Ngendlela ephantsi yokuzinyameka, unokwenza, umzekelo, unqabe ixesha eliphakanyisiweyo, ngaphandle kokuziva uqinisekile ukuba uya kuhlangabezana nayo. Ngenxa yokuzinyaniseka, ukhangeleka ngokukhawuleza, ukhathazekile malunga nokuphendula kwabanye, baya kuthini ukusabela kwizenzo zakho - baya kuvuma okanye bagwebe? Kwakhona, musa ukuqhubela phambili. Hayi, isitimela sishiya ngaphandle kwakho! Siqala kuphi ukulungisa imeko? Ewe, ukunamathela kule migaqo akulula. Ngubani ofuna ukuvuma ukungafezeki kwakhe, ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe, ukuthatha inyathelo, ukuthatha uxanduva ngokupheleleyo kwimiphumo yakhe? Kodwa ulwalamano "loqobo" luqala ngala manqaku alula. Ukuze uqale ukuzihlonela, kufuneka uzazi wena, akunjalo? Kwaye ukwandisa "iindleko" zeengqondo zengqondo zicebisa ngokuzithemba: ukuba uyabubuyisela kwisimo esiqhelekileyo, ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kuya kukhula ngokwabo.
Ukuhlonipha
Ukuzithemba kungenasimo. Esi sisiseko sokuqala: "Ndilungile kum". Akuxhomekeke kwimbono yesithandwa sakho ngokubonakala kwakho, izigwebo zikamama wakho, malunga nezihlunu ozilungiselele kunye nezizathu zomphathi wekhwalithi yomsebenzi wakho. Kwakhona, impumelelo yakho yangempela ayinayo indima: amandla okudlala kakuhle kwigarari, abantwana abathathu kunye nesimo somphathi ophezulu. Inxalenye eyisiseko yokuzithemba iyenziwa ebuntwaneni ngabazali kunye nefom egcwalisiweyo ithathwa ngokuphila kwabantu abadala. Abo, ababeka kuyo, baya kuzixabisa ngokwabo kwimvelaphi yezinto ezintle kakhulu zentlalo. Futhi ukuyeka imizamo embalwa yabanye ukuba bangazithembi. Icandelo elincinci lokuzithemba kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwimpumelelo yalo kwaye luhlobene ngokuthe ngqo nokuzithemba okanye abanye. Oko kukuthi, uyakwazi ukusekela injongo kunye nokufezekisa kwayo, nokuba yintoni enokuba nayo (ukukhusela ukukhutshwa okanye ukubethelwa ngokuphambeneyo kwezemizobo), kodwa ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kukwandisa kuphela ukuba kuyimpumelelo yomphakathi. Nangona kunjalo, a baninzi abantu abanenhlanhla ngeengcinga zabo zabazali, kunye neempawu zokuziphatha ezifanelekileyo. Ewe, masisebenze ekwakheni "ininzi-in-inhlonipho"!
Umsebenzi weNombolo 1
Zinike izichaso ezingenamsebenzi (ndingumama, ndingumqhubi, njl njl). Njengomthetho, okubalulekileyo kunqanaba langaphakathi yizikhundla zokuqala ezi-5-7. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ngowokuqala ubonise ukuba ungumama, kwaye kwishumi - "inkosikazi", oko kuthetha ukuba kwindlalifa unomva uzive uphindwe ngamaxesha angaphezu kwezihlandlo ezili-10 ngaphezu kwendima yenkosikazi. Mhlawumbi kulungele ukuphuhlisa oku (kunye nezinye "izinto ezingabanjwanga")?
Umsebenzi wenombolo 2
Nika iimpendulo ezi-20 kumbuzo othi, "Uhlobo luni?", Oko kukuthi, zihlolisise wena: "Ndiyinceba, inobungozi, ivila (inika), inomusa (ukonga) ..." Yiba nokunyaniseka kunokwenzeka (akukho mntu uya kulubona olu luhlu!) kwaye ufumane inkcazo yakho ecacileyo. Kwaye khawucinge ngeempawu ezinokuthi uzikhulule ngayo, kunye noko kukufanele usebenze. Ukuzibamba njengento ethi "Ndingumnandi kakhulu kwaye ndikhangele" ngokwenene! Ngokukodwa xa uthembeke ngokunyanisekileyo nabo. Igama liphathekayo! Iingcali zenzululwazi: Uqeqesho lwama-autogenic lunokuba luncedo nakwiimpawu ze-endocrine kunye ne-immune zomzimba, kwanokukhula kokuzithemba nokunye!
