Ngoku kaninzi uvakalelwa kubadala igama elithi "akunakwenzeka", kwaye xa engathobeli, unokufumana upapa. Eli lixesha elinzima ebomini bomntwana, kwaye kunzima nakakhulu xa abazali beziphatha ngokungahambelaniyo: namhlanje - banqabela, ngomso - bavunyelwe. Ingane ayayiqondi ukuba kutheni "akakwazi", kwaye umzalwana omdala nabazali "banako." Kwaye, ngokubanzi, kutheni kubonakala ukuba kuyamnandi, inomdla - inqatshelwe, kodwa "yintoni" kwaye "imfuneko" - ngokuphambene nayo?
Inkwenkwe, yeyona nto, izama ukukhukula njengokuba inako: ayiyithobeli, ayiyiphulaphuli, iyayiphula imathoyilo, "i-avenges" umntakwabo-yiyo yengqondo yengqondo ... Singafumana njani igolide ekuthethwa apha, ukuze singabhidli ubuntu obunzima kwaye ngelo xesha, , ukungavumeli konke ukuvunyelwa? Ukuze udidekile kule nkalo yemfundo enzima, kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela iingongoma ezibalulekileyo.
Izibambiso zisebenza kuwo onke amalungu omndeni, kuquka nabantu abadala. Ukuba awukwazi ukubeka umunwe wakho kwisiseko, awukwazi konke, kuba kuyingozi ebomini. Izibambiso zinqongqo kwaye zifuna ukuphunyezwa ngokukhawuleza. Ngaphambi kokumemezela ukuvinjelwa kumntwana, uluhlu lwabo kufuneka luxubushe phakathi kwabo ngamalungu omdala osapho. Ukuba izithintelo zihlonela konke, oku kuya kuphinda kubonise umntwana ukuba uzele ilungu loluntu (intsapho) njengabantu abasondeleyo.
Izithintelo zisebenza kumntu othile ngexesha elithile kwaye, ukwenzela ukuba ugweme iingxaki, kufuna ukuphunyezwa ngokuchanekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, umama angasebenzisa ibinza elibukhali, vula igesi kwisitofu, ngoko unokukwenza. Umntwana akafundile, oko kuthetha ukuba ezi zinto zendlu ziphantsi koqandelelo oluqinileyo kuye.
Nangona kunjalo, iimfuno kunye nokuthintela akubandakanyi ukuba nolwazi: umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba abadala basebenzelana njani nesifundo esiyingozi. Mbonise ukuba ngubani umkhonto ocikileyo, ukuba uyayinqumla njani isonka, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo uchaze ukuba ungaziqhawula ngesandla kwaye kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana azi kwaye akholwe ukuba izithintelo, ngokungafani nokuthintela, zisesigxina "azivunyelwe" ngelixa esincinane. Ngoko, unyaka awukwazi ukuthatha imilinganiselo kunye nokuxhuma kwinethwekhi ye-teknoloji, kodwa umntakwabo-wesikolo somntwana sele sele akwazi ukufaka ipakisha ngokuchanekileyo kwi-outlet okanye ukulungisa isidlo sasemini, kwaye unokuyenza.
Uluhlu lwezithintelo kunye nezithintelo akufanele lube lukhulu kakhulu. Ukuba inkunzi yenkomo ngoku kwaye iya kuphulaphula: "Musa ukuyiphatha, ungayithathi, iyingozi, akuyena kuwe," akunakwenzeka ukuba ayibekezelele le nto. Ukutshintsha isikhundla sakhe esingalunganga endlwini, uya kuthatha imicu yomibini kunye nomsila ngasese, kwaye ufake iplagi kwiziseko, njl. Enyanisweni, abantu abadala ngokwabo bayamcaphukisa ukuba bazivelele kwiingozi. Ukongezelela, ukusetyenziswa ngokuthintela ngokusisigxina, abantu abadala bayayidala ngokusondeza umntwana "indawo eyingozi" apho ayiyi kukwazi ukukhula nokuphuhlisa ngokuqhelekileyo. Ukuhlala kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo kunye nokwesaba rhoqo kunokukhokelela ekuphuhliseni iingxaki zengqondo kumntwana.
