Awunamashumi angama-30, kodwa sele unomyeni omhle, umntwana, umsebenzi ophumelelayo. Ubomi buhle?
Inkqubela ekhoyo yinto ephawulezayo. Namhlanje luye lwaphuhliswa, kwaye ngomso - luye lwahlukana.
Umlingani wakho uDmitry Orlov ungumhlekazi, umdlali oncomekayo. Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba abantu abadala bavame ukunyamekela ukuthanda uthando ngamaqabane abo kwisethi. Nithethelelane "ezinje ezincinane"? Ukuba uDima wenza okuthile kuye kwaye avunyelwe, ngoko andiyi kukwazi malunga nalo, mhlawumbi. Siyabahlonela kwaye siyabaxabana. Amadoda isithembu abantu. Kodwa ndikholelwa ukuba umntu akanokuba ngumlilo ongenalutho kuphela. Ngaphezu koko, xa sitshatile, uDima wayeneminyaka engama-33 ubudala, kwaye ngeli xesha wayesele ehamba. Ngoko, ndiyakholwa, ndiyazi kwaye ndiyathemba isiqingatha sam sesibini. Ngamanye amaxesha kum nakwakho kukho ukuhlaselwa ngumona, njengabantu bonke abaqhelekileyo, kodwa ngexesha elifutshane. Nangona kunjalo, andithandi ukuthungca umyeni wam. Ndiyazi ukuba abanye abafazi bayaphendula neefowuni zomyeni wabo endaweni yakhe. Kodwa ukuhla kule nqanaba - ungayithandi kwaye ungahloneli.
Iincwadi zakudala zesiNgesi zicatshulwa: "Amadoda atshate ngokunyamezela, kunye nabasetyhini-befuna ukwazi." Kwimeko ka-Irina Pegova, ubunjani bomtshato obaneleyo kumsebenzi othile, izinto zavela njani?
Andizange ndibe nesifiso kulo mbandela nonke. Xa nditshatile, ndade sele ndingumntwana oneminyaka engama-25 ubudala. Ndandiqonda ukuba esi siganeko siza kwenzeka kungekudala. Ngokuchasene noko, ndandisoyika ngumbutho womtshato. Ngaphambi komtshato, ndabona abaninzi abantu abatshatileyo, bengonwabi ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye kwakukho abantu abanobomi bentsapho obunzima: iinyembezi, izihlazo, ukuphikisana okukhulu. Ndothuswa ngeso simo. Kuthiwani ukuba ndikunjalo? Esi sihogo! Kungcono ukuba yedwa! Nangona ndikhumbula, andizange ndifune ukutshata. Ndiyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ngelinye ilanga indoda yayiza kubonakala ukuba ngubani oye wenzelwe mna evela phezulu, kwaye yonke into yayiza kugqitywa ngomzuzwana. Kwaye kwenzeka ke: Dima kunye ndidibana kunye nomthendeleko wefilimu eWarsaw kwaye ngokukhawuleza saqala ukuhlala kunye. Kodwa kuthekani ngethuba lembali elimnandi? Sasingenalo. Sasihlala kunye iminyaka emibini, satshata, kwaye sasinomntwana. Kuphela emva kweentsuku zeentyatyambo ze-ts'oletele zaqala. Sagqiba kwelokuba kunomdla ngakumbi ukwenza izipho, kumangaliswa kunye nokuzisa uvuyo phakathi komhla ngemihla. Akunjalo ngosuku lokuzalwa, uNyaka omtsha kunye noMatshi 8, kodwa imihla ngemihla. Kungekudala, umyeni wam uzame kwi-hypostasis yomlawuli, umlimi-iinyanga ezimbalwa ezilahlekileyo kwi-set. Kodwa, ebuyela ekhaya ngokuhlwa ebusuku okanye kusasa, uDima wanginika iindidi zeentyantyambo, eqonda ukuba andizange ndinyamekele. Uhlawulela ukungabikho kwezipho kunye neentyatyambo. Ngaba kuyinyaniso ukuba awugqoki iindandatho zokuzibandakanya kwaye usayinwe ngokunyanzeliswa kwabazali bakho?
