Ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva ama-grandmother kwiibhentshi zikhalaza: "Kwenzeka ntoni ngoku kwixesha - ukuba ujwayelene naye akakade ube nexesha, kwaye sele sele elala." Eli binzana lihleka kakhulu, kodwa alinakuqonda, kwixesha lethu lesini ngosuku lokuqala luyinto eqhelekileyo, abanye abantu abazange bacinge ngcamango.
Nangona kunjalo, ndifuna ukuqonda ukuba ngaba ukukhawuleza okunjalo kuhambelana nobudlelwane? Ngokutsho kweengcali, kwezo zihlobo ezisekelwe enzondelelweni, kuphela i-12% enethuba lokudala intsapho eqinile. Ukukhwabanisa okungenamkhawulo wesondo okwavela ekuqaleni kwebudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ekugqibeleni kuyaphela, kubonise ukungabikho kwezihloko eziqhelekileyo kwingxoxo, kwaye ubudlelwane buya kuphela. Abaninzi abaninzi abafazi abanqweneli ukuzinikela kwizinto eziphathekayo eziphathekayo kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano.
Ngoko ke, sabhala ezinye zeengcebiso eziya kwenza ukuba intombazana ihlehlise isondo esatasalele kunye nesoka lakhe elitsha.
- Kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano, akuyimfuneko ukudibana nendoda yedwa ekhaya okanye ekhaya, ngokukhawuleza ebusuku.
- Kungcono ukucwangcisa iintlanganiso ngemini. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba ulala ndawonye phambi komlilo, uya kugubungela ingubo enye, ibhotile ye-champagne iya kuma kufuphi, kwaye umlindo uza kuba phakathi kwebusuku - loo mntu uya kuqiniseka ngokupheleleyo ukuba lo ngumqondiso kwisenzo.
- Zama ukudibana kwiindawo zoluntu. Buza le ndoda ukuba ifike kuwe, kwaye uhambe naye kuyo nayiphi na iziko.
- Iibherezi zinobuqhetseba kwaye zinobugcisa. Nangona kunjalo, kungcono ukuba uphume endlwini, kuba akunakwenzeka ukuhlala ixesha elide kwisitrato, kwaye ngakumbi kuya kukhula ibe yinto engaphezulu. Ungamvumeli umntu ukuba athathwe xa uwedwa, uhlale ekhunjini elikhululekile, ulala phantsi, kwaye igumbi lokulala likufuphi.
- Amadoda angalungisa imeko ngendlela elandelayo emva kokuba iintlanganiso zokuqala ziqhutywe kunye nawe uza kubuya ekhaya ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba kubonakala ngathi ufuna "ukuthatha indebe yeeyi," kwaye awukakulungeli oko, qinisekisa ukuthetha naye kumnyango. Kwimeko yesakhiwo sezindlu, kungcono ukuthetha i-lobby to lobby, emva kokuthetha into enjengokuthi "Siyabonga, ndithandwa." Kwakuhlwa. " Ekufikeni kwexesha ekhaya akuxeleli loo ndoda: "Kulungile, unokuza kum, kungekudala." Nasiphi na isimemo ekhaya langokuhlwa ngomzuzu, unokuphela kuphela kusasa.
- Ukuhleka ngeentlanzi zakhe, kumomotheka, ube ngumhlobo wakhe omhle. Injongo yakho kukuba, waba ngumhlobo womntu, kodwa inkosikazi engavamile. Xa umfana eqala ukuthetha ngaye, oku kukuphawu lokuqala ukuba wenza konke okulungileyo. Indoda iya kuvula kuphela phambi komfazi omthandayo. Ukudlala ngesibindi, kodwa ngokulinganayo. Yilumke ngeentlanzi ezinjengezesondo, njengoko zidla ngokuba ngamahlaya aqhelekileyo. Amadoda ahlala asebenzisa amahlaya ukuze ahlole "umhlaba phantsi kweenyawo zawo". Musa ukuzibandezela, ngaphezu kwehlaya elihle akusona isono sokuhleka. Nangona kunjalo, ngezihloko zesini, ixesha elide ukuba lilibale, indoda ingakubheka ukuziphatha kwakho njengento "yokukhanya okuluhlaza".
