Yiba nguwe.
Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu woqhelwano lokuqala nabazali besiqingatha sakho kukuba uyimvelo kwaye ungazami ukubonakala ngathi ungubani ngokwenene. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umnqweno wokuzibonakalisa ovela kwicala elilungileyo kwaye wenze imbonakalo emihle yendalo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ungadluli. Musa ukubhala amabali ngawe, naluphi na ubuxoki obuya kugqitywa.
Ingqiqo ingumntu ozama ukulungelelanisa nokulindela kwabazali, ingakumbi ukuba kuhambelana ngokupheleleyo neengcamango zabo malunga nomhlobo ofanelekileyo kumntwana wabo. Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuba ube nolwalamano nomntu wakho othandekayo, kwaye ubudlelwane nabazali bakho kufuneka ukuba bungekho buhlobo, ubuncinane nje ngokuhlonipha kwaye.
Ungazami ukuba ilungu losapho lwawo ukusuka emnyango, uxoxe ngokukhawuleza, uphendule ngokuqinisekileyo le mibuzo uze ungazami ukufihla intloni emva kokungabi nantoni.
Hayi ngezandla ezingenanto.
Ewe, ukuba ufika okokuqala ngedini elincinci, kodwa elihle. Musa ukuthenga izinto ezixabisekileyo okanye izinto zobusondelelo: imihlobiso, iimpahla, iziqholo. Yilungileyo elilungileyo ukunikela iindidi zeentyantyambo kumama wakho okhethiweyo uze ulethe iwayini okanye into yokuyifaka. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwanele.
Ngoko ubonisa isimo sengqondo sakho sokuhlonela abantu abaye batyelela.
Kubonakala.
Sonke siyazi ukuba badibana nabantu kwiingubo. Ukuqhelana nabazali bomntu othandekayo yimeko ehlukileyo. Mhlawumbi sele beva okuthile malunga nawe emlonyeni wengane yabo, babuze imibuzo, mhlawumbi babone imifanekiso. Ngako oko, musa ukuphosa uthuli emehlweni enkqantosi ebonakalayo, oku akunjalo xa ufuna ukubonisa sonke isidima somfanekiso wakho.
Ugqoke ngokukhawuleza kwaye unomdla. Makube ezi zinto ziqhelekileyo ezikulandela. Akukho nto imemeza kwaye ihlambulukile, akukho nto emangalisa ngayo. Musa ukwenza ukwakheka okugqamile okanye ubunwele obunzima. Ingokwemvelo iya kuba yinto, ngcono ukucinga kwakho.
NoNxibelelwano.
Injongo yezo zimemo zihlala zifana-ukuze ukwazi kakuhle kwaye ubeke uluvo malunga nokuba ufanelekile ukuba usondele kumntwana ozithandayo. Ngako oko, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane. Mamela ngenyameko oko utshelweyo, ungagqithisi kwiindlebe, ezinye iinkcukacha ezixabisekileyo okanye eziqhenyayo ngemikhosi yamanhla. Phendula imibuzo uze ubuze. Ngokuqinisekileyo ube nomdla kuyo yonke into oyitsheliweyo.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ungadluli umgca. Musa ukubuza imibuzo eyimfihlo okanye imibuzo enokukhubekisa, ukuphazamisa okanye ukulimaza nabani na. Ungabakhubekisi abantu abangaba ziintsapho zakho.
Ukuthetha ngawe, ugweme ukuziqhayisa. Musa ukugxininisa kwimpumelelo yakho kunye nempumelelo, ungathethi ngawe, kodwa malunga nawe-malunga nokuba umntu uthetha ntoni kuwe, kubazali bakhe owatyelela kuyo.
Ubunzima obunokwenzeka.
Akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwiimeko ezimbi. Kungenzeka ukuba awuthandi abazali bomntu othandekayo. Kwimeko apho, ungangeni kumbambano, ungazami ukuba utshintshise umbono wabo - mhlawumbi, uya kuba nzima kakhulu. Banike ixesha lokuba batyekele kwingcamango yokuba ubomi bomntwana wabo kwaye oku akutshintshi. Banike ithuba lokuqinisekisa ukuba uluthanda ngokwenene, ukuba ufuna umntwana wabo ulungile kwaye ufanelekile. Ukuba ulwalamano aluphuculanga nangemva kwithuba elithile, qhubeka unesidima kwiintsapho zomntu omthandayo. Musa ukuphikisana, kodwa ukuba iingxabano zingenakugwema, vele ugweme ukudibanisa.
Iintsapho eziqhelekileyo ezizayo azikho nje ngabantu abanoyikrakra njengoko sicinga. Baxhalabele ngomntwana wabo, kodwa abafuni ububi. Ngoko ungakhathazeki ngaphambi kwexesha. Inokwenzeka ukuba, ulwalamano lwakho luya kuba, kuba kuninzi kuxhomekeke kuwe.