Njengomfazi ndithi: sonke siphupha ngomtshato. Kwaye u-Irina Pegovoj imeko yomtshato ayikho enye into. Ngenxa yoko, sayina. Asinxibe imicenge yomtshato. UDima akayithandi ukugqoka ubucwebe, uhamba ngaphandle kokubukela. Kwaye ndoyika ukulahlekelwa yindandatho, ndihlala ndilahlekelwa iingubo zam golide.
U-Irina, ngaba uyakholelwayo? Ukholelwa kwiimpawu? Maxa wambi ndikholelwa. Ngokomzekelo, kwinyani ebomvu, imitshato imbonakaliso yindwendwe eqinisekileyo yokuphuka kwangaphambili kwiintsebenziswano. Andiyiqondi xa abantu abadumileyo bembetha imishado yabo kumaphephandaba nakubonwakude. Sisayine iofisi yokubhalisa. Kwakungekho mkhusane, akukho mhlophe mhlophe.
Yonke intombazana iphupha lokuphuma enkulu kwiingubo ezimhlophe zeqhwa. Ngaba uyazisola malunga neli gale?
Akunjalo. Andiyithandi imishado ngendlela yokuhlanganisana kwezihlobo kunye nabahlobo ngenxa yokuba wonke umntu adle, aphuze aze azininzi. U-Dima kunye nezizathu ezaneleyo zokuqokelela abahlobo kunye nosapho size siququze ieholide.
U-Irina, kwintsapho yakho - usapho lobubele okanye ububele bokuzalwa?
Kwintsapho yethu - ukuphakama okungaphelelanga kwamadoda. Ndiyazi imiba yasekhaya, kodwa njengoko indoda yam ithi, kuya kuba njalo. Ngaphandle kokukhetha. Ngoku, isondo esibuthakathaka sisakhula iingubo phezu kwayo ngokuhambelana kwezikhundla zamandla kwintsapho.
U-Irina, ngoko wanquma ukwakha ubomi bakho ngokwahlukileyo? Ngaba awufuni ukuba ngumphathi-ntloko kwintsapho, njengoMama?
Andiyithandi le meko yemicimbi. Ukuba ndinomyeni - ingakumbi njengoDima - enempilo, oqinileyo, ngubani onokukhokela intsapho, ukufumana imali, uxanduva lwekhaya lakhe, - kutheni ndifanele ndibeke konke oku kumagxa amnyama? Ibhinqa kufuneka liphumle kwaye liphile ngokuthula, lenza kuphela umntwana kunye nokupheka. Ucinga njani, yintoni igunya lomfazi? Ngaba unokugcina umyeni wakhe, othe wanquma ukuhamba? Ndicinga ukuba ulonwabo lwentsapho lichitha ixesha elide lokunxibelelana: xubusha iingxaki eziqokelelweyo, xolela, ukwazi ukuxoxisana nabanye. Into ephambili ayikuthi ingathuli emacaleni! Umfazi, ngenxa yesimo sakhe, kufuneka enze okokuqala, ulungelelanise kwaye angavumeli ukungquzulana, ngokukodwa ukunyanzela amazwi, kunzima kunene ukwenza oku ngenxa yokuzidla nokuzixabisa. Ibhinqa inempawu ezinjalo, kodwa kufuneka izame ukuzola kwaye zibale, ukuba ufuna ukugcina le ndoda ngenxa yentlalo yentsapho. Oko kukuthi, kufuneka ufihle ubuqhayiya bakho bunzulu kwaye bunzulu. U-Irina, kwaye ukuba utshintshile? Yintoni enokuyenza ngokuzikhukhumeza kwabasetyhini?
Le yimeko ehluke ngokupheleleyo. Ndiyabulela uThixo, andizange ndenze into enjalo ebomini bam, kwaye, ndiyathemba, ayiyi kwenzeka. Ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukuba ndiqonde kwaye ndixolele ukunyaniseka. Mhlawumbi, kuba ndiyakholwa ngokuqinisekileyo: oku akunakwenzeka kum. Andifuni ukudideka.
