Xa usapho lwakhiwa, ubukho obugqithiseleyo babazali bobabini abemi kulo, ngokuqhelekileyo kubangela ukungahambisani nokungaqondi. Yingakho abantu abaselula bazama ukuhlala ngokuhlukileyo. Kodwa kukho iimeko xa ngokukhawuleza kuvela ukuba uninazala ufuna ukuhlala nathi. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko, ukuze ungabhubhisi ubudlelwane kunye nomyeni wakhe nonina, kodwa ngelo xesha ugcine uxolo noxolo phakathi kwentsapho yakho?
Ukuqala, ukuze uqonde indlela engcono yokuqhubeka kunye nesiphi isicwangciso sokuziphatha ozokhetha, kuyimfuneko ukuphendula wena umbuzo-kutheni ufuna ukuhlala nomamazala? Ngoku siza kuhlalutya iindlela ezikhethwa kakhulu.
Uxhala
Kungenzeka ukuba umthandwa wakho unomntwana, kwaye ngoku unina unomuzwa onesizungu. Kule meko, ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukuhlala nabantu bakhe. Ngako oko, kufuneka usebenze ngokucophelela, kuba unako ukubamba iimvakalelo zomama wakho kamama, kodwa umyeni wakho kwaye ubonakale emehlweni abo engabonakaliyo. Okokuqala, thetha ngale meko nomyeni wakho. Cacisa ukuba uyaqonda umamazala wakho nokuba kunzima kangakanani kuye ngoku. Kodwa ngakwelinye icala, kufuneka ukuba uqonde ukuba sele usenayo intsapho yakho. Ewe, unako ukuza kuwe xa efuna kwaye achithe ixesha kunye nabantu bakhe, kodwa kuya kuba nzima ukuba uhlale kwindlu enye, kuba, njengoko kuyaziwa, xa kubonakala i-landladies ezimbini, imodi iyalala.
Enyanisweni, kule meko, uninazala unako ukusho ukuba akayi kuphazamisana nabani na, kwaye awuboni njengomntu ongowomthonyama kwaye unokukhubekiswa nawe. Ngendlela, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba nangona kunjalo, umntu othanda ngokwenene kunye nokuhlonela abantwana bakhe, uhlala eqonda ukuba akanalo ilungelo lokuzama ukungena ngokupheleleyo kwimpilo yabo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe ufuna ukuhlala nawe, ngoko, nokuba akunakuphi na ukukhanyela, uyazi okanye uyazi kakuhle, uyazibhokoxa ngokuzimela kwakhe, oku sele kulungile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukuba akukho nenye indlela yokuphuma, kunokucetyiswa ukuba nje utshintshe indawo yomama kamasipala. Oko kukuthi, mfumene indawo yokuhlala kufuphi nawe. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuhlala efika kwizalamane zakhe, kodwa awuyi kuba kwindawo ephilileyo yonke imini nobusuku.
Imfundo yabazukulu
Kungenzeka nokuba umama-mkhwenkwe ufuna ukuhlala nawe ukuze ancede ukufundisa abantwana bakho. Kakade, uncedo lukagogo luhle kakhulu, kodwa kuphela xa abazali bevumelana nezindlela zakhe zokukhulisa. Ukuba ubala ukuba kungcono ukuba abantwana bakho baye enkulisa kunokuba bachithe ixesha kunye nogogo wakho, kuya kufuneka ufumane iingxabano zokuxhathisa umama womyeni wakhe kuloo ngcamango. Unokusebenzisana nelokuba abantwana baya enkulumeni enhle, apho ootitshala bafundisa ngokugqibeleleyo ulwazi lwabo lweendlela nezindlela zamhlanje. Khumbula ukuba le meko ingaba ingxabano, ukuba akukho zizathu zokunceda kwaye kufuneka usho kumamazala wakho ukuba awufuni ukuba asebenze ngokupheleleyo ekukhuliseni abantwana. Ewe, oku kuya kuthintela kakhulu ulwalamano lwakho, kodwa ngenye icala, ukuba ucinga ukuba le mpe mbelelo inobungozi, oko kukulungele ukuma ngokwakho kude kube yinto yokugqibela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba nembono yomyeni wakho noninazala.
Iingxaki zezempilo
Esinye isizathu sokuba umamazala wakho afune ukuhlala nawe unengxaki zempilo. Kule meko, kufuneka usamkele. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuhlobo bakho noninazala, ungakhohlwa ukuba ungumama wakho. Kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba wamnika ubomi waza wakhulela. Kwaye ngoku iyakumnceda. Nawe, ngokuba sele usenentsapho enye. Ngako oko, kuhleli nje ukudibanisa kunye neemeko kwaye uncede umama wakho ngokokufunayo.
Kukho nawuphi na, kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko iqhubeka njani, ungalokothi ubonise umyeni wakho isimo sengqondo esibi ngokubhekiselele kuninazala wakhe, nokuba ngaba kunjalo. Ufuna umyeni ukuba anqume ukuba ufuna ukuhlala kunye nonina, kwaye akaphulaphuli ukukhala kwakho nokuhlambalaza kwindlela yakhe. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuthabatha ezinye iingxabano eziya kumenza acinge kwaye ekugqibeleni anqume ukuba ngalo lonke uthando lwakhe ngonina, akafuni ukuhlala naye.