"Kutheni utshata?" Awunakube nosapho! Awukwazi ukupheka! Awukwazi ukugcina indlu ngendlela! Awunandaba nesondo! Uhlala unelisekile ngento! Awuyindoda yentsapho, unomdla kuphela ekuzonwabisa! Awazi ukuba uphatha njani abantwana, awukwazi kuba ngumama! Uhlala unentloko! "- amagama anjalo okanye afanayo, mhlawumbi, elowo ulivile ngexesha lokuqhawula umtshato.
Ziyasilimaza kwi-core kwaye ayinakongeza ukuzithemba kunye nethemba kuzo zonke. Siyaziqhenya size sizame ukuhlala sisodwa . Kodwa uvuyo lwenkululeko luhamba ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye siqala ukuziva singahlali.
Ibhinqa akufanele lihlale lodwa. Uchasene. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba anakekele umntu.
Ukuba nosapho ngumntu oqhelekileyo, umnqweno osemthethweni wabo bonke abantu, kuba uyintlalo yoluntu. Kuphikisana kuphela kubantu abakhethwe ngabalandelayo:
• ukugqiba ukulahlwa kwabantu abakujikelezile, ngokukodwa amalungu esini esahlukileyo;
• ukunyanzelisa ukungasebenzi komsebenzi womtshato;
• ukukwazi ukuphazamisa;
• Ukungafuni komntu ukubekezelela ukungaphumeleli kwamanye abantu, imikhwa kunye neziqulatho;
• ukulungelelaniswa nokuziphatha kakubi, ukuxhomekeka kweziyobisi, utywala;
• Ukungabi nomnqweno wokuba nosapho.
Ngethamsanqa, ukugqithisa okunjalo kunqabile. Nangona abanye babo abaphazamisi ekudaleni into efana neziko lezenhlalakahle, elibizwa ngokuba ngabantu "umtshato" ... kuzo zonke iinguqulelo zeli gama.
Sonke sifuna abantu abasondeleyo kunye nendawo apho siza khona kunye nemihlali kunye neengxaki zethu kwaye sivale. Kwaye akukho ndawo ongayi kuyenza.
Kwaye xa singenako ukudala intsapho eyoyoloyoko okokuqala, asilahlekelwa ithemba lokufeza le nqwenelo kumtshato wesibini nowesithathu. Kwaye kunjalo! Ngaphambi kokwenza oku, ndicinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ngokucophelela ukuba kutheni umzamo wokuqala ungaphumeleli, kwaye ungaphinde uphinde uphinde wenze iimpazamo.
Intsapho yesibini neyesithathu ihlala iwakhiwe ngomfanekiso kwaye ifana neyokuqala. Kuphela ngeenguqu ezincinane. Kwaye iqabane elitsha lifana nelidala nangaphandle. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? "Kutheni ndiwa ngenxa yentonga efanayo yokuloba kwaye ndihlasele i-rake efanayo," ucinga. Masizame ukuqaphela oku.
• ukhatywa ngabantu abafanayo, kwenzeka ukuba i-genetically (i-satellite satellite ibukeka ifana noyise);
• awufundile kwimpazamo yomtshato ongaphambili, kwaye ubomi bukunika ithuba elilodwa, into ekuyiqonda ngayo wena kunye nolwalamano nabantu;
• Ukucinga kwakho kuxhomekeke kwimpembelelo yeziganeko, ongatshoyo ukuzithiba kuphela ngomzamo onamandla;
• Kwenzeka kwakhona xa ungakhange uzimisele ngokucacileyo ukuba ngubani ofuna ngokwenene ebomini bakho, oko kukhetha kwakho kunye nomtshato wakho.
• Awuzange utshintshe nonke, iimbono zakho, iingcinga, ulindelo, imisebenzi, imikhwa ... Ngoko ufuna ntoni kwabanye. Amaphandle angalingana nolwangaphakathi. Tshintsha wena - kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo liya kutshintsha.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlambalaza nokungaqhelekanga ukuba udibene naye kwiqabane lakho elitsha kunye nezo mpawu zobunjani obubuhlungu kakhulu ngaphambili. Ngako oko kuthethwa, njengabo "bonke abantu bawabo ..." kuxhomekeke kwinto enokujamelana nayo.
