Ukunyaniseka, wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe ngoku. Kwaye izizathu zokutshata (igama elibi) ziququzelelwe ngabanye bethu. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha awanjalo. Kuphela "kwenzeka", okanye "akuzange kusebenze" ... Enyanisweni, kuyathakazelisa kakhulu: kutheni sifuna okanye asifuni ukutshata? Mhlawumbi, ukuzivuma kuthi, siya kuzihlangula kwiingxaki ezininzi kwixesha elizayo? Akunjalo kuphela ...
NDIFUNA UKUFUNA!
Njengamantombazana aqhelekileyo, ndandifuna ukutshata. Kwiminyaka eyi-16 - ngokusondeleyo kwaye ivalwe. Ngo-19 - iphosa kwaye ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka. Ngeli-22 ndandivuyiswa kukuba "andiyi kuphuma" kumntu wokuqala ndidibana naye kwaye "akazange aphule ubomi bam" -kufutshane, ndandinandipha into endiyenayo. Nge-25, ndaphinda ndifuna ukutshata, ngoku umphefumlo wawudinga induduzo ekhaya, induduzo yendlu kunye nokuzinza. Kwaye ngo-27, ndabona ngokukhawuleza-yintoni lonwabe ukuphila njengoko ufuna wena! Yenza into oyifunayo, ufike ekhaya xa ufuna, ungahlambi izitya, upheke isidlo sakusihlwa, ungaphenduli iifowuni, ugqoke iimfestile ezingenanto zangaphantsi ngaphandle kweengubo zangaphantsi, ubeke amathambo kumaphi na emzimbeni wakho uze ulale nabani na ofuna, ekugqibeleni! Ayikho ubomi, kodwa iindaba zobomi! Ngamanye amaxesha ujikeleza into efana nostalgia. Njengomnye uhlobo lomona kwabanye. Mhlawumbi, emva koko, eli liphupha lam elingazange lizaliswe kwisitampu lisenza sizive ngathi?
1. Ndiyathanda intsapho. Ewe, ndifuna intsapho, abantwana kunye, emva koko, indoda. Ndifuna umntu ukuba andithande, ukuba nomona, ukunyamekela, ukukhathazeka ukuba ndinxiba iimbogi ezinzima kwaye ndinokuphumla, wandinika iintyatyambo kwaye ndihlambulule izicathulo zam. Ndifuna ukuba "ngumntu" - umfazi, umama kwaye, ngenxa yoko, uninazala nomamazala. Nangona ndinomthandi, ndifuna ukwesaba ukucaphukisa umyeni wam, kwaye kungekhona wam ngonaphakade ukufuna into ethi "mna". Ndifuna ukukhuselwa ngumntu, kwinqaba lomntu, emva kwodonga lwamatye lomntu. Mhlawumbi ndiyinto? Ukhangele umthengi? Ewe, makube njalo.
2. NDIYE UKUFUNA KWENKONZO. Ukuba kumntu uyindlu engenanto kwixesha lokuhlwaya, ke mna inqaku elithi "Ngaba unayo na umntu ngoku?" Indoda eyedwa yindoda elahlekileyo. Uhlala emele aqinisekise kwabanye ukuba "akayinkamela." Uyabona, ayilungiswanga kuthi kwaye akusiyo kuthi sitshintshe umjikelezo wendalo. Ukuba uluntu lujoliswe ukuba luhlulwe zibe zibini, ukuba kubhaliwe kuye kwi-genus ukuvelisa uhlobo lwakhe, ke ungakhethi into entsha. Lo ngumthetho wendalo. Ungakubiza ngokuba yimvelo yokulondoloza. Ngendlela, ukuhlala kunye kulula kwaye kunomdla ngakumbi. Ukuba kuphela lo manyano wokuzithandela. Kwaye ukuba umyeni wakho akayi kuba ngumntu onothando kuphela, kodwa naye ungumhlobo wenene, ngoko, unenhlanhla!
