Njengomthetho, amadoda anjalo-abantu abanembopheleleko, "intsapho", "umsebenzi wobawo", "uthando lwabantwana" - ngenxa yabo akusiyo ibinzana elingenanto. Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba bashiywe bodwa kunye nabantwana babo? Umfazi okanye wafa, okanye ushiywe, okanye wayekuzo indawo zokungabikho zikhululekile - izizathu eziqhelekileyo. Kwaye kule nkqubo enzima kubo ngamagxa amadoda anamandla yimiba yokukhulisa abantwana ngootata-abodwa.
Iingcali zengqondo zincoma kula madoda ambalwa imithetho eya kubanceda ukuba batshintshe ilahleko ngokulula kwaye basondele kumntwana wabo kwaye ke bagweme iingxaki zokukhulisa abantwana ngootata-baqeshwe baze baphume kwiimeko ezinzima.
Kubalulekile ukutshintsha umbono weemeko ezenzekile, ezingenakulungiswa. Simele siyamkele oku kungenakugwema kwaye sizame ukuphumla, nangona kunzima kangakanani. Ukususela kwinto yokuba indoda isondele, yonke into iya kuba yingozi kakhulu, kwaye ingakumbi "iya kutshisa" okanye iphule, kwaye kuya kuba ngcono kumntu.
Umntwana ngumntu osondelene nabantu abanjalo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, sifanele sichithe ixesha elininzi kunye naye, mthabathe ezandleni zakhe, umongikazi, uphulaphule amabali akhe okwenzekile emini, umlinde afunde entsha kwaye akhule. Simele sizame ukungaqondi into eyenzekayo njengomsebenzi onzima, ukukhuliswa kwabantwana ngoobawo bodwa, ngoku kuya kuba yinxalenye yobomi babo.
Umntwana kufuneka anikwe amandla amaninzi kunye nengqwalasela, kodwa oku akudingi imizamo engaphezu kwemvelo - njengokuba umntu anganika. Musa ukuzama ukuba "ngumntu ongcono". Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba "into enhle yintshaba yezinto ezilungileyo", njengoko kuvela - ngoko kulungile.
Inyaniso yokuba abafazi ngabazali abalungileyo, ootitshala kunye nabasetyhini bayisimo sengqondo. Bona, nabo, baya kuphila, bengenako ukwenza nantoni na, kodwa ngokukhawuleza bahlakulele amava okuphila. Ngoko umntu unalo lonke ithuba lokuba ngumzali obalaseleyo, ukuba unembopheleleko, kwaye akayikwesaba kakhulu ingxaki yokukhulisa abantwana ngokwabo. Apho abafazi abanomntwana bathambile, indoda iya kuba yinyanzelo - musa ukugoba intonga, kuba umntwana kunye noxinzelelo oluninzi kangangokuthi washiywa ngaphandle komama, ubomi bakhe abuyi kubuthanda.
Nantoni na into ongayithetha, umntwana ekugqibeleni unombuzo othi: "Uphi umama wethu?" Ndingathini kulo? Ukuba iingxaki zokukhulisa abantwana zingasombululwa, ke njani ukuphendula lo mbuzo? Okokuqala: yonke intukuthelo yowesifazane oshiye kufuneka igcinwe ngaphakathi. Umntwana akayidingi inkathazo eyongezelelweyo yengqondo. "Akukho Mama" - ngoko kungcono ukuba ungathethi. Kungcono ukuthi "Umama ushiye" okanye "Umama ufe" (ukuba umntwana usemncinane). Ngomntwana okhulile, unokubona i-albhamu yezithombe apho ekhona-ngoko kuya kuba ngcono, ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuwo wonke umntu. Kwi-kindergarten, ngokufanayo, abanye abantwana baya kubuza lo mbuzo, kungcono ukuba umntwana ufumana ulwazi oluvela kubaba kunabanye abantwana.
Umntwana usenokwesaba - "ukuba uMama uhambe, ngoko uTata angashiya?" Simele sifungele zonke izifungo oza kuhlala uhlala nazo nomntwana ukuze abe nokuzola.
Into ebalulekileyo kuyo yonke indoda enye: "Ukutshata okanye akunjalo?". Kuzo kubo ukugqiba. Kodwa phakathi kwabo abakhethiweyo kunye nendoda kufuneka bamise ubudlelwane bokwenene. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana uya kuhlala engasebenzi. Ukuba umntu akahambelani kakuhle kunye nobomi, kungcono ukuqesha umgcini wendlu okanye umntanakho kumntwana, kodwa ukuthetha nayo yonke inxaxheba. Emva kwakho konke, kuya kuba ngumntu oza kuchitha ixesha kunye nomntwana, oko kuthetha ukuba umele amthembele kuphela.
Ukuba uyise uvelisa intombi yakhe, kwenzeka, uyakoyika ukuba uya kukhula kakuhle. Kodwa yindlela eyayiyiyo - abantwana abakhuliswa kwintsapho nomzali omnye bahluke kubantwana abakhuliswa kwintsapho epheleleyo. Intombazana iya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukwakha ubomi bakhe buqu ngenxa yokuba uya kukhangela umntu ofana noyise, kodwa amadoda anjalo awananto. Kodwa uhlala ekwazi ukumbamba isikhonkwane okanye ukutshintsha i-bulb, kwaye oku kudibanisa okukhulu. Okanye uya kuba nolwazi kakuhle kwiimoto.
Nangona ugogo okanye esinye isihlobo asinakuncedisa ukukhuliswa, intombazana iya kuba neentombi ebomini bayo eya kuba ngumzekelo kuye. Xa ekhula, kunyanzelekile ukunika uncwadi olukhethekileyo kwizinto zesini, ezivunyiwe ootitshala kunye neengqondo zeengqondo.
Ngokugqithisileyo, ubaba ongatshatanga ebomini ulula ngakumbi kunomama ongatshatanga. Ekubeni i-"ntata engatshatanga" engazange ibe yinto eqhelekileyo, abamelwane okanye abantu kwibala lokudlala, kunye nabamelwane abahlala behlala behlala behlala behlala behlala bevuya xa behlala nomntwana, baya kukhulula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye kuya kubakho ukulungisa ixesha elithile iingxaki zokukhulisa abantwana ngokwabo.
Ukuba umntu unelungelo lokufumana iinzuzo kwilizwe, umntu akafanele awenqabe. Iintlawulo ezongezelelweyo okanye ikhefu zingasindisa ixesha, elalifuneka ukuba lizinikele ekuzuzeni kwabo.
Simele sizame ukufunda indlela yokudibanisa ubomi bethu nobomi bomntwana. Akuyimfuneko ukunikela yonke ixesha lakhe lokukhulula kuye, kungcono ukuzama ukumthabatha kuye kwezinye iimeko. Ngenxa yokuba ubomi bubunye, kufuneka uphile kubantwana nakuwe. Ngoku uyazi iingxaki zokukhulisa abantwana ngootata abangabodwa kwaye unokunceda umhlobo wakho, onokufumana imeko efanayo.