Ubomi kwi-slate ecocekileyo

Bekunye kunye, nithandana, kodwa ke wawaphula. Ixesha lidlule. Intlungu yancinci encinane, kodwa ithemba lovuyo lingafi. Kwaye unquma ukuzama ukuvuselela uthando. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuqala kwakhona ubudlelwane, ukubhala kwakhona ukususela ekuqaleni?


Iingxaki zibuphi na ubudlelwane: ukuzala abantwana, abanobubele kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Inkxalabo ibangela iingxaki ezifuneka zijongene nazo, ukuqonda izizathu eziye zabakhokelela. Inkathazo yethu kukuba, xa sibhekene neengxaki, sihlala sizama ukuqonda ukuba imvelaphi yayo, siyayibona njengento engenakukugweba kulwalamano. "Mhlawumbi, asikho" isiqingatha sam "", sicinga, kwaye sinquma ukuphula nomntu. Okanye, ukuxabana, ekutshiseni kwentshiseko sinyundela omnye amazwi ahlambalazayo kwaye slam umnyango, kwaye sibuye sixolise ngenxa yomsindo noqhayisa.

Ixesha lidlula. Ubomi buqhubeka. Mhlawumbi ufumana iintlanganiso ezintsha kunye nokuhlukana, kodwa iingcamango zibuyela kuye. Ucinga ngento engayi kuba yimbi xa ebiza, ungathatha isinyathelo sokuqala ngokwakho, kodwa ... Ngaba ufanelekile?

Buyela kumlingani wangaphambili - imeko iqhelekile. Ngokwezibalo, malunga nekota yeembhangqwana eziphukileyo emva koko ziqala ubuhlobo kwakhona. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuba ucinge umfanekiso wokudibanisa kwakhona, kuyafaneleka ukuqikelela ukuba ufuna kangakanani.

Kubalulekile ukuba ungaxubani nostalgia yothando lwangaphambili kunye nethuba lokwenene lokuvuselela ubudlelwane. Imemori ihlelwe ukuze ihlale igcina ixesha elihle lokuthandana, lisuse into engathandekiyo, ukuze singalimazi. Akunakwenzeka ukuba isimo sakhe kunye nemikhwa yakhe yatshintshile kakhulu, ngoko ungalindelanga ukuba awuyi kukhangela ngaphezulu kweesksi ezingcolileyo okanye ulinde isigxina seyure phantsi kwendlu yangasese ngelixa ehleli apho nge laptop. Ukongezelela kule ntlupheko yendlu, mhlawumbi, iingxaki zokunxibelelana ziya kubuya. Ewe, ukukhula nokufunda izinto ezintsha, umntu uyaba nokuqonda nokunyamezela. Cinga malunga nokuba unamandla okwaneleyo ukuba uyamkele njengoko kunjalo.

Ukuba unesiqiniseko sakho somnqweno wokuqala kwakhona, into yokuqala okufuneka uyenze ukuqonda izizathu zokuba isithuba sakho senzeke ngexesha elithile. Thetha kunye neqabane lakho ngokukhululekile, ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuzinzileyo, ngaphandle kokuwa ngenxa yokumangalelwa kunye ngaphandle kokufihla nantoni na. "Ndakuyeka ukunithanda" kwaye "ndandithanda kwakhona" - iimpendulo ezingathethi nto nantoni na. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyona nto eyabangela ukuphambana: ukutshatyalaliswa kokukhwabelana ngesondo, iingxaki zokuqonda, ukuzithemba okulahlekileyo? Kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukufumanisa oko kukhokelela umnqweno wokuvuselela ubudlelwane.

Ukuqala ulwalamano emva kwekhefu kunzima. Ungathembeli ukuba iya kuvuselela uthando olunalo ngaphambili. Ingxabano ibonisa rhoqo ukungaphumeleli kwabantu babini, ishiya amanxeba emphefumlweni. Ukuhamba kwexesha abantu batshintsha. Kodwa ulwalamano lwakho aluyi kuba lutsha ngokupheleleyo: uyamazi lo mntu kakuhle, amandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka, imikhwa. Kudinga isibindi kwaye ukulungele ukuqaphela kuphela iimpazamo zayo, kodwa kwakhona, ukuvuleka kunye nokuthembelana komnye nomnye. Ukuqala nge-slate ecocekileyo kunzima, kodwa akukho mntu uyazama ukuzama.