Njengoko akukho bhinqa abafana, ngoko akukho nto ibona ngayo ihlabathi kunye nokwakho ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Kodwa izigaba eziphambili zokukhulelwa kwabasetyhini ziyafana. Ukususela kumbono woogqirha, isigaba sokuqala sokukhulelwa sisuka ekukhulelweni ukuya ekuhambeni komzimba. Okokuqala uziva ujabule (ndikhulelwe, ndilungile!) Okanye umangaliswe (ukuba ukukhulelwa kwakulindelwe). Emva koko kuza umqondo onoxanduva, uxhalabe - kodwa ngaba ndiya kuwulawula? Kukho nje ukuzisola ngokukhululekileyo inkululeko, ukuba ngoku kuya kufuneka ukuba ungacingi nje ngowe.
Kwaye ke kuza uvakalelwa kukuba umile ekuqaleni - kunye nemihlali, kunye nokunyamezela, kunye ne-adrenaline encinane! Inkqubo ihambe! Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama bakusasa bakhathazeke ukuba yonke into iyafaneleka nabo, ukuba abayivuyo ngokukhawuleza ngokuzalwa komntwana? Emva kwakho konke, kukho inkolelo yokuba umzulwana wesisu kufuneka ubonakaliswe ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuqala zokukhulelwa. Hayi, kwenzeke, kunoko, ekuthinteni amanoveli.
Oomama abalindayo, isimo sengqondo sokuthuthumela ekukhulelweni, uthando lomkhonto kunye nomnqweno wokunyamekela umntwana ozayo unokubonakalisa ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo kwaye kuphuhliswe ngamazinga ahlukeneyo. Ixesha lale tshintsho lithile. Ibhinqa elide liphupha ngokuba ngumama, liphinde liphinde liphinde liphinde liveze. Ukukhathalela ngokwawo kwaye sele sele ivela kwiiveki zokuqala zokufumana: inkwenkwe okanye intombazana? Omnye akacingi ngomntwana okwamanje. Apha kunye nawe ukuqonda: zombini ukulala nokungcola kufuna ukuyikrakra, kwaye iwayini kwiphathi ayisekho. Ngexesha leveki zokuqala, uvuyo lwento eyenzekayo kwaye i-gamut yamava anxulumene neenguqu ebomini iyatshintshana rhoqo.
Musa ukuzibeka kakubi ngenxa yokunganeliseki kokuqala. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bafuna ixesha lokuba basebenzise ingcamango yendima yabo entsha kwaye benze utshintsho kwizicwangciso zabo. Ukongezelela, iimeko ngexesha lokwazisa ngokukhulelwa zihluke kakhulu. Kwaye zinokubangela ukuba iimvakalelo zemiyalezo ezahlukileyo zomama zizahluke, kwaye akusoloko zichanekile. Kuya kufuneka sicinge ngako. Umntwana ongakazalwa akayi kubeka isohlwayo ngokungalunganga kweli hlabathi, ngenxa yokufika "ngokungalindelekanga" kwihlabathi, ngenxa yobunzima bezinto eziphathekayo kunye noluntu lwabazali bakhe. Ushiye le ntsana, ngoko uyayidinga. Ngaba ufuna ukuba uphile? Vumela iingcamango malunga nale nto kwaye yibaluleke kakhulu. Kwaye zonke ezinye iinyanga ezithoba, enye indlela okanye enye, ziya kutshintshwa. Ngoko, ngokuthe ngcembe umama uya kufunda ukuzikhusela yena kunye nosana oluzayo kwizinto ezimbi zehlabathi langaphandle.
Nangona okokuqala kwisithathu sokukhulelwa, imeko yezempilo ayinokuba yinto emnandi kakhulu, iingcamango ezibuhlungu okanye eziphazamisayo eziye zavela kwiiveki zokuqala ezintathu, "ukuqala" umama kamva ngokuqhelekileyo akukhathazeki. Uyaqonda ukuba zonke iingxaki ezinxulumene nemeko yakhe ziyinxalenye yenkqubo eqhelekileyo yenkqubo. Kwaye ngoko kuqala ukuxhalabisa. Into ebalulekileyo kakhulu ngeli xesha kukucinga ukuba umntwana ukhona, kwaye konke oku kuphawu lobukho bakhe. Kwaye malunga ne-toxicosis, siyazi nawe ukuba oku akusiyo kubomi.
Isigaba sesibini sokukhulelwa sibonakaliswa ngummangaliso: uzive kuwe ukunyakaza kobomi obutsha. Ukuhamba kokuqala komntwana kuyasenza siqaphele ukuba yena, ngelixa esesibelethweni, lilungu elizimeleyo. Udibanisa, ulala, ujika. Kule mizuzu ukuba uvakalelo lwentlungu lomama kunye nokuhlwithwa ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe aze aphephe ngentloko. Ngenyanga yesine, izinga lama-hormone kumanqanaba egazi. Kwaye, ngoko ke, ukusabalalisa ngokomzimba kunye nokungalingani kwengqondo kuncwina, kuba ngumsebenzi. Ukuqonda ukuba ukuguquka kwemizwelo eyenzeka kwi-trimester yokuqala kulungele ukucacisa kwaye kuyinto yesikhashana, kunceda ukujonga iimvakalelo zakho ngaphandle. Ngoku, phakathi kwendlela, ixesha lokuba umfazi acinge ngekamva. Ulungiselela lo msebenzi. Uqala ukuqapha impilo yakhe ngokucophelela. Uqala ukuya kwiinkalo zabamama bokamva, uzama ukuxhamla kule nto kunye noyise womntwana. Kulapho, umfazi, okanye isibini esitshatileyo, udibana kunye nabazali abaza kuba nekrele, bayaqonda ukuba abayena kuphela "abakhulelweyo."