3. NONKE UMGIRILE AKHO UKUKHUMBULA UMLA. Ndiyayiqonda ukuba ndikhokelela kwisidenge sinyulu, kodwa ndiyavuma ngokupheleleyo. Kubonakala ngathi, sikhuliswa njengaye. Eyokuqala yintsapho. Umsebenzi, into eyintandokazi, ezinye iimfuno zomntu siqu - konke "ngenxa kamva." "Uyintombazana!". Ukufakwa ekubuntwaneni bonke babenento enye-ukuhlala nokulinda isikhulu. Njengokuba unabanye. Ngendlela, kwaye ikuphi isiqinisekiso sokuthi isikhulu sibheke wena, kungekhona ikosikazi? Hayi, akukho mzekelo kufuneka uphazamise kwisidima sakho. Ewe, ndiyena mhle, onomusa, omuhle ... Kodwa andizange ndilibale malunga neziphoso. Kungenxa yokuba le yimeko xa uthi "uthando" kungekhona "into", kodwa "inxamnye" into ethile ... Ngelishwa. Intsebenziswano "inkosana-princess" inqabile kwaye inzima kakhulu kangangokuthi ayisoloko iheha umtshato. Mhlawumbi kufuneke ukujonge ngeenxa zonke?
4. "MOM, AKUBUYA!". Umama, ngokwenene, inyaniso, ngokunyaniseka, ndifunga-ndiyatshatile! Ngoku akudingeki uxhalabele "ngekamva lam". Ekugqibeleni indoda yavela kunye nam. Yaye qaphela-yam, indoda. Kwaye akunandaba ukuba siza kuhlala kwelinye igumbi elingaphandle, kuba inqwelwana yam kopeck enqaba ukungena. Kwaye siya kukhwela "ezintlanu" zakhe, kwaye imoto yam iya kufakwa kwigaraji, kuba "kunzima ukukhonza imoto emibini. Kodwa into ebalulekileyo, Mama, ndivuyiswa kukuba uyavuya. Kwaye ngoku, encokola nabamelwane okanye osebenza nabo emsebenzini, unako "ukubeka ndawonye" - "... kodwa umkhwenkwe wam!", Kwaye ujonge ngenyameko ukusuka kwicala ukuya kwelinye icala. Ndiyathemba, ngoku ndiyekile ukuba sisidalwa esibi, ngaphandle kweyiphi intsapho kwindlela enjalo! Nangona kwangaphambili kubonakaliswe lula - "umfazi onenqwelo, i-mare ilula."
Andifuni ukutshata!
Kutheni amadoda atshate? Andizi. Abasetyhini, ininzi, batshata ngenxa yesigqibo se-, kuqala kwizindlu zonke, ke iingxaki zemali. Yaye xa zigqibo zombini, xelele-ndiyintoni na into? Kukho olunye uhlobo - "abaqhubi". Ewe, abo "bahamba." Intsikelelo, ngendlela. Nangona kulabo bafuna ukudibanisa - ukhetho luyamkeleka. Ukuthenjwa (inyaniso yokuba uyatshata) - iipesenti ezingama-70. Nangona ndihlala endaweni yomntu kwimeko enjalo, andizange nditshatile. Kule meko, kukho ukucaluleka kwamalungelo kwesiqingatha esomeleleyo - kutheni ngokukhawuleza kuba yinto yokukhwabanisa kuphela ngenxa yokungafuni ukuzala umntwana nokuqalisa intsapho? Umxholo we-sleigh omele uyenziwe kufuneka uxelelwe kuqala kuwo onke amantombazana. Ukuze bathathe isigqibo sokulala, baqhubeka benze zonke izigqibo ezilandelayo. Andifuni ukutshata! Ngenxa yokuba, njengelungileyo okanye elihle, kodwa ngumthwalo. Kwaye andinalo ithemba lokuba ndinokuyidonsa. Ndiyinto endiyiyo. Kwaye kunzima ukuba ndizitshintshe. Andiyithandi ukupheka, ndiyivila kakhulu ukuba ndiyitye into, kwaye ndizonda nje ukucoca indlu yokuhlambela. Andiyi kuphinda ndihambe ngexesha lokusebenza, ngoko xa ndivale umnyango, emva kwam kwindlu - ngathi uMamai udlulile! Ndiza kucoca ngokuhlwa. Kwaye ndiya kuthatha inkunkuma kwindawo yokuhlwa. Kwaye kunjalo, andiyi kubona isizathu sokuba nomnye umntu kwindlu yam.
