Isiko esibukeka singagqibekanga , ncinane ncinane, sishiya ihlabathi lethu elidengekayo. Abantu, ingakumbi abasetyhini, bakhululwa, kwaye abafuni ukuboshwa ngumtshato. Ukuba umtshato wangaphambili wawuyidyokhwe entanyeni yamadoda, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje abafazi abaninzi banamathela kulo mbono. Akunakutsholwa ukuba oku kubi, abantu basebenziselwa indawo ephakamileyo yoluntu, bazama ukuziqonda, ukwenza umsebenzi, baze banakekele ubomi babo. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba baninzi abesifazana abanqabile ukuba yimikhosi yokugubungela, yibani mhle kulo suku olungalibalekiyo, ngamnye umtshakazi ufuna. Kwaye makungavumeli ukuba kubekho umtshato womtshato we-chic ngesitimela, umtshato, i-limousine. Kodwa kuya kuba nenkumbulo yosuku oluqaqambileyo, olungayi kuphinda lwenzeka kwakhona. Sifanele siwenze singalibaleki, kungekhona ukubonisa, kodwa thina. Kwilishumi, iminyaka engama-20 ubukela imifanekiso kunye namavidiyo, kwaye umomotheka, ukhumbule usuku lwakho oluvuyayo.
Ukubeka indandatho eminwe yakho kwi-ofisi ye-registry akusiyo into yokuba ufanele uzive ngaloo mzuzu. Kwaye amazwi omkhosi okhokelayo omele ube kunye nosizi novuyo awunanto. Kufuneka ukuba uqaphele, ingcongolo ngomnwe, oku akuyona ikollar, kodwa ulwalamano olungabonakaliyo kodwa oluxinayo kunye neqabane lakho. Ngoku uyingxaki enye, usizi, iingxaki, ukungaphumeleli, izifo, yonke into iyahlula ibe zibini. Kodwa uthando luya kunqoba konke kunye nolonwabo, ulonwabo, luya kuhlala yakho indebe epheleleyo.
Umtshato uyinyathelo apho abantu abathembekileyo ngothando lwabo basombululwa. Ukulungele ukuhlala ubomi bakho bonke kunye nenkxaso ngexesha elincinane, ukuqonda, ukuxolela, ukuhlonela nokuxabisa. Kunzima ukuphikisana nenyaniso yokuba kukho iimeko xa ibhinqa okanye indoda ivuma umtshato weenjongo ze-mercantile (imali, amandla, indawo yokuhlala), kwaye ngaba bantu bajika umkhosi ongaqondakaliyo. Ngemizekelo yabo ukuba ezininzi izibini ziqhawule ngoku ahlukanisa, izizathu ezifana "azizange zihlangane nabalinganiswa", ayikwazi ukuba yimbangela yesinyathelo esinzulu. Ngoku yonke into ixazululwa ngokulula kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ukuxabana kuthetha umtshato. Akukho mntu ucinga, mhlawumbi ukuba umntu omnye utyeshele, umtshato ungagwenywa.
Umtshato uyisithethe esadlulayo kwiilingo elidala . I-sakramente yesifungo esinikezwa ngothando olungunaphakade. Ukuphosa amagama, kuthetha ukuthintela zonke iinjongo, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba umtshato wawungekho, unika isithembiso kuwe. Xa ukhethe iqabane lakho ebomini, ubopha omnye ngomtshato, kwaye ungaxhoma ikhola entanyeni yakho. Wena ngokwakho ukhethe lo mntu. Ngoko ke, akufanele ukhonononge ngobomi. Kwaye ukukhala kubahlobo kwi-vest malunga neyokuphela kwabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, isizathu sokudideka sivalo. Nantsi umhlobo ungcono, kwaye ndifuna.
Lungiselela umtshato kufuneka uqaphele kakhulu , kungekhona kwidlo. Kufuneka silungiselele ngengqondo, silinganise yonke into size siyibone. Ukuba lo "ngumntu" wakho, ngoko uhamba ngesibindi kwiindlela ezinzima kodwa ezinoyolo zobomi, ezibizwa ngokuba yintsapho. Kodwa ukuba kukho ukungathandabuzeki, kungcono ukukhawuleza ukubhiyozela, hlola iimvakalelo zakho, ukulungelelanisa ubomi ndawonye. Nangona uhlala ndawonye, akusiyo isizathu sokuba uqiniseke ukuba wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo. Ukususela ekuhlangabezaneni, phila kunye kunye nobomi bentsapho, ezi zizinto ezintathu ezihluke ngokupheleleyo.