Ukuba unikwe ithuba lokuqhubela ibinzana, ungabhala ntoni kwisayithi "yayo ..."? Umdlalo kwintlangano, njengaseofisi ye-psychoanalyst. Yintoni efikile engqondweni yakho ingqondo yakho yokwenene kule ngxaki. Nantsi kwaye kuyimfuneko ukukhangela.
Ngaba uyazi malunga nomzekelo onobubele obunokwenziwa kwengqondo - iimpazamo esingazithandiyo kwabanye abantu kunye nalabo esihlala sijamelana nabo kwabanye, ngaba zikhona kuthi? Kuphela zifihliwe ngokujulile kwi-subconscious.
Ngazo zonke iindlela sizama ukuzifihla kwabanye. Kodwa ngokwemithetho yobuthathaka, into enqwenela ukuyifihla iyacaca. Akuzange uqaphele? Cinga ngalo ngokuzonwabisa. Qinisekisa ukuba ufumene umgca onqambileyo umphathi wakho.
Abo baninzi bathetha ngamagunya omzimba okanye ukubonakaliswa okukhulu kwe-avarice, ngokwabo ngokwenene baphenduka kuba yizinto ezivuthayo zamandla okanye ababi. Nantsi!
Zama ngobuchule, ukulahla izikhalazo zangaphambilini kunye neengcamango zokungathembeki kwakho, ukucinga ngezizathu zeengxaki zakho zangaphambili. Kuphela kungekhona kumbono wexhoba elikhohlisiweyo, kodwa ukusuka kwindawo yomntu onokukwazi ukuzijonga ngokuzimeleyo kunye nobomi bakhe. Qonda izizathu kwaye ufunde.
Xa konke oku, ukujonga ngokunyanisekileyo emehlweni enyaniso, ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda-abantu bayanyamalala ebomini abaxinzelelekileyo kunye nezenzo ezithuthunyisayo kwaye bakwenze udibanise. Kule nto, akukho mntu ufanele enze nantoni na ngakumbi, qaphela kwaye wamukele oku ngokwakho, ngokuzolile nangengqiqo.
Yintoni ekusebenziseni ukuxelela ukuba andizange nditshintshe nabani na, kuba ndiyindoda enomntu othembekileyo, onyanisekileyo nozinikeleyo. Yimangalisa! Uthembekile, uthembekile! Kodwa uyavuya? Hlanganisa lo mnikelo kwisakhelo eludongeni kwaye ujonge! Okanye faka isikhumbuzo phakathi kwekhitshi. Umntwana onombulelo uya kuguqa.
Kwaye kubuthakathaka kuwe ukuba uzamkele wena kunye nehlabathi lingaphelelekanga, njengokuba kukho ukukhohlakele, kunye neepazamo kunye nezenzo ezingalunganga?
Apha ulapha, umzekelo, uthembekileyo kwaye uzinikezele, kodwa "u-10 ophezulu" uMats Masha, ummelwane, akazange anikwe mboleko. Bazisola. Yaye khumbula, ngoMgqibelo, xa kungekho mntu wayesekhaya, awuzange ugijime malunga nendlu kunye nococeko ococekileyo njengesiqhelo, kwaye ungakhange ukhwele konke ode ukhathele kuba ngabakhonzi, kodwa nje ulale phambi kweTV yonke imihla, njengomntu onobuqili ophethe i-pop -i-cock, into oyithiyileyo ukuxhuma emacaleni emva kokuba banelisekile ngabantwana bakho. Ku khunjulwa? Hayi! Ngoko awuphelelanga. Kwaye kwabanye, lindele uhlobo oluthile lwezenzo ezifanelekileyo kunye nokubonakaliswa. Yehla ehlabathini, mzalwana! Yaye uyamkele njengoko kunjalo, ungaphelelekanga kwaye ungalindelekanga!
Uze ulibale malunga nobuhlobo obuhle kunye ne-idyll yeentsapho ezivela kuma-movie e-Hollywood. Azikho!
Ubomi bubumnandi kangangokuba alukude kakhulu!