Kodwa bangaphi abantu - ezininzi iingcamango. Sonke sahluke, kwaye umntu akakwazi ukuxolela nangona igama elibi kwidilesi yakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda azama ukumangalisa abafazi ngezenzo zabo.
U-Irina, khumbula into edibeneyo oye wayilungiselela umyeni wakho? Kwakukho imizekelo eninzi. Ngesinye ixesha ndade ndidubula eKiev kwinyanga, kwaye uDima wasebenza eMurmansk. Sasibonana ngokungafanekiyo, xa sasinayo imihla efanayo. Ibali le nzekayo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bethu, ngoko sathetha kakhulu kwifowuni. Ngokukhawuleza sasixabana, kwaye ndaqonda ukuba kwimodi yefowuni andinakuyilombulula ingxabano. Kwaye ndade ndinexesha elilodwa. Ndiyithengela ithikithi eMoscow kwaye ukusuka khona ndiza kwi-Murmansk. Ngobusuku ndiza ehotele, apho abahlali behlala khona. Ndiyincenga umphathi wehotele ukuba ndivumele ekamelweni ukuya kuDima (wayekho kwindawo yomsebenzi ngeli xesha). Kodwa ekubeni andinaso isitampu kwipasipoti, mna, ngokwemvelo, ayivunyelwe. Kwaye ke, ngenxa yenhlanhla yam, umvelisi wefilimu wayedlula, owamkela mna waza wandibuza ukuba ndimbeke egumbini kuye intanda yam. Ndandula ndalala, kwaye xa uDima efika, wandifumana ndilele embhedeni wakhe. Nasi isimanga. Ngentsasa ndihlala phantsi kwendiza kwaye ndenze ngendlela efanayo eKiev. Kwaye oku, ndicinga, kupholile! Ndiqinisekile ukuba uDima wayenombono ofanayo. Sekunjalo, le ntombazana yahamba yafikelela kwiphelo elide lomhlaba ukuba ichithe isiqingatha sobusuku yodwa kunye naye!
Ngaba uDima uyamangalisa?
Ndiyamangaliswa yinkathalo . Ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwam kokuqala, ndandifumala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndandisoloko ndothuka. Kodwa umyeni wam wandinceda ngeentlungu zokulahleka, ukuze ndiphile kulo xesha. UDima wandixhasa kakhulu ngokuziphatha. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho imeko apho ndilahlekileyo, kwaye umyeni wam uhlala efumana indlela efanelekileyo, kwaye ndiyabulela kakhulu ngenkxaso yakhe.
U-Irina, usebenzisa amaqhinga amabhinqa ukuze ufumane into oyifunayo kumlingane wakho?
Kwaye! Ngaphambi komyeni malunga nento efunekayo, kuyimfuneko ukufumana umzuzu olungeleyo kule nto. Akukho mzamo ayiyi kuphumelela ukuba loo mntu unesimo esibi. Konke kuxhomekeke kwimeko. Ukuba isicelo selo bhinqa sichazwa kwifom epholileyo, enobuhle kunye nenhle - indoda yentaba iya kujika! Ngokomzekelo, uDima akayi kuqonda ukuphonsa izicelo, ukuba wavuka nje kwaye engazange abe nomsi, akazange ahlambe. Ndiyazi ukuba kungcono ukuba ungamphazamisi kwingxoxo ebalulekileyo yefowuni okanye, xa exakeke kwi shishini. Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale incoko kunye noDima kwifowuni, ndihlala ndibuza.
Ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bomtshato obutsha abasetyhini bubonakala ngenxa yokungenelela kwabazali. U-Irina, ngaba uyakwazi ukuphepha ezi ngxaki?
