Umfazi ngamnye, eba ngumama, ufumana uxanduva olongezelelweyo, kungekhona kuphela ekhaya, kodwa nokunyamekela umntwana. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi akukho nto enokuyenza, ngokuba kuninzi kuye: ukucoca indlu, ukupheka, ukunakekela umntwana, ukuhamba naye, ukunyamekela okufunekayo. Usuku lomama omncinci luqhutyelwa kwiinkxalabo kunye nokukhawuleza, akukho phantse ixesha, kunye nexesha lokulala. Ngenye imini ufana nomnye. Yaye indlela yokugcina yonke le migaqo, kwaye uqhubeka uvuyela ukubonakala komntwana kwintsapho?
Indlela yokuphuma, eqinisweni, ilula - musa ukwenza into ongenayo ixesha. Ukusabalalisa izinto eziphambili, yenza isicwangciso semini okanye ezimbini, emva kweveki uze uzame ukuphanda. Ewe, ukuba awunasetyenziselwa ukucwangcisa, kuya kuba nzima ekuqaleni, kwaye ke uza kubandakanyeka kwisigqi esinjalo kwaye ukwazi ukwenza konke okucetywayo.
Khumbula ukuba injongo yakho ephambili kukunyamekela umntwana, malunga nempilo yakhe kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo. I-Auge isendaweni yesibini - ukupheka intsapho, ukugcina indlu ngendlela epheleleyo, kunye nokuzigcina ngokwabo. Kukho nawuphi na, musa ukulibala ngawe, malunga nokuphumla kwakho. Emva koko, ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukunyamekela ukugculela kwakho, ngubani na oya kukwenzela yona?
Uninzi lwawo luhamba njengama-squirrels kwivili, abafumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo ebusuku ngenxa yentsana engabonakaliyo kunye nokutya okuqhubekayo, kwaye emva kwemini, endaweni yokulala kunye kunye nokumncwina ukulala komhla, bathambe ukuhlambulula ngeli xesha. Kutheni ufuna ukucocwa okunjalo, ukuba uphelile kwaye unjengomntu olala naye? Kungcono ukunika ixesha lokuphumla kwakho, kwaye ukuba unina usekufuphi, umntwana uya kulala ixesha elide.
Into ephambili ngokuphathelele umntwana
Ewe, into yokuqala umama uyayikhathalela kukuba umntwana akalambile, uphilile, ucocekile, uyonwabile kwaye ujabule. Ukutya umntwana, ngokukodwa kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi, kudla rhoqo, akukho ndlela yokwenza ngaphandle komama. Ukutshintsha i-diaper, uhambe nomntwana, uthenge kwaye unike ixesha lokuzonwabisa - oku, kaninzi, umsebenzi womama. Kodwa oku kunokwenziwa ngabani na osapho kwintsapho. Kwaye uza kuba nexesha elifutshane.
Ukuba uphuma kunye nosana ekhaya, unokwenza konke kunye naye, ngakumbi xa ekhula kancane. Ngoku kuthengiswa kukho izithako ezikhethekileyo, apho ungambeka khona umntwana, ngelixa izandla zakho ziza kukhululeka, kwaye unokwenza enye into. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kufuna ixesha lokuwusebenzisa, kodwa yindlela enhle yabamama abafuna ukwenza yonke into.
Yenza konke ngocwangciso - ukucoca kwindlu okanye indlu ngenye imini, ukuhlamba nokutshiza enye, ukupheka kwe-adla kuvumela ixesha elincinci leentsuku ngalunye. Njengendlela ehlukileyo, unokulungiselela ukutya ezimbini okanye iintsuku ezintathu kusengaphambili, uze uphinde uzibuyisele kwakhona. Musa ukulibala ukuba ininzi yexesha iya kuhamba ngokufanayo kunye nosana kwaye uyamnyamekela.
Ukuphuma emsebenzini okanye ukusebenza ekhaya?
