange aphuhlise izikhokelo zakhe - ulandelelana nombono jikelele "njengoko kulindelweyo", ekhokelwa ngumnqweno wokuba "ungabikho mkhulu kunabanye." Ewe, iincwadana zeenkwenkwezi zadibaniswa ngexesha apho imitshato yayininzi ngokuhambelana nesiko kunye neengxabano zesigqibo kunye nokudibanisa ngaphezu kwezinto ezimbini zomhlaba, ngaphezu kwemiphefumlo emibini. Kodwa abanye bakhetha uthando! Xa isikhulu sithatha ubuhle kwihashe elidumileyo, akaceli lutho kubazali bakhe okanye ngabazali bomtshakazi, ubuhle buphulaphule kuphela ilizwi lentliziyo yakhe. Zijoliswe ekuzaliseni ubudlelwane babini kwizinga elifanelekileyo. Bathi imitshato yenziwa ezulwini, oko kuthetha ukuba umlinganiselo omtsha uphuma kwi sibini, baba yinto engaphezu nje kobudlelwane kwizinga "lomntu". Zonke ezi iidibhoni, idonsa kwisiqhwenga okanye isitshixo esilenga kwibhulorho, sinokubonakala siphambuka. Kodwa ngoncedo lwabo, amadoda namabhinqa bazama ukudala lo mbandela omtsha, ukunikela ubungqina: indlela le nqaba ifakwe ngayo, ngoko ubuhlobo bethu bubekwa. Nangona kunjalo, konke oku kusebenza kuphela xa behlala kwindawo ephantsi, ehamba nomsebenzi womphefumlo. Ukuba oku kukuxelisa, umdlalo ongenanto ngaphandle kwefomu, akuyi kuba nako ukusebenzisa.
IKhabinethi, i-champagne, i fachitos
"Unguye emadolweni ... ibhokisi ... isangqa ... ndandithusa kakhulu ... Ewe! Ewe, ewe! Yeka indlela endiyikhumbulayo ukukhumbula umhla wokuzibandakanya! Ndiza kuxela eli bali kwiintombi zam xa zikhula. Ngokukhawuleza ngokuhle ... kwaye kunene! "Xa ebona indoda ngokuqinisekileyo ezinyaweni zakhe, umfazi uvakalelwa ngamandla akhe ngokukodwa. Oku kwakhona kwakhona kumqinisekisa ukuba uyabaluleka kwaye ubaluleka. Kodwa kulungile ukuba amadoda azive njengamaqhawe.
"Nguwe kuphela"
Ukunikezelwa kwesandla kunye nentliziyo inemibandela emininzi esuka kwimicimbi yomtshato esilandelayo. Okokuqala, lo mzuzwana kuphela ezimbini. Nangona isiphakamiso senziwa phakathi kokuxubusha kwabantu - ukusuka kwinqanaba letheyetha okanye ukusebenzisa ibhodibhodi phakathi kwesixeko. Okwesibini, eli thuba elimangalisayo lisithatha imemori kuphela. Kunzima ukufumana umntu onokuba nesithombeni kwi-albhamu yentsapho: "Khangela, mntakwabo, nanko ndenza isipho kugogo wakho ..." Okwesithathu, ukunikezelwa ngumzuzwana wokuzimisela kwaye, ngelo xesha, uloyike nangabo baqinisekileyo impendulo efanelekileyo. Intliziyo yam ikhulula, kuba uyayenqaba kwimzuzu yokugqibela. Kodwa ukuba impendulo ifanelekile, ke oku kuluvuyo lwentlalo, ukuthembela kwixesha elizayo kwaye ukuvuleka nokulungela ulonwabo ... oko, mhlawumbi kukuba, unonwabo lovavanyo olumsulwa.