Ubuxoki buninzi obukhohlakeleyo - ubuxoki, bluffing, silence. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba kutyhile kangakanani, akunakunzima ukuyiqonda. Nangona kunjalo, amanga ahluke: angenangqiqo kwaye engenamacala, abukrakra, anomnandi, okulungileyo kunye nokulimaza. Yaye, xa uyifumene, musa ukukhawuleza ukuba wenze ingxabano kwaye ngokukhethekileyo uqhawule umtshato, ngenxa yokuba ayivuki ekuqaleni kwaye kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwizenzo zakho kwimeko ethile. Kwinqaku lethu "Akuchazwa, kodwa kuyinyaniso, inyaniso okanye inkohliso," siza kujonga ezinye zazo.
Uqamba amanga kuwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uhlele ukuhluthwa, cinga ngesizathu sokuba akwenze. Mhlawumbi unqabile kakhulu ukulawula uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, uzama ukugcina, kwaye ngoko uyaphulaphula iminqweno yakhe? Ungumculi womculo (bibliophile, gamer) ufuna ukuzalisa iqoqo lakhe, ukhetha ukugqoka i-stylishly okanye uthanda ukuthenga izinto ezahlukeneyo zobugcisa? Naluphi na iiminqweno kunye nezinto ezithandwayo, kufuneka uziqwalasele kwaye ufunde ukuxoxisana nomlingane: kule nyanga uthengela okuthile kuye, ngokulandelayo-kuwe. Naphezulu. Khawucinge ukuba umthandi wakho ufuna ukukunika isipho, kodwa ngaphandle kokwazi kwakho akunakwenzeka, kuba uyithwala yonke imali "endlwini." Yaye kufanele ukuba yintoni? Ukukulandela ngesandla eseluliweyo - "ndinike imali - ndiya kukuthenga i ringlet"? Kuyi sidenge, akunjalo, akunjalo?
Uthi uhleli emsebenzini, kwaye yena ... Uthukuthele: unokumema, kwaye mhlawumbi - uchitha ngokuhlwa kunye nawe. Gcina phantsi. Amadoda ngamanye amaxesha afuna ukuthetha kuphela "kwinkampani yabo." Ukuthetha ngomsebenzi, ukuziqhayisa ngeempumelelo kunye nokukhwabanisa. Thatha ngokukhawuleza. Uyakuthanda ukudibana nabahlobo.
Uqamba amanga kuwe ngamantombazana akhe, afihla ulwazi ngabo. Oku akukona ubuxoki obunjengokuthula kweqiniso. Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngeenveli zakhe zangaphambili? Kutheni uvuselela imicimbi yeentsuku ezidlulileyo, ngaba kuya kuzisa uvuyo olukhulu kuwe kwaye uzuze ulwalamano lwakho? Uyavuma, wenza njengendoda yokwenene - akayikuthelekisa nabanye, akayinyanzela ukuba abe nomona, oko kuthetha ukuba akabi.
Uxoxe ngesizathu. Oku, mhlawumbi, kubonisa ukuba ungumntu obuthathaka kunye nomntu obuthathaka. Kulula ukuba anikezele kuwe kwaye angaphikisani nantoni na. Ukuba oko akukufanelanga, vumela ukuba uhambe. Musa ukumgxeka yonke into kwaye ungaphuzi. Mamela uluvo lwakhe, khuthaza ukuzimela kwaye udla ngokudumisa. Akunqatshelwe ukuxoka ngamatalenta kunye nokufaneleka - oku kukuxoka okulungileyo.
Kuphi nje ukuhlala uthula? Ukuqamba amanga, akunjalo, akulungile, kodwa akuyiyo yonke into ebuxoki ityala. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, kubalulekile ukuba uxoke okanye uxoke. Uthandile kangcono ukuba ungathethi inyaniso:
- malunga nothando lwabo "luxhaphaza";
- inani lamalingani angaphambili;
- ngezifo eziye zishiywa ngokukhuselekileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo, kwakunye nokukhupha izisu (ukuba kukho naziphi);
- malunga nesimo sengqondo sakho esibi kwiintsapho zakhe kwaye ikakhulukazi kunina;
- malunga nesidima samanye amadoda, kwaye nangakumbi, ukuba uthanda omnye wabo.
Umhlobo omhle akufanelekile ukwazi ukuba wena:
- Awufuni ukuthetha naye kwifowuni, kuba kuthatha ixesha elininzi kuwe;
- cinga ukuba akunakwenzeka (njengendlela yokukhetha: engathandekiyo, engaphumeleli);
- Unika inkxaso ngombono womyeni wakhe malunga nobudlelwane babo bosapho.
Abazali bakho akufanele baqonde ...
- ukuxabana nomyeni wakho;
- izifo - eyakho, indoda, abantwana;
- iingxaki emsebenzini.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukulala kuxhamla. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zabonakaliswa ukuba ubuxoki ekuhlekeleni buyakwazi ukuthintela umntu. Musa ukuyidlula! Ngamanye amaxesha "amahlaya" anjalo adala ukuxabana phakathi kwezihlobo nabahlobo. Ngoko ke, ukuhlekisa ngenxa yokuba ungabi nje kuphela, kodwa nakwabanye.
UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekileyo kwisiza