Yintoni enokuthetha nomyeni wakhe, zeziphi izihloko?

Kukho umzekeliso omdala waseRussia: indoda nomfazi nguSathana. Kwaye, ukuba sibheke abantu abonwabileyo emtshatweni, siyaqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba "imilenze ikhula" kule mzekeliso. Abantu ababini abatshatile ixesha elide, baqala ukuqondana ngomlomo wesiqingatha, kwaye kaninzi bengenawo amagama. Iinjongo zezenzo zabo, imikhwa, indlela yokuziphatha - yonke into iyafana.

Kodwa yintoni ekhokelela kulo mzobo ongaphandle? Kwaye kutheni abafazi abaninzi beqhubeka bebuza: "Yintoni enokuthetha ngayo nomyeni wakho, zeziphi izihloko?"

Ingxoxo iyimfuneko yimuphi na umntu, imfuneko yemihla ngemihla. Akunandaba nokuba imlomo, ibhaliwe okanye enye; kodwa abantu abangenalo nxibelelwano baqala ukuva iimvakalelo ezimbi, bazive bengonwabi okanye balahlekelwe ingqondo yabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umfazi onganxibelelani nendoda yakhe unokuziva engeyomfuneko okanye ushiywe.

Ungakulibali ukuba ubudlelwane - kukuchitha ixesha, imihla ngemihla, nokuba kwangoko, ngomsebenzi wamzuzu ngamnye. Kwaye ukuba ngaba babini babhalisile ubudlelwane babo, baye bafumana ukuzinza kwabo, oku akuthethi ukuba umsebenzi uphelelwe. Ngokuchasene noko, izinto ezithandekayo zizayo. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba emva kwexesha elide lothando aluzange lushiye ulwalamano, kubalulekile ukuba nethemba, inzala, ukuziphatha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unako ukuva ukuba phakathi kwabantu abaye bahlala ndawonye ixesha elide, akukho ukutshintsha kwemizwa, ukuvuya, ukuthetha nje, kukhanya. Kunokwenzeka ukuba oku kubangelwa ukuba baxhamle emsebenzini ukuba babe nokholo lokuba bahlale bekholelwa "ngezinto ezincinci" eziye zanikela intsebenziswano yazo.

Kungenzeka ukuba, ngokwemyeni wakhe, ukuthanda u-romanticism kubulawe emsebenzini ngenxa yenhlalakahle yentsapho yakhe. Kwaye akusilo mthetho. Nangona kunjalo, kukho into yokucinga ngayo. Ukuba kubonakala kuwe ukuba le nto imalunga nani, ke yile ingcebiso efanelekileyo - kufuneka uvuselele oko kwenzekayo ngexesha elidlulileyo, kwaye ngokukodwa, xa uchitha ixesha kunye kwaye ujabule. Kukulungele nawuphi na ixesha lokuzonwabisa ngebhayisikili epakini ngaphambi kokuya kumdlalo webhola. Yenza oku, nguwe kuphela nomyeni wakho. Ulibale le mini malunga nomsebenzi, inzala, ugogo ugula; malunga nazo zonke izinto eziqhelekileyo. Ungalindeli ukuphuculwa okukhanyayo, qhelana. Emva koko unokwazisa umntu wakho malunga nendlela othanda ngayo kwaye uvuyo emva kweentsuku ezichithwe njengaye. Khetha amagama akho, kodwa musa ukuthobeka, wenze ukuba abe nemihlali.

Ukuthetha ngaphambi kokwenza uthando yindlela enye yokuvuselela iimvakalelo. Oku, yinyani, umcimbi wentleko, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuba uzame. Unokuxoxa ngeminqweno yakho neemvakalelo ngexesha - oku kuya kubangela ukuqonda okufanayo kunye nokwaneliseka. Into ephambili kukunyaniseka kwaye ivule kakhulu, mhlawumbi unokufunda into entsha okanye ukunyuka kwelinye izinga.

Zama ukuthetha kuphela, kodwa ukuphulaphula. Ngaphandle koko, khumbula oko wakuva. Wonke umntu uyavuya ukuba aziphulaphule. Ngoko awukwazi nje ukubonisa ukuba umntu ubalulekile kwaye uyamdinga; Ufumanisa ukuba unomdla kwizinto eziphambili kwizinto zakhe zokuzilibazisa. Thatha ngokukhuselekileyo kwizandla uze unqobe ngokuphindaphindiweyo umyeni wakho, ummangalise ngezinga lolwazi lwakho kunye nokwazisa kwiimeko eziza kutshatyalaliswa kwimiba yeminqweno yakhe. Xa ufunda ukuphulaphula, uya kufunda kwakhona, mhlawumbi kwiimpawu eziphosakeleyo, ezingekho kwimibandela ethile yobomi bentsapho yakho, kwaye ngoko unako ukuhlawulela iimeko ezingalunganga.

Cinga kwakhona malunga nendlela ophila ngayo. Yongeza iimbasa kunye neziganeko ezingalindelekanga kwihlabathi lemihla ngemihla. Ukucebisa usuku lwakho ngeempressions kwaye uya kukwazi ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza. Yenza ubuchule, uvakalelo lwakho luya kuphucula, kwaye amehlo akho aya kugubha. Akufanele ubize iofisi yomyeni wakho ngokuphindwe kabini ngosuku ukuze umxelele iindaba ezizayo, kungcono ukuyigcina ngokuhlwa - ngoko uya kuba nexesha lokukhwabanisa kwaye uya kujonga phambili ukudibana nawe. Ukuthetha ngobomi bemihla ngemihla kunye nokuphila kwansuku zonke, unokuphefumlelwa ngcamango elandelayo: zama ukulungelelanisa imicimbi yakho yasemakhaya ngendlela ongaziveki ukuba ufuna ukuxoxa ngayo (okanye ukucacisa ubuhlobo) kwixesha elimnandi lemihla ngemihla. Ngoko ke, i-daishasher okanye i-akhawunti ebhankini, apho zonke iindleko zenyanga zesevisi zibhalwa, zilahla isidingo sokuchitha ixesha kunye nemizamo ekufumaneni ukuba ubani omele ahlambe izitya okanye ajongane neebhili.

Musa ukubuza "ufuna ukuthetha ngani nomyeni wakho?"; ukhumbule ukuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo bubuhlobo bokwenene, obusondeleyo, xa bobabini banikwa kwaye bathathwa ngokungenabugovu. Zama ukugcina ukufudumala okunjalo kwindawo yakho, kwaye kuya kuba soloko kukho inamba enkulu yezihloko zokuxubusha!