1 isigaba
■ Ndiyamkela iimpazamo zam, amava kunye nosizi-oku kuyingxenye yobomi bam.
■ Ndifunda ukuqonda ngokwaneleyo inkathazo: Ndibafumana ngokulinganayo njengoko bafanelwe.
■ Ndilondoloze amandla am namhlanje kwiintsuku eziqaqambileyo. Andifuni ukuyichitha kumava avela ngaphambili okanye ulindelo lweengxaki ezinokwenzeka.
Ndihlala kweli xesha kwaye ndikholelwa kwikamva lam.
■ Ndiyazi ukuba yonke into embi iya kutshintshela kulungile.
Ndiziva ndiyaneliseka ngokusinqoba iingxaki.
Ukuba ezininzi izitofu zihambelana nokuzibona kwakho okanye, ubuncinane, akubangeli ukuba ubhikibhise, ngoko uzama ukugcina isimo sengqondo esilungileyo kuwe, esinakwenzeka ngaphandle kothando nokuzihlonela. Ukufakela "kunzima" kufuneka "kugutywe" kwaye "kugutywe." Phinda ubhale yonke imihla, ngokukhethekileyo phambi kwesibuko, ngeveki (ezimbini, ezintathu, iinyanga ...) ade zijwayele intloko yakho njengeyakho. Futhi ungakulibala ukuthelekisa iingcinga zakho nezenzo zakho zemihla ngemihla, ulungelelanisa lokuqala ukuya kwesibini.
2 isigaba
■ Ndizikhuthaze nakwimpumelelo engancinci ukuze ndibe namandla okuphuhlisa phambili.
■ Andiyonto okanye ayengaphakanyisekise impumelelo yam ngenxa yokuzikhumbuza okanye umntu amkholise.
■ Ukunakwa kunye nokubulela kwabanye abakujikelezayo kumnandi, kodwa ndiyazi indlela yokufumana iingongoma zenkxaso zangaphakathi.
Ukuba ezi zifomula zilungele ngqo kwiingcamango zakho malunga nawe, ngoko ukuzithemba kwakho akunakuphikiswa, ukuxhomekeka kwabanye abantu ukuvavanya kukusemgangathweni wesiqhelo, kwaye ukuzithemba kukufutshane. Ukuba akunjalo, hlengisa intsingiselo yesethingi uze uphinde uyenze imihla ngemihla de ube unamathele kubo.
Isigaba 3
■ Ndikholelwa ukuba isigqibo sam sincike kakhulu kwimigudu yam.
■ Ukujamelana neengxaki, ndidibanisa onke amandla am ukuba ndijamelane noxinzelelo.
■ Ndinokuphila nanoma yimini njengoko ndifuna.
Xa ezi zicwangciso ziyeke ukukwenza ungaqiniseki okanye unqatshelwe, uya kukwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuba ufikelele kwizinga eliphezulu lokuzithemba kwaye awusayi kuthobela iimeko.
4 isigaba
■ Ndiyazi indlela yokubeka iinjongo kwaye ndifumene iindlela zokuzifezekisa.
■ ebomini bam, ndiyahlula into ephambili evela kwisekondari.
■ Ndiphulaphule iimvakalelo zam, kodwa musa ukuvumela iimvakalelo ezimbi zingandithatha.
Ukuba ukwamkele le miqobo, ngoko unako ukuzikhokela, kwaye esinye esinye isizathu esingenakuthenjwa sokuzithemba. Ukuba, okwangoku, awuqinisekanga kakhulu ekusekeni izinto eziphambili, musa ukuzisa rhoqo umbele ekupheleni uze uvumele iimpazamo zamacandelo endleleni eya kwiinjongo, ngoko kufuneka usebenzise ezi zicwangciso.
Ngegama lokuphila
Naliphi na le "mantras" ingaba isiqubulo sobomi bakho. Yibhale kakuhle kwikhadibhodi enemibala, udwebe kwaye ubeke kwindawo evelele. Ukuba i-slogan ikhethiweyo ngokuchanekileyo, iya kunceda ukutshintsha ubomi bakho kube ngcono. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, awuyi kummangalela, kodwa imihla ngemihla uthathe amanyathelo amancinci, kodwa amanyathelo ekujoliswe kuyo.