Nangona kunjalo, abafazi bafuna ukunyamekela nokunyanzelwa kweentsapho, ngakumbi umyeni. Abafazi abakhulelweyo banokukhathazeka ngokuxhalabisa kunye nokuhlambalaza xa bengabonakali ububele nothando. Le meko ichazwa ngumfuno wokubonelela ngokwabo indawo kunye nomntwana. Hlola ukuba ininzi intsapho ikulungele ukutshintsha ubomi babo emva kokuzalwa kwakhe. Ibhinqa liyakwenza iprojekthi ebomini bayo kunye nekamva lomntwana wakhe imeko ivela kwiimeko zokuphila, iifilimu, iincwadi. Oomama babonakala beqhuba, bezama ngokwabo ukuvuya kunye nentlungu. Badlala iimeko ezihlukahlukeneyo zengqondo kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwabathandekayo babo. Ukungaqondakali okanye ukuchasana ngokuthe ngqo kwimiba yokuphikisa ingabangela ukuxabana okukhulu kwintsapho. Nangona kunjalo, iimeko ezinjalo zivela ngokukhawuleza kwaye aziphazamisi ukuzithemba jikelele kunye nempilo enamandla yempilo. Abaninzi abafazi balinganisa lexesha lokukhulelwa njengexesha elihle kakhulu lobomi babo - ixesha lokuzithemba, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela.
Ngeli xesha, kwaye kwavela isisa esikhethekileyo kunye nesimo sobudlelwane obusondeleyo, ukuhlanganiswa komama nomntwana. Kukhona ingxoxo yabo yangaphakathi: "Ngoku siza ekhaya kunye nawe, udle uze uphumle. Kuze kube ngoko, musa ukutyhala njalo, nceda. " Emva koko, umntwana ususwe, kodwa umama nomntwana bayadla baze bahlale kunye. Ukususela ekuziphatheni komama (ukuba ndadla isidlo sakusihlwa, ndihamba ngezitrato, njl njl.) Kuxhomekeke kubomi obutsha obuthile bomnye umntu.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlanganiswa, ngelixa lendalo, kuya kuba kuhle ukunyamekela. "Sivele sivele iiveki ezingama-25", - uyavuyela umama, ethetha ngaye kunye nomntwana kwintsebenzo enye engabikhoyo. Mhlawumbi, konke okufanayo kungekhona "kuthi", kunye nomntwana ozayo? Usuke unento encinane! Kwaye kukho ebomini bakho kukho kwaye kuya kuba nezinye izinto ezifezekileyo. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ubomi bube bubomi, nangona ngoku kungakholeki. Masivume ukuba iiveki ezingama-25 emva komntwana wakho wonke, kwaye uneeveki ezingama-25 zokukhulelwa. Kuyinto enomdla ukwabelana nomntwana wakhe ozayo ukukhula nokuphuhliswa kwakhe, ukuziva ukuba yinxalenye yakhe. Leli ligazi lakho, ilanga lakho! Kodwa emva kokuzalwa, usaba ngumntu ozimeleyo. Futhi uzilungiselele umama onjalo, ochanekileyo, ophilileyo, ohlonipha ubuntu bomntwana, uya kuba mnandi ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuqala zokukhulelwa.
Iyesithathu, iphelileyo zezigaba eziphambili zokukhulelwa kwabasetyhini zihluke kukuba umama okhuselekileyo ulungiselela ukuzala. Kwaye akafuni ukucinga ngantoni na, ngaphandle kokuhlangana nomntwana. Uvele uziva uhlukile, ukhathele ukulinda nokugqoka umzimba omkhulu. Yonke yatshintsha ingqondo yakhe, yonke inkxalabo, ilungele nantoni na, ukuba kungekudala! Inkqubo iphela iphelile, isenzo sokugqibela sishiywe. Oku kuzalwa - kwaye yonke into iya kulungiswa.
Kwamanye amabhinqa, isisiseko somama sibonakala emva kokubeletha. Ukubonakala kwakhe "ukungabikho" kwiinyanga ezilisithoba ezedlulileyo akusizathu sokufumana "ukuthobeka". Ngomntwana wakhe, unina uya kuba yona mfuneko kakhulu, onyamekayo nothando. Masikhumbule enye yamaqhawe e-series ethandwayo "Ubulili kunye neSixeko". Ecatshiswe kumsebenzi wegqwetha, waphazamiseka ngengozi, wachitha zonke iinyanga ezithoba ezenza imisebenzi, iingxaki zamantombazana, ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe, kunye nokuphazamiseka kokubona utshintsho emzimbeni wakhe. Kwaye xa kuphela ebona umntwana wakhe, waqonda ngokucacileyo kwaye yinto enjani ummangaliso, inwaba kunye noxanduva-umntwana!
Kwaye kulo mzekelo akukho nto inqabileyo kwaye imangalisayo. Kwesinye ibhinqa imvelaphi ye-hormone ikhula ngokukhawuleza, kwenye inokuthi idibene. Kwaye okwesithathu kwaye ngaphandle kokunceda ama-hormone bonke ubomi bakhe amaphupha okuba ngumama, uba ngumfazi, kwaye uyonwabile, njengenye i-heroine yechungechunge olufanayo. Ukukhulelwa yiyona nto "yinto enzima" eyenziwa ngumfazi ngexesha lobomi bakhe. Kwaye kwangathi ezi zinyanga ezithoba, ezinjengezithoba ezinyanyisiweyo, zivumela ukuba uzive unonwabo lwamaxesha omso.