Kufika umzuzwana xa ibhinqa ligqiba ukuba ixesha liya emsebenzini. Iyakwazi ukudibanisa ngezizathu ezininzi: ukungabikho kakuhle kwezemali zentsapho, ukungafuni ukuyeka umsebenzi, okanye ngenxa yokuba i-routine ayisayi kukuvumela ukuba uphile kwaye uphefumle ngokuqhelekileyo. Kule meko, umama ubuyela eofisini, kwaye ezinye zeembopheleleko zakhe zinokuthathwa zizihlobo (umyeni, nootatomkhulu).
Njengendlela yokukhetha, unokumema umntanakho kumntwana, kwaye ugcine imisebenzi yendlu. Okanye unako ukuqesha umfazi oya kuhamba epulazini aze abukele umntwana ngokufanayo. Ukuba olu khetho aluhambisani nawe, unako ukumnika umntwana kwi-nursery yosuku okanye kwintsimi yabantwana (kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yakhe). Ukuba unabantwana abahlala kude, musa ukulahla kunye nokuncediswa kwabo, kuya kubakholisa kubo kunye neeyure ezimbalwa zamahhala kuwe.
Ukuba uziva ukhululekile ekhaya kunye nosana, kodwa unayo imali eyaneleyo okanye uphuhliso lwakho, unokusebenza ekhaya. Intsikelelo ikhona kwi-intanethi kwaye le ngxaki iyayisombulula ngokulula. Abasetyhini abaninzi, behleli kwisimiselo, baba ngabanikeli bee-freelancers kunye nexesha, bafumane kakuhle. Ukongeza, bathetha nabanye abantu, bahlala behambisa ulwazi olutsha kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo, bazama ukufunda, bafunda ukucwangcisa ixesha labo, bafumana intlawulo yeemvakalelo ezintle kwaye bayaziqonda ngokwabo.
Yintoni engcono kunokuba kudibene nentsapho kunye nomsebenzi ovuyisa ngokwenene umfazi?
Indlela yokuhlala ikhangelekile kwaye ihlambulukile?
Kubalulekile ukuba umfazi, ehleli ekhaya nomntwana, akakalibali ukuba uyindoda. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima kakhulu, ingakumbi kwixesha lokuqala emva kokubeleka, ukuzenzela ngomzuzu. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba wenze oku ukususela ekuqaleni, kuba ngokuzibhokoxa, ngoko kunzima kakhulu ukuma. Zinike ubuncinane imizuzu engama-15-20 ngosuku, ngoko unako ukwandisa eli xesha.
Uyavuma ukuba utshatile okanye nomntu ovela kwizihlobo ukuba baya kukunceda. Umzekelo, xa umyeni ebuya emsebenzini, unokunikela ixesha elithile kwintsana, kwaye kufuneka uthabise isanti ephumayo, uhlale phantsi okanye usebenzise umquba. Unokuchitha le mizuzu kuphela kuwe, zizise ngokwakho.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba unethuba lokubalekela ekhaya lakho ubuncinane kanye okanye kabini ngeveki, uye kwi-hairdresser okanye i-beautician, zithenge iingubo ezintsha okanye i-sweatshirt, uye kwi-movie okanye umboniso, ngokuqhelekileyo, uziphathe kwaye uphumule umphefumlo wakho. Into ephambili indoda yakho eyiqonda ngayo kwaye ikuxhase kule nto, kuphela ke uya kuba nakho ukwenza oko. Yena, ngokwenene, uya kuvuyela ukuba umfazi wakhe unika ingqwalasela ekubonakaleni kwakhe, umlinganiselo kunye nomoya wengqondo kwaye uzama ukujonga ngathi uyona nto!
Abanye abafazi banamava athile emva kokubeleka, kwakunye neengxaki zengqondo ezichaphazelekayo kunye neenguqu emzimbeni wazo. Omnye unciphisa iingalo kwaye akenzi nto, abanye bacinezela ngokuzivocavoca ukuza kwifom efanelekileyo. Musa ukugqithisa, zama ukuchitha ixesha elithile lokuzivocavoca, kwiinyanga ezimbalwa uza kubuyela kwifom yakho.