1. "KUYA KUBA NJENGONKE". Ngokuchasene nengxabano enjalo, ndicela uxolo, awuyi kunyathela. Xa wonke umntu emile kumgca "into", ngesizathu esithile, kwaye kufuneka ube kulo (umgca) ukuvuka. Kutheni "u tshatile"? Kuba wonke umntu uphuma? Kwaye andifuni ukuba njengento yonke. Ndiyazi, ukuba angatshatanga kukunyuka emehlweni abantu. Umfazi okhululekileyo ubangela ukwesaba. Ingakumbi - umfazi okwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle koluncedo, ukwenza umsebenzi, ukuxhasa izihlobo. Ukungafuni "ukufana nabanye abantu" akusisona isizathu sokunqaba umtshato. Akukho imfuneko yokwenza ulwalamano, ungazama "uwonkewonke ...
2. UKUHLELA. Nqabile njengoko kubonakala ngathi, ndiyigcine kakhulu. Akunjalo ngandlela-ntle yobomi okanye ubudlelwane, kodwa ukulondolozwa kobomi njengangaphambili. Emtshatweni akunakwenzeka ukusebenza. Izenzo, ukuthanda, abahlobo, umsebenzi, ekupheleni! Konke oku koyika ukulahlekelwa ngumntu kuphela. Kukhohlakali ukukhusela ukuzimela emva kohambo lukaMendelssohn. Okanye ukuguqula amalungelo ekhitshini - ngubani na ozohlamba izitya? Kodwa andifuni ukubuyela kwisicaka sekhaya. Umgca omncinci wokungabaza. Ukwesaba "ukulahlekelwa nguwe". Yaye phi ukuzithemba ukuba okwangoku ndiyi-REAL I?
H. STRAX. Ndiyesaba ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane. Umtshato wezomthetho uphinde uxolo - "Ngoku sitshatile, uya kuvela phi na kum?". Ngokomgaqo, akukho ndawo. Ndiyakwazi ukuyeka ukuthanda, ndiyakwazi ukupholisa, andinakukuthanda, ndiza kutyhafisa! Ngoku ndiyinxalenye ebalulekileyo "yobomi bentsapho"! Njengoko ngokwenene, wena. Ndiyesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando. Kutheni uhamba kwiifilimu? SineDVD efanayo. Yiyiphi ivenkile? Ngaba asikwazi ukutya isidlo ekhaya? Zingaphi izi zihlangu? Kucacile ukuba, le kholeji kufuneka iphele ngegama - "Kudingeka senze inxaxheba ...". Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo, i-phobia evamile. Ziyiziphofu kuphela eziya kwiqula kunye nentloko.
4. AKUKHO, AKUBA UKUBHALWA ... Ukuba singabhaliswanga, asikwazi ukuqhawula? Sisinakuyeka, kuba umgaqo ngamnye "awukhethiwe"? Cwangcisa ingcamango yothando olungunaphakade. Akukho nto endiyifunayo, into endiyilwelayo noko ndikukoyikayo. Thina ngokwethu sizakhela iimeko apho siza kuzifumana khona. Kwaye ukuba andisatshatanga, ngoko, ngenxa yesizathu esithile andifuni oku. Kwaye ukuba andihlupheki kulo, kwaye ukuba ndiziva ndikhululekile ukuphila ngendlela ehlala ngayo, ngaba kufanelekile ukuthobela iingcamango zabangavumelani nombono wam? Yibize isithsaba se-celibacy, khumbula i-blue stocking kwaye ungatshintsha njengendoda endala. Le yembono yakho yobomi BAM. Kodwa kungekhona yam.