Yintoni eya kuba luncedo kumtshato omtsha
... kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukusindisa ekuxinekeni kunye nephutha njengale:
• Ukunyamezela . Umgangatho obalulekileyo kakhulu awunikezelwa wonke umntu. Ngenxa yokuba kufuna umzamo othile. Ngokomzekelo, njani ngokuthobeka kunye nokuhleka ukuhlakulela ukuba indoda yakho nabantwana bakhothe iisokisi zabo phantsi? Ngomgudu omncinane, unokukwenza. Kodwa ezinye iimpawu zeempawu zeesatelliti aziyi kutshintsha. Ewe, kwaye ngumsebenzi ongenamdla wokulungisa umntu. Awunakuze ubekezeleleke ukungaphumeleli ngokomzimba, iimpawu zengqondo zomnye umntu, ubuthathaka bakhe. Ngenxa yokuba ukuhlaselwa kweendawo ezinobuthathaka kulubuhlungu kakhulu.
• Ukuzihlaziya . Zama ukubheka yonke into ngokuhlekisa, nangona ungahleki. Kukho ingoma endala, ibonisa ngokucacileyo le ngcamango: "Vuka uphinde uhlabelele, zama ebomini ubuncinane ukuba ungavumeli ukunyamezela kwamehlo avulekileyo. Yenza impumelelo engabonakaliyo, ukhetha kulabo abanokuqala ukuzihleka. Hlalani nilele, nicule ephupheni, vusani niyicule! "Mkhulu, ngokwenene! Abo bantu baphumelela kuyo, banako ukuvuya kuzo naziphi na iimeko.
• Ukungabikho kokulindela okungafanelekanga kunye neemfuno ezingaphezulu . Ngaba awucingi ukuba unzima kakhulu kumlingane wakho. Kwaye ngokungafani nakwezinto okulindelayo, uya kuphelelwa yithemba, vuthala, uphukise. Ngubani owanixelele ukuba unelungelo. Omnye umntu akadalwanga ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho neemfuno. Ixabiso layo kwihlabathi alixhomekeke kwimbono yakho. Khumbula oku. Yaye yamkela, njengokuba kunjalo. Okanye ungayithathi nhlobo.
• Ukuzinza . Ungaba maximalist kumtshato wesibini. Ukunyaniseka nokuzikhukhumeza, ukungakwazi ukuphazamisa, ukungaqiniseki kunye nokuqiniswa kwekhonkrithi, ongayibiza ngokuba ngumgaqo-siseko, ngokwenene uyisidenge. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuphuka kumbindi. Akukuhle ukuba ufunde ukuba yi-diplomate, ukwenza uvumelwane, ufike kwisivumelwano? Kuhlala kulunge ngaphezu kokulwa ngqo. Ukubeka nje, ube mnqweno, ulunge ngakumbi kwaye ulungelelanise, kwaye ubomi buya kuphelisa ukutshintshela kwiindonga zekhonkrithi, apho uphosa intloko yakho.
• Ukunceda . Zama ukubona kumlingane wakho omhle, hlakulela kuye iimpawu ezintle. Ngamazwi anomnene uya kuba nombulelo omkhulu kuwe, kwaye nangona into ethile yokudumisa yakho ayihambelani nento yokwenene, kodwa iyinto enqwenelekayo, kungekudala iya kuba yinyani. Shayela indoda ingulube, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyabetha. Biza i-swan, kwaye iya kuba yinto enhle. Ukugqithisa okugqithisileyo kunye nobugorha asinokuba nefuthe emoyeni ofudumeleyo endlwini. Kodwa ke le nto sonke sizama.
Musa ukuphelelwa ithemba xa okwesibini engasebenzi, usenayo ixesha, kude kube ngumdala kakhulu ongayifumana kwaye uzame. Abanye baphatha ukutshata ku-75, 80 ubudala. Kuya kuba ngumnqweno!
Ungaze ubeke umnqamlezo. Abaphandi abaninzi baye baqaphela ukuba emtshatweni wesibini umntu uya kuba nomonde kwaye abe mnene. Ufunyenwe ngamava amnandi, akasayi kuphinda anqobe intsimi kwaye akayilwi ulwalamano. Uzama ukuhlala. Ngokuvumelana nawe kunye neqabane. Ubunjalo bokuba nomnqweno wokuqala ngumtshato omtsha!
Inhlanhla ensimini yentsapho yolonwabo!