- Akuyimfuneko ukuwela umda wento evumelekileyo kunye nomatshini. Ungamvumeli ukuba angabonakali okanye, nangaphantsi, uthathe iingubo zakho, uya kuba nzima ukuyeka izenzo zakhe. Nawuphi na umfana onomtsha we-BMW uya kuvuyiswa "ukudlala" kunye nezihlalo ze-vamina zangaphambili. Ngokubanzi, ngenxa yoko bathenga loo matshini.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo zithi indoda iyancoma. Qhubeka uqonde kuye oko kuthetha ntoni kuwe, ukuba ufuna. Umzekelo, kuya kuba mnandi kumntu, xa, ngokungathi ngengozi, uya kuphefumula iphunga elimnandi lokuzibhenela kwakhe. Unokuthi namhlanje libukeka lukhulu. U-Etimvy uyamxelela ngokucacileyo ukuba isimo sakho sengqondo sokulinda asihlangani nxamnye nokungafuni kwakhe njengendoda.
- Unokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho kuluntu. Oku kukhuselekile, kuba akukho nto ingenzekayo kule meko.
- Ungaziphoqeleli kwixesha elithile. Akuyimfuneko ukutsho ukuba kufuneka ulinde inyanga. Musa ukubiza imihla eyiyo - ayiyinto engenamsebenzi. Lo mzuzwana nje kufanele kwenzeke kuphela xa uzifumana uzilungele yona, kungekhona usuku ngaphambili.
- Ngezenzo zakho, bonisa ukuba umntu akanandaba nawe, ukuba uyamthanda. Beka intloko yakho ehlombe lakhe okanye uthathe isandla sakhe, ngoko uya kuziva ngathi uyindoda. Unokuyichukumisa idolo lakhe ngaphakathi, kodwa ungadlala - nje idolo! Akukho sithuba siya kwenzeka ukuba sikhuphuke phezulu, umntu unokujonga le nyathelo "njengesimemo".
- Musa ukukholelwa ibinzana lomntu: "Sonke siyakwazi ukukopela." Nangona wayesoloko ebonakala phambi kwakho kuphela kwicala elifanelekileyo kakhulu, kwiimeko ezinjalo, i-hormone yamadoda ingakhetha ngaphandle, kwaye iya phambili kunokuba ungathanda.
- Musa ukumnika umntu umqondiso omhle. Umntu uhlelwe ngokwahlukileyo kunowesifazana, kwaye unokubakho njengokuba wakho, ekuboneni kuqala, wenza isenzo esingenasici ngendlela ehluke ngokupheleleyo. Njengoko umfazi angathumela uphawu olungenangqondo, ndiya kukubonisa umzekelo. Umemele umfana kwindlu yakho emva kokuvula imvula, umphephe itiye elitshisayo, ehlanganiswe ngengubo, kwaye ubeka phezu kwakho okuthandayo, ama-pajamas afudumele kunye nococeko. Amantombazana amaninzi aya kucinga: "Yithini na loo nto?" I-Pajamas yinto ekhuselekileyo, ukuze umfana abe nolwazisa ngakumbi njengesimemo sokusondelana. Nangona kunjalo, oku akunjalo ngokupheleleyo! Izambatho ezenzelwe ukulala emehlweni omntu zibukeka zingabonakali. Kwaye akunakunceda nantoni na ukuba le yintlambo ye-flannel, i-pajamas okanye nokuba iya kuba yincinci yebhokisi-mfutshane - indoda iya kuthathwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba izenzo zakho zibe "ukukhanya okuluhlaza".
Ekugqibeleni ndifuna ukuthetha, nangona ukuba bonke abantu banyanzelisa ngokunyanisekileyo amantombazana ngomhla wokuqala wokulala ngesondo, ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwindawo ethile engqondweni yabo bafuna ukuba wenze ukulinda okufutshane. Bafuna ukukholelwa ukuba "ukhethekileyo." Ngamnye wabo ufuna ukuba ube ngowona mnandi, obalaseleyo kwaye obalaseleyo kubo bonke. Ufuna ukuba umcinge ngaphandle kwesiqhelo kwaye uhlekise amahlaya akhe. Indoda ifuna ukubona kunye noothixokazi osondeleyo. Bavumele bakufune, bakulandele kwaye bangazivumeli ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Kwaye ngoko ke uya kuba "Mfazi Olungileyo" kuba nguye onokukhathalela!