Nguwuphi na ongenalo intombi eqala intando entsha, ayikhohlwa malunga nomntu ojikeleze, ehlaziywe ngokupheleleyo kunye nolwalamane lwakhe olulandelayo. Emva koko, emva kwexesha, ngokukhawuleza uyakhumbula inombolo yakho yefowuni, kwaye ngemini emva kweeyure iyakubetha intloko yakho ngolwazi malunga noko wayenene, ukuzingca kunye nokunyaniseka, ukuba wayichitha njani kwaye ayizange iphendule njengoko ifunekayo oku. Wena, njengomhlobo onyanisekileyo, phu laphula konke oku, ungamkhumbuzi ukuba akazange akhumbule kakhulu malunga nobukho bakho ngexesha elidlulileyo. Emva kwakho konke, uyaqonda yonke into, amadoda eze, kwaye ubuhlobo babesifazane kunye nobumbano bubaluleke kakhulu kwaye buhlala njalo.
Ukuba uqwalasela konke oku ngasentla, uqala ukuzibuza ukuba kungani le nto iphindaphindiweyo kungekhona kuphela kubahlobo bethu, kodwa kunye nathi. Kwaye kutheni singatshintshi nantoni ebudlelwaneni bethu, kuba kukho izizathu ezininzi zezikhalazo? Mhlawumbi isizathu sokuba sithande nje ukuba ngamanye amaxesha siyazisola. Kutheni sizithanda kakhulu? Nendlela yokulahla le mkhuba embi?
1. Oku kusenza sizive ngathi intombazana
Abaninzi, ekubeni ngabantwana, basebenzisa le ndlela. Ukukhwabanisa okufutshane, ngokubuyisela ukufumana inkxaso nenkxaso. Ukukhula, ngamanye amaxesha sifuna yonke into ibe njengaphambili, ukuze ukwazi ukwenza i-melancholy grimace, uguqe ngamama wakho onomthandayo, oya kuzisola aze enze njalo. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukuba sicinge ukuba iminqweno neminqweno ayinakuqhathaniswa nemiphumo emihle yobudlelwane. Ukuba ekuqaleni iqabane lakho kwaye uyavuma ukubona kuwe intombazana encinci, edla ngezinye izihlandlo, ekugqibeleni uya kufuna ukuba ukhule.
2. Oku kusinika ithuba lokuhlupheka, ngaphandle kokwenza nantoni na
Asiyi kuthi le nkcazo ibonisa ukucinga kakuhle kwezinto zangaphandle. Wonke umntu ebomini unemeko apho afuna ukuziva ebuthathaka, ekwazi ukuba kukho umntu osondeleyo oza kunceda. Kodwa ukuba uvakalelo luba njalo, akukho nto enokuyenza. Iimvakalelo ezinjalo aziyi kukunceda ukujamelana neemeko eziyinkimbinkimbi, ziyingozi nje. Kukho konke oku ngasentla, kukho isigqibo esisodwa sokuthi uvelwano lunelungelo lokuba khona, ukuba luyakhumbula, kwaye alushiyi nemiphumo engeyomfuneko emva kwayo.
3. Oku kukuvumela ukuba uthathe uxanduva
Emva koko, kukulula kangakanani ukubeka ityala elimhlophe kwiingxaki zakho, kwaye ungaboni iziphoso zakho.
4. Esi sihlandlo esihle kakhulu sokufumana inkxaso evela kubahlobo
Wonke umntu ukhetha indlela yakhe yokufumana inkxaso yemoya evela kwabanye, umntu uthanda ukufumana indumiso ngenxa yeempumelelo zakhe, uthanda ukusixolela.
Unokuyinqumla njani le, kungeyona ndlela efanelekileyo?
1. Yiba ngumhlobo
Phantse kumaphephancwadi onke amabhinqa unokufumana inqaku ngesihloko esithi "thanda wena", apho kukho ezininzi, kodwa akukho ziphakamiso ezicacileyo nezicacileyo ukuba zenze ntoni. Ukuba ulungisa lo mbuzo kubaqeqeshi, baya kukucebisa ukuba bafumane izizathu ezibangela ukuba ube ngumntu ozimelayo, emva kokufumanisa ukuba, baya kukucebisa ukuba bajonge ngenyameko imeko kwaye baqonde ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani kuwe. Into ephambili kumzabalazo ngokwawo ukufunda ukufumanisa amathuba okufihla ukunqoba zonke iingxaki, kwiziphumo eziphambili ziza kunceda ukuzisa ubukho bomntu ongeke akwenzele, kwaye axhaswe kwaye akukhokele ngendlela efanelekileyo.
2. Isinyathelo esinqumayo sokuhamba phambili sisiphumo sokukhaba okulungileyo kwiesile
Nantsi into ephambili kukufumana "ilungelo", kwaye le nto ayilula. Kule meko, into ephambili kukuba ukwazi umlinganiselo, kuba uxinzelelo olunzulu, mhlawumbi, luya kuphucula imeko kunye nenkqubo yokuzibukela, iya kukhula ibe yimeko "yokungaphumeleli ngonaphakade". Nantsi ikhono eliphambili lomncedisi kukukwenza isinyathelo esinqumayo, udibanise ngokufanelekileyo uxinzelelo kunye nokukhuthazwa. Ngexesha, xa ungena kwisinambatho, funda indlela yokwenza ngaphandle kwenkxaso yangaphandle, kwaye uqale ukuzingca kwizenzo zokubhaptizwa.
3. Zithokoze ngenxa encinci
Elizweni lethu ngandlela-thile akuqhelekanga ukuba ufundise abantwana ukuba banakho izihlandlo zokudumisa ezibhekiswe kuwe. Ukukhula nokukhula, kaninzi asiyikunyamekela yethu impumelelo, nangona kungabalulekanga ngokukodwa kwizinga lobufundisi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufunda ukwahlula ngokwakho iqela elincinci lokuqwalasela imihla ngemihla, ubomi ngokukhawuleza kubonakala kukubhetele kwaye buvuyo ngakumbi.