Ndenethamsanqa kunye nomama kamasipala -intokazi enhle. Akaze abuze nayiphi na imibuzo engadingekile. Uvuma ukuba uyayiqonda intsingiselo, kodwa ukholelwa ukuba: ukuba sifuna, siya kumxelela yonke into. Umkhwekazi ophelileyo! Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyamxelela malunga neentsapho zethu iingxabano, kwaye uhlala ecaleni kwam, echaza ukuba naye uyinkwenkwe kwaye unobunye kunye nam. Ndiyayixabisa kakhulu inkxaso yakhe. U-Irina, noDmitry, naye, unelisekile noninazala?
Ngomama konke kunzima kakhulu, kwaye ekuqaleni kwakunzima kuye ukuba athole ulwimi olufanayo noDima. Kodwa kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ubudlelwane bobuhlobo bubukeka buye buya kuqhelekileyo. Umba wukuthi wam umama wonk Ngako oko, wasiphazamisa kakhulu ebomini bethu, nangona ehlala kwenye idolophu. Xa efika kuthi okanye thina kuye - kukho ukungquzulana rhoqo noDima, ukungaqondi, amagama athile asetyenziswayo. Akumangalisi, kuba umama wayesoloko etshela umyeni wakhe ukuba njani kwaye wenzeni. Kodwa uDima waqaphela ukuba kufuneka ahlale engumnene kunoma yiphina imeko. Ufumene indlela eya kumkhwekazi wakhe kwaye wakwazi ukuwuthembela. Ngoku ba nolwalamano oluhle nomama. Sakha indlu kwidolophana yam yaseViks. Inkqubo yokusebenza ilawulwa ngumama, kodwa ubiza uDima kwaye ucebisa: "Nguwuphi umbala wokwenza uphahla?"
U-Irina, kungcono ukuba uphile ngokwahlukileyo kubazali?
Kakade! Bonke oomama banenkxalabo kwaye banenkxalabo malunga neentombi zabo. Ngenxa yokuba nayiphi na umntu kubo intshaba ethatha intombi yabo kubo. Ngaba kulungile ukuba intombi ihlale nalo mntu-engacingi. Umzekelo, andiyazi into eyenzekayo kum Tanya, xa ekhula, kwaye indoda engaqhelekanga imthabatha kum. Oomama bahlala bexhunyelelwe loloyiko. Ndiza kugxininisa ngokucacileyo abaviwa kwisandla nentliziyo yam intombi kwaye ndifumane iphoso ngezinto ezincinci! Kodwa andiyi kuphazamisa ubomi bentsapho yam yentombi. U-Irina, ndixelele, ngaba usabelana neentombazana-nabahlobo bakho ukutshatyalaliswa kobomi bakho bentsapho? Akukho mntu ngaphandle owaziyo malunga nobuhlobo bethu. Ukuthetha nezinye iingxaki zeentsapho zabantu, ukukhalaza ngomyeni wakhe - akukho nto. Abahlobo bam bahlala bethetha ngeengxaki zabo zeentsapho. Okokuqala, ndilahlekelwa lixesha lam elixabisekileyo; Okwesibini, andinomdla wokuphulaphula oku. Ndicinga ukuba andinalo ilungelo lokunika iingcebiso malunga nemiba enzima. Nangona umama noninazala bazinikele kwi-labyrinths yobomi bentsapho. Ndiyathemba kuphela kwi-intuition yam. Ndibonisana kuphela nomyeni wam. Ukuba ndiyimeko yokungqubuzana kunye noDima, ngoko kufuneka sifune indlela yokuphuma kuyo.
Ukuba abantu badinga omnye nomnye, bayamthanda kwaye bafuna ukuhlala ebudeni babo emagxeni - nokuba baxabana kwaye abavumelani nabalinganiswa - basenokufumana ulwimi olufanayo, benze izivumelwano. Ndaza ndaza ndaza ndaza ndatshintsha kakhulu, kuba ndaqonda ukuba andinakuwugcina umgca wam omdala uDmitry Orlov. Ngenxa yoko ndiyichitha iimpawu ezimbi kum. Ndikhethile: ungatshintshi nto kum kwaye uhlale wedwa okanye "udilize" kwaye uhlale kufuphi nomntu onqwenelayo. Oku, akunjalo, akulula.
U-Irina, unenkwenkwezi kumlawuli owaziwayo uStanveniv Govorukhin kwi-movie "Umgibeli". Uvelwano lwakhe olunzulu kubasetyhini abaneefom ezininzi luyaziwayo.
Kwenene. UGovorukhin uhlala echaza ngokucacileyo ukuba ukhetha ukudubula ubuhle obuhle beRussia. Uthanda abesifazana emzimbeni, ngoko akakwazi ukufumana ama-actress afanelekileyo ixesha elide. Andiyazi isizathu sokuba i-Govorukhin ingithandile, kuba kwihlabathi le-cinema kuninzi namanye ama-actress amancinci "ngeefom." Kodwa, ndiyavuma, kulungile.
Amadoda anamhlanje azama ukuzungezela ngeendlela ezintle, kodwa ngeendlela ezintle. U-Irina, ingabe umyeni wakho akahambisani nemigangatho efanayo yobuhle?
Ukuba ndisoloko ndihlala kwimiqathango efanayo, ke iindima ziya kuba zizodwa. Ndiyaqonda ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuzondla ngokwaloo fomu, kodwa andiyi kufumana ubukhulu bomzekelo kwaye andifuni! Lo ngumgaqo-siseko wendalo. Yaye umyeni wam uyamthanda amafomu amnandi!
Uyaqinisekisa ukuba umsebenzi ophumeleleyo wobugcisa kunye nomfanekiso wesifazana ococekileyo uhambelana?
Kakade. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yokungapheleli komfanekiso, ulahlekelwe yinto. Nangona akukho mntu wandixelele ngako. Kwaye kwakukho isiganeko esihlekisayo kunye nomqondisi uAlexei Uchitel. Ngomfanekiso wakhe "Isikhundla njengesigxina" kwakudingeka ukuba unciphise umzimba. Ndahlala ekudleni kukaDkt. Volkov, okokuba ukubunjwa kwegazi kugqitywa yizinto "ezinqwenelekayo" kunye "nezinto ezingathandekiyo". Kwiinyanga ezintathu ndilahlekelwe ubunzima obukhulu. Ngeli xesha, ndaxhaswa ngokufanayo ngenxaxheba kwifilimu ethi "Hamba" kaMfundisi ofanayo. Kulo mfanekiso unokubona ngokucacileyo ukuba ndizalisekile kangakanani na phambi kwam amehlo. Ekuqaleni kwe-movie, ndiyintombazana encinane, kwaye ekugqibeleni ndivuthele.
U-Irina, ngaba uyinyaniso ukuba njengomntwana owawuthanda ucingo? Ngaba uhlala uhlasela okanye ukhusela ebomini?
Ezi zakhono zandisinceda ngokwenene kwi-movie ethi "Buyisela kwi-Musketeers". Ebomini, kufuneka ndizikhusele. Nangona ndingumntu woxolo. Andiyithandi iimbambano, kuba andiyazi ukuba ziphatha njani kwiimeko ezinje. Xa umama wakho efumene ukuba wangena kwiikholeji yecaterari, wayenecala ngokumelene nalo kwaye wathi: "Ihlabathi labalingisi libuxoki, inkohliso, ukunyaniseka. Banobubomi obungenakuthenjwa. " Ngoku uqinisekile ukuba umama uhlala ulungile? Ngokuqinisekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ndaqonda oku ngaphambili. Ukubaluleka okunjalo kokubaluleka koluntu lwabalandeli kuyinyaniso eyiyo. Ewe, kukho ukungafani.
Uze eMoscow uvela ngaphandle. Ngaba uye waba yinto enkulu namhlanje?
Akunjalo, ndiyintombazana yasemzaneni kwaye ungazami ukuba yinto enkulu, kuba kukude kukuncoma. Ndihlala kuphela kwikhaya nakwiimboniso. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ndivela kwidolophana yaseViksa. Kutheni u bonise? Ