1. Awusoze ube nelithuba lesibini lokwenza umboniso wokuqala . Lo ngumgaqo oyintloko wokuqala komhla. Kwaye oko kwinto yokuba ungenayo ingubo enhle kunye nomoya ongekho. Ngolu gama kumhla wokuqala, awukwazi ukutyumba isibini. Ngoko, akusayi kuba namathuba okumqoba kuloo ndawo.
2. Uthetha kakhulu malunga neemfanelo zakho kunye nawe . Kakade ke, elo lonke ibhinqa lithanda umntu ukuba enze impembelelo efanelekileyo. Kodwa ukukhangisa okunjalo njengomthandayo kubangele ukucasuka kumntu. Indoda iqinisekile ukuba akayidingi ukukhangisa okuhle. Ngoko, ucoceko lwakho lubangela ukuba acinge ukuba awunyanisekile. Amadoda amaninzi ayithandi abafazi "baninzi."
3. Ukuthetha rhoqo akubalulekanga nantoni na ngaphandle kwekhefu . Ngoko ke umfazi ulwa nomngcipheko wakhe kunye noxinzelelo. Kodwa lo mntu uqikelele ngokucacileyo oku kwaye ukwahlula njengomkhulumi ongapheliyo.
4. Awuyibuze le mibuzo kumntu, ungazami ukuthetha naye. Ngaloo ndlela, ubonisa ukuba awunomdla kumntu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uyamnciphisa intando yefilosofi, yokuthetha ngokuxhaphaza kwakhe, ukuvavanya indlela olungileyo ngayo njengomphulaphuli. Emva koko, le mfanelo ibaluleke kakhulu kumntu.
5. Udayiwe kwaye ugqoke ngokungcolileyo kwaye ukhanyise. Kwaye akunakunceda nantoni na ukuba usebenzisa ubu buhle ukulwa nolonwabo kunye nokungaqiniseki okanye, ngale ndlela, ufuna ukubetha umntu wakho ngobuhle bakho. Oku kuya kukukholisa ambalwa. Bonke abanye baya kukhetha ukunambitha okulungileyo, ubuhle kunye nobume. Mhlawumbi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buyaqhubeka nokukhula, loo mntu uya kukubuza malunga nalo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukuvuma okunzulu.
6. Uxelela umntu malunga neenveli zakho ezidlulileyo. Kodwa kuyiphutha elibulalayo ukuthetha ngethuba lakho, ewe, ngomhla wokuqala. Okungenjalo ukuba umntu uthetha ngobomi bakhe kwaye ulindele ukulandelelana okuvela kuwe. Kodwa kulo mzekelo kungcono ukuba ungadluli ngeemvakalelo kunye neenkcukacha.
Kufuneka umxelele ukuba awunabo "ukugcina okuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka" kwaye ujonge impumelelo ngamadoda. Indoda ayifuni ukuba ifunde ukuba zonke iireveli zangaphambili ziphelile, kungekhona kwinqanaba lakho, indoda ayifanele ikwazi malunga nayo. Ngaphandle koko, uya kucinga ukuba into ephosakeleyo kuwe.
7. Uchaza iziphene zakho kanye. Esi sihloko ekuqaleni kokuthandana kungcono ukuba singathinteli. Umnqweno wokuba unyanisekileyo uye wabulala enye inombolo. Ngoko ke, malunga nokukwazi kwakho ukugcina imali, ungathandi ukuhlamba izitya kunye nokuthanda kwakho abacuphi abadangayo bakaDaria Dontsova, makhe afune emva koko.
8. Uzama ukulinganisa ubungakanani bomvuzo wakhe. Kodwa indoda, ngokukhawuleza xa ivakalelwa ngumfazi, ngokukhawuleza ilahlekelwa ngumdla kumfazi. Kungcono ukwenza ngaphandle kwezi mibuzo ngqo ngqo kwaye wenze izigqibo zakho ngokubhekiselele kwizinto ezingachanekanga (iiyure, umkhwa wemoto yakhe, izinto ezithandwayo, iindleko, amabali emisebenzi, iindlela zokuchitha iholide).
9. Ekupheleni kwentlanganiso, umcela ukuba adibana kwakhona. Nangona kunjalo, le ndoda ifuna iqela elivela kuye. Ngale ndlela ubonisa umdla wakho kuyo. Indoda iyaqonda ukuba, "yonke into, phezulu inokutshatyalaliswa kakade," kwaye ithunyelwe ukuba inqobe entsha.
10. Ngomhla wokuqala, uyavumelana ngesondo. Kwimeko apho, cinga ukuba kuya kuba ngowokugqibela. Kukho ukungabikho kwimithetho, kodwa kunqabile kakhulu. Ukuba ibhinqa iyavuma ngesondo, yenzayo kwindoda eyindoda ayifanelekanga ubuhlobo obunzulu obude. Indoda ayifuni ukutshata nomfazi onokufikelela. I-logic yamadoda ithi ukuba umntu ufumana umfazi omnye, ngoko uyaziphatha kunye nabanye.
Inye icebiso kuphela: xa uqhelana nendoda, libale into oyenayo phambi kwayo, musa ukuhamba phambili ngaphambili. Jabulela, ukuhlalisana kwaye ubuhlobo bakho buya kuba nekamva.