Uyazi njani ukuba umntwana wakho unayo uCarlson wakhe?
Abaqhelekileyo abahlobo abacingayo bavela kubantwana abaneminyaka emithathu nangaphezulu. Oko kukuthi, xa umntwana sele ekwazi ukudlala imidlalo yokudlala indima. Ubukho bomhlobo onjalo abuxhomekeke ekubeni ngaba yedwa umntwana kwintsapho okanye ngabazalwana kunye noodade. Abahlobo abacingayo bangaba yonyango lokunyamezela kunye nendlela yokuhlukana nezihlobo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana bayathetha ngamathoyizi abo, njengokungathi ngabantu abaphilileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha bafika kunye nabahlobo abadala abajonga ngathi bakhulile, umama okanye utata, ingakumbi xa abadala bengayikhokhanga ngokwaneleyo umntwana.
Ubungqina bomhlobo onjalo ocingayo awunaso sonke isibonakaliso sokuba umntwana uneengxaki zeengqondo. Oku kuthethwa kuphela ngcamango ephucukisayo kunye neengxaki zengane, ekufuneka iphuhliswe.
Ukuba unakho ukungathandabuzi ngezizathu ezenza omnye "ilungu lentsapho" livele endlwini yakho, oko kwanele ukugcina umntwana kunye nemidlalo yakhe.
Izizathu zokubonakala kwezihlobo ezicingayo.
Ukuba umntwana uhlala ebomini, xa ehlala ephazamiseka, akumangalisi ukuba, ngenye indlela, uqala ingxoxo ngomhlobo ongekho. Ukungabikho kokubonakalayo ngenye yezizathu zokubonakala kwazo. Umntwana ufuna iimvakalelo ezintsha, ekutshintsheni imo, kwimithombo yolwazi olutsha. Ukuba uyanqatshelwe konke oku, mhlawumbi uya kuza nomdla omtsha, obonwabisayo, kuba akanakho olunye ukhetho. Ukuba abantu abadala bangagcinwa kwi-boredom ngeendlela ezininzi, umntwana ukuba abhekane nesimo esiqhelekileyo kunzima kakhulu.
Esinye isizathu sokuba kubonakale umhlobo onokucinga kunokunyamekela abazali. Abanye abazali abashiyi umntwana naliphi na ithuba lokukhetha, ngeemvo zabo neempazamo zabo, bamgxeka, nangona bacinga ukuba benza izinto ezilungileyo. Kodwa umntwana, njengalowo nawuphi na umntu ophilayo, ulwela inkululeko, ufuna i-outlet. Ngoko kukho izihlobo ezintsha ezingabonakaliyo, unxibelelwano oluvumela umntwana ukuba azive ukhululekile.
Esinye isizathu sokuba kubonakale ngabahlobo abacingayo kukunyameko. Ukuba umntwana uhlala ehlwaywa, xa efumana uloyiko, iimvakalelo zetyala okanye ihlazo, uya kukhangela indlela yokukhupha iimvakalelo ezimbi. Akunjalo wonke umntu omdala onokuphila kwaye awanqobe, engakhankathi ngomntwana. Ukuba isizathu sokuba umhlobo omtsha unemvakalelo embi, uya kuzibona ngoku. Kulo mdlalo, umntwana uguqulela iimvakalelo zakhe kule nto okanye ukuba, kunye naye odlala naye, unokuhlwaya nantoni na idodoli elingenacala, ujezise umngane ongabonakali, uzigwebe okanye ube nesibindi - uza kuyibona kwaye uyayiqonda. Kule meko, kufuneka ufikelele izigqibo kwaye ulungise ngokukhawuleza imeko, ukuphelisa imbangela yokuxhalabisa.
Ukungabi nxibelelwano kuvame ukukhokelela kubuhlobo obungaqhelekanga. Ukuba intsana ayinayo umntu yokudlala nayo, akukho mntu ukuxelela ngayo iimvakalelo zakhe, uhlala wodwa okanye uhlala esele kuye, ungamangaliswa ukuba ngokukhawuleza ufumana indawo engafanelekanga kubantu abaphilayo.
Akukho nto eyoyikisayo kwizihlobo ezicingayo ngokwabo. Enye into zezizathu zokuba zivelaphi. Akukuhle ukuba umntwana engathethi ngomhlobo ocingayo, uyifihle. Oku kubonisa ukuba ulwalamano lwakho kukho ukungathembani okukhulu okufuneka ukuba lunqotshwe ukuze kuphephe iingxaki ezinkulu kwixesha elizayo.
Fundisa umntwana ukuba abone umahluko phakathi kokuziqulunqa kunye nantoni na. Zama ukufumanisa nokuphelisa isizathu sokuba umntwana enqaba ukuthetha. Mncede athole abahlobo bam bahlobo, badibanise ukuzonwabisa, balawule ngakumbi kwaye ufunde ukuva umntwana wakho.
Ukuba umntwana wenqabe ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye noontanga, ukuba unganakulinganiswa kwaye uvaliwe, ukuba unxibelelwano olungqalileyo luphazamisa ubomi bakhe kunye nokufundisisa, ngoko kunengqiqo ukuthetha ngxaki ebalulekileyo ekufuneka iphendulwe kungekhona ngezohlwayo kunye neengxoxo, kodwa kunye nezifundo nengqondo yengqondo yengane .
Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ngamanye amaxesha kuyakunceda ukukhumbula ukuba sonke sasingabantwana kanye kwaye siphupha ukuba i-carlson yethu iya kuqalwa kwi-attic yethu. Akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo, ngezinye ihlandlo iqhubela umntwana wakho.