Impindezelo ...
Impindezelo yimvakalelo enamandla kakhulu, kodwa ayikho into eyenza uvuyo. Kunokuthi uthelekiswe kunye nemeko ebuhlungu eyenzeka kuthi ngexesha lokubanda. Impindezelo inegunya elinamandla phezu komntu, phantse nothando - luyakwenza ukuba senze izenzo ezingenakucinga, ngoko ngoko kudla ihlazo.
Nangona inyaniso yokuba umnqweno wokuziphindiselela kubangele ukwanda kwamandla namandla, le mvakalelo iyingozi kumntu. Oku kuyimpawu yokuba umntu uthetha ngeqhayiya, ukuba unendawo ezininzi zokugula kunye neengxaki, ukubetha apho umntu eyeka ukuzilawula. Kwiimeko ezininzi, impindezelo ayifanelekanga, kwaye izenzo zabalandeli abafanelekanga ingqalelo.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umnqweno wokuziphindezela ube yinto ebangela ukuba abantu benze izinto ezintle kunokuba badle, umzekelo, ukufezekisa into engaphezulu kwabo, ukuba babe ngumntu ongcono, ukuphumelela indawo engcono ebomini.
Izizathu zokubuyisela.
Ukuze ube nomnqweno wokuziphindezela, isizathu esincinci sanele. Ngamnye wethu uhamba nomsindo, ukunyeliswa, umona - konke oku kunokuba isizathu esaneleyo sokuphindezela. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yokuqhambuka kweentshaba, akukho mfuneko kuzo zonke izizathu, konke kuxhomekeke kumntu womntu.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, umntu owanelisekile ngobomi bakhe akakwazi ukukhubekiswa kwizinto ezincinci ezenzeka kuwo wonke umntu. Ukuphindezela kuyisiphumo sesenzo esincinci esasichukumisa ukuzingca komntu.
Ukuphindezela kuhamba kunye nemvakalelo engeyiyo-umona. Ngenxa yomona, kungekhona izinto ezintle ezenziwe, kwaye umnqweno wokuziphindezela unokuvela ngenxa yokuba ishishini lomntu lingcono kuneyakho. Oku kuziphatha kubonisa abantu ababuthathaka nabakhuselekanga abangakwazi ukuthotyelwa komnye umntu.
Kwilizwe lethu, impindezelo ayamkelekanga, ayithethi ngokuvulekayo, kodwa umnqweno wokuziphindezela uyagxothwa. Indlela yokwenza kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo - ukuphindezela okanye ukuxolela, wonke umntu uyazigqiba.
Zithintele.
Ungabi neentloni ukuba wenze into embi, eyabangela umnqweno wokulimaza ngokuphendula, oku kuphendulwa ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokufanayo nokuzikhusela. Enye into yokuba loo nto inokuvela ngezinye iimeko ngokulinganayo, kule meko kuyimfuneko ukulwa nawe, kungenjalo kukho umngcipheko omkhulu wokwenza iimpazamo ezininzi zobuwula.
Ngoko ukuba ungabi ngumntu ongeyomntu onobungqina, okokuqala, kufuneka ukwazi ukuxolela kwaye uhlole ngokwaneleyo umonakalo nento oya kuyenza ngokubuyisela. Impindezelo ayenzi nantoni na umntu - okanye abo baziphindezelayo, okanye abo bafumana impindezelo, le nto ihlala ingxaki.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwiimeko ezingqubuzanayo, ukuphindezela kunokubonakala ngathi isona sigqibo esona sigqibo. Kodwa cinga ukuba ngoncedo lwakhe, yintoni eya kuba yinzuzo, ngaphandle kokuba iqhayiya lakho liyaneliswa? Ngaba ngeke kube nzima ngakumbi emva kwezenzo zakho?
Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuzama ukusombulula ingxaki ngokuxhatshaza okanye ukungahoyi nje umxhaphazi.
Ukukhonza imithetho.
Ukuba akukho nenye indlela yokuphuma, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo unqumle ukuphindezela umntu, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yokuziphindezela ngayo kwaye "iya kudliwa" njani.
Umgaqo wokuqala kukusebenza ngesiseko soluphi ulwaphulo mthetho olwenziwe kuwe. Ungazami ukwenza ininzi ye-muck.
Umgaqo wesibini ngumthetho. Ukuba izicwangciso zakho azibandakanyi ukuvalelwa ngokukhawuleza, shiya nayiphi na ingcamango ephikisana nekhowudi yomthetho kunye neyobugebengu.
Umthetho wesithathu - ungagqithisi ububi kubantu obathandayo. Ukuba umntu ukulimaza, ngoko kufuneka abe noxanduva lwezenzo zakhe, kwaye kungekhona wonke umntu omele.
Umgaqo wesine ixesha. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba ukhubekile, musa ukuphindezela. Umxhaphazi ulinde oku kwaye ulungele ukuzikhusela. Lindela ixesha elide, vumela umdlali wakho uhlale phantsi, kwaye ngeli xesha uza kufumana indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuphindezela.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuphindezela, cinga kwakhona. Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba umdlalo ufanelekile ikhandlela? Cinga ngendlela oza kujonga ngayo ngaphandle, awuyi kuba neentloni kamva, ngaba uya kuzama ukuziphindisela into enzima? Kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, kubalulekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuba abantu abomeleleyo kuphela banokukwazi ukuxolela umoni okanye benze ngathi akayikho. Ayehla ukuya kwinqanaba labaphulaphuli kwaye angabonakalisi ngezandla zabo ngeendlela ezibuhlungu zokuziphindezela.