Ukuze ugweme oku, zama ukunciphisa inani lezithintelo kunye nezithintelo kwixabiso elincinci. Ngaba ucinga ukuba oku akunakwenzeka? Emva koko ndikucebisa ukuba wenze oku kulandelayo. Bhala kwiphepha lephepha zonke izithintelo kunye nokuthintela apho ungazami ukufundisa umntwana wakho. Ngoku ke bahlule kwiindawo ezintathu:
1. Izithintelo ngenxa yokhuseleko lwazo.
2. Iimimiselo ukuze ungesabi ukhuseleko lwepropati yentsapho.
3. Izilungiso ezichazwe ngumnqweno wabantu abadala ukuba bazive bekhululekile, bekhululekile, banokuzithemba ngakumbi.
Phawula enye - lo buncinci "ayikwazi", ukugcinwa kwayo kufuneka kufunwe kumntwana. Kwinqanaba lesibini, amava obomi bakho ngokuqinisekileyo anokuxelela indlela yokunciphisa i-fidget encinci, ukwenzela ukuba angayiphuli i-vase encinci yexabiso, ayikhenxanga i-monitor yekhompyutheni etafile, ukubamba intambo, ayizange ayilahle yonke ilineni ngaphandle kwepakethe phantsi ... i-lockers-key, phezulu. Ukuba akukho zikhethi kwiingcango, iteksi yokubambelela iya kusebenza. I-vase, i-perfume, i-cosmetics, njl njl., Ususe okwesikhashana emehlweni. Kwaye njalo. Ukukhusela umntwana kwingozi kunye neengozi, ngelixa unciphisa inani lamathambo angqongqo, unako (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyayifuna) ngendlela efanayo. Ungaze uhambe kwiindawo ezifikelelekayo zonke izinto zokugwaza kunye nokusika, imifino, i-lumghters, amayeza, iikhemikhali zemizi, iviniga, njl. Ubilise i-kettle kwi-burner ede. Ukusetyenziswa kwesinyithi - kwakhona kususa kwisono kude kube yilapho sele ikhulile.
Ngokubhekiselele kwinqanaba lesithathu, abantu abadala, banelungelo lokuzimela ngasese, ukuphumla okuphumlileyo, ixesha lokukhulula, nangona inyana leyo kwaye izama ukuzalisa yonke indawo yakho yokuhlala. Musa nje ukulibala ngale nyaniso: inkululeko yomnye ngumqobo wenkululeko yomnye. Ukuba ufuna ukuthula okupheleleyo kumntwana xa ukhangele uchungechunge lwakho oluthandayo lweTV, akacingi ukuba kulungile. Kodwa ukuba umama ukhathele, waya kulala ngehora, ngoko ke, umntwana makacaciswe ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba enze ingxolo okwamanje.
Fundisa inani leemfuno kunye nokuthintela umntwana ngokuthe ngcembe, ukuvakalisa okungaphezulu kweyodwa ngosuku. Kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe kanye xa umntwana eqala ukubonisa umdla. Lapha unomdla kakhulu kwi-rosette-xelela ukuba kukho ubomi obusingathandanga kakhulu xa iminwe yakhe ingena emgodini wayo kwaye "ingaluma". Wayebeka ingqalelo kwisitofu segesi, kufinyelela kwizandla ezikhazimulayo - lixesha lokuthetha ngengozi yegesi nomlilo. Kodwa musa ukuyikwesa umntwana, uthetha nje ngezinto ezisongelayo. Musa ukufihla kumntwana ukuba buhlungu kwaye uya kulila, kodwa awukwazi ukuthusa oogqirha abaneenjini - uya kuhlupheka xa ufanele umjobe ngokuzayo. Futhi ungathethi, ukuba umntu uza kuphuma ngaphandle kwehlathi aze aye ehlathini elimnyama. Ingane ayikho loo nto, uya kuyika ukungena egumbini.
Zama ukuphepha igama elithi "akunakwenzeka" kunye neengqungquthela "ezingekho", eziqale zithwele umyalezo ongathandekiyo. Ukongezelela, ukuya kwinqanaba elithile ingqondo yomntwana ayiboni ukuba inxalenye "ayikho" kwaye amagama omama ayifumana into echaseneyo ngokupheleleyo (esikhundleni sokuba "ungathathi" - "thabatha", "ungaqhubi" - "ukunyuka", njl.). Kucebise ukutshintshela ezinye iinguqulelo. Umzekelo, "awukwazi ukuchukumisa isitofu" esikhundleni sokuthi "ukuthinta i-slab kuyingozi", kodwa "ungaqhubi etafileni, uya kuwa!" ithathe indawo "etafileni ephakamileyo, kwaye ukuba unyukela kuyo, ungawa!". Ukongeza, zama ukulungelelanisa umntwana ekuqaleni ekuhlakuleleni okungahambiyo kweemeko, kuba iingxelo ezinjengokuthi "uyawa, uyabetha, uya kuphuka, njl." Enyanisweni, sele sele bethetha ngento yokuba kuphela into ehleliyo eya kuzaliseka.
Ubomi bomntwana kwintanethi emininzi yeenqandezelo kunye nezithintelo aziyi kusebenza. Ngokutsho kwengqondo yengqondo yabantwana, iimfuno kunye nokuthintela kungekhona kuphela ukuvelisa ubuninzi beengxaki kwiintsana, kodwa kutshabalalise ngokupheleleyo, njengomntu. Zama ukufumana intsingiselo yegolide ukuba ungamlondolozi nje kuphela impilo, kodwa unokonwaba nolonwabo.