Awazi ukuba ukhansela umtshato? Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha oku kwenziwa ngokwenene. Emva kwakho konke, uziphulaphule, kwaye ngandlela-thile ufike kwi nyaniso yokuba umtshato uyinyathelo eliqinisekileyo, inyanga eziliqela uzame ukufakela ilizwi elingaphakathi, elisoloko lincenga: "Ayikho !!!".
Nangona kunjalo, waqhubeka uva nokuphulaphula eli lizwi. Abaninzi abasetyhini ngaphambi komhla obalulekileyo kakhulu wobomi, nabo, bangaqiniseki, kodwa banqwenela ukunqanda le nkxalabo kunye namava. Emva koko, abaninzi abafazi besaba nje iingcamango zabantu abanoyiko lokubaphatha kakubi baze baxakeke, besaba ukuba abaze badibana nendoda abanokuyithanda, ngokubanzi, bafumana into. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, abafazi abasemagxeni kunye neminyaka emininzi yobomi bentsapho abangonwabileyo, kodwa oku kunokugwenywa. Ufuna nje ukufumana isibindi sokuziphulaphula. Emva koko, le yithuba lokuqala eliya kuba nzima. Ngoku uya kufunda amacebiso athile anokukunceda ukuba uphile kule meko.
Bonisa imfesane kumlingane wakho
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kumlingani wakho ukucima umtshato. Mhlawumbi uyazi izizathu zesigqibo sakho, kodwa ngoku uphelelwe ngumsindo, uhlazekile, utyhafile kwaye udangele ukuba ucinga nje kuphela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abahlobo bakho, abazali kunye nezihlobo baya kuzama ukukunceda, kodwa ngale ndlela indlela yokufakela izakufudumala kuphela. Kufuneka wenze konke ukwenzela ukuba imeko ingenakubekezeleka, kodwa ubuncinci ihlale kwinqanaba elinye. Ewe, ukuthetha kulula kunokuba wenze. Kodwa kufuneka uhlale uvelwano, uvelwano kunye novelwano. Musa ukuthatha izikhundla zokuzikhusela. Mhlawumbi okhethiweyo bakho akafuni ukuba nobudlelwane obunye kunye ne-swami, kodwa ukuba usenalo ngcamango enjalo, umenzele ubabalo, uthi unokuthembela kuwe kwaye ukulungele ukumxhasa ngokuziphatha, kodwa ubuhlobo bothando luye lwaphela.
Gcina ngesithunzi
Uza kufuna ixesha elithile lokuhlala kude kube yinto ecacileyo. Yenza ububele, ububele kunye nokuphendula ngendlela ongayenza ngayo. Zama ukubonga wonke umntu ngokuqonda kwakho uze ucele ukuxolelwa ngenxa yokuphazamiseka, kunye nokuba uyiphumelele yonke into. wakhe umtshato kunye nosapho lwakhe.
Ukumelana
Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu uya kuzama ukuthetha nawe, okanye baya kuxubusha emva kwemva yabo, okanye baya kuthi emehlweni abo oko bacinga. Ukuba unomdla ngenxa yoko, cinga ngezinto abazithethayo ngawe, kwaye ungazithethi. Yibe ngaphezu kwayo. Kwimeko enjalo, yibani njengento enyanisekileyo. Le meko yenzeke ngenxa yecala lakho.
Ukukhansela ukulungiselela
Ukuba ugqiba ukukhansela umtshato, kufuneka ubeke onke amalungiselelo, uqale kwindawo yokubhiyozela, ulandele i-wedding bouquet kunye neentyantyambo, uphelise kunye nomphathi wesigqeba. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka ukhansele yonke into ecetywayo: kuya kuba neemeko ezinzima, xa kwiiveki ezimbalwa emnyango wakho ziya kuba ngabaculi, ukudlala umculo weklasi. Ukuba sele usithumele isimemo kwi-nasvazdbu, khumbula ukuba umsebenzi wakho kukuzisa bonke abantu malunga nokukhanselwa kombhiyozo. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka uxelele wonke umntu. Ukuba unayo ixesha, ngoko unako ukuthumela ii-postcards ngokuxolisa, kwaye ukuba kusekho ixesha lokunceda, ngoko unokuzikhawulela kwi-imeyile elula okanye umnxeba. Musa ukuthembela kumyeni kunye nentsapho yakhe, ufumanisa lo myalezo, ngoko ufanele uhlangabezane nalo mbandela kwaye ungacingi ukucela uncedo kumyeni ohlulekile. Abahlobo kuphela banokukunceda ngale nto. Inketho efanelekileyo yileta ebhokisini ye-imeyile okanye umyalezo welizwi, kodwa ngaphezu koko, nganye indwendwe kufuneka ifumane ikhadi eliprintiweyo kunye nokuxolisa kubalungisi (ngokuqhelekileyo abazali). Makuvumele lowo mntu ongazange acaphukise eso sigqibo, uya kuphinda ahlawule uluhlu lweendwendwe ukuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu uyalumkisa.
Iindleko zentlawulo
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuba yisigqibo esininzi. Ngaphezu koko, wena okanye ngabazali bakho kuya kufuneka uhlawule ukukhishwa kwezinto zokugcina. Ukuba le sinqumo esinzima kakhulu, zize uzilungele kwingcamango yokuba lo utsalo-mali uqobo lwakho kwaye ukuba umtshato uqhathanise kakhulu. Ukongezelela, iingxabano ziyakulungeleka.
Buyisela Zonke Izipho
Buyisa yonke into, ukuqala ezintweni ezincinci ukuya kwindandatho yomtshato. Emva kwakho konke, izipho zathengiwe isibini esitshatileyo, kodwa ekubeni awuyi kutshata, kuthetha ukuba izipho mazibuyiselwe.
Zikhathalele
Amantombazana amaninzi kwiimeko ezinje axinekile kwaye ahambe ecinezelekile ngenxa yomyeni. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, ngoko bekufuneka ukuba kubekho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uye wafumana uxinzelelo olukhulu, kwaye ngoku akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu uya kuvuya nawe, mhlawumbi akukho mntu unokukuxhasa. Ukuze uphumule, yenza into eya kukunika induduzo kunye nentuthuzelo. Ziphume kule mqathango. Zenzele iholide, uye kwi-salon yobuhle.
Musa ukuyifaka entloko yakho ukubuyela kumdala
Ngokuqinisekileyo, intsapho kunye nabahlobo bakho bazakuzama ukukukhusela kwisigqibo esinjalo. Mbulela ngokusemthethweni wonke umntu, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye uchaze ukuba akukho nto enokuyenza oko sele uzimisele. Ngoku uimeko exinzelelekileyo, elolo hlobo, kunzima kakhulu ukuchasa iqhinga leentsapho, ngoko khumbula ukuba ukuba sele usuqumile yonke into, ngoko awuyi kukhangela iindlela ezizenzekelayo, zama ukuthetha konke kwesi sihloko.
Funa inkxaso
Unokukuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngubani osesecaleni lakho kwaye ongekho. Zama ukujikeleza abantu abakuxhasayo, kunye nabo baqinisekileyo ukuba uyayidinga kwaye uyayifanele. Uhlala nje njengomntu omhle kwaye onhle, nje ngokukhawuleza kunye nesigqibo sakho. Khumbula ukuba ukuba awufuni le mtshato kwaye uyisusile, ngoko wenze okulungileyo, esi sisisombululo esona sihle kunazo zonke, kodwa kumyeni. Nangona emva kweiveki ezimbalwa uza kuziva umthwalo wesigqibo, ukuba awukwazi ukuyixazulula ngokwakho, qha ga mshelana neengcali ngoncedo lochwepheshe. Musa ukuyixabisa oku njengento engaqhelekanga, bonisa nje ukukhathalela.
Awunakuva ukuphendula okunjalo kubantu abaninzi, kodwa abafazi abanemibono yabo kwaye bazimisele ukwenza izigqibo bafanelekile ukudumisa. Kwiminyaka embalwa abahlobo bakho baya kuba malunga nomtshato, kuba abayi kukwazi ukugcina umtshato, kwaye uya kuba neqhayiya ukuba xa befumene amandla kunye nesibindi sokuba bathathe isigqibo sokukhansela umtshato baze baveze. Abasetyhini abaninzi babulala ubomi babo bomtshato ongenakuthathaka, kuba nje ngexesha alizange live ilizwi langaphakathi, njengoko wenzayo. Ukuhlehlisa umtshato yinto ebalulekileyo kakhulu eya kuza kulungele ukwenza izigqibo kunoma yimuphi umgangatho wobomi. Siyakuhalalisa ngelokuba ufunde ukuphulaphula isandi sakho. Bonisa imfesane, inceba nobubele kuwe nakwabanye abantu, ngoko awuyi kunqoba kuphela ubunzima, kodwa uya kuphumelela ebomini.
Ungathandabuzeki, ixesha liya kuza kwaye uya kudibana nomntu onokuhlala naye kwimitshato eyonwabileyo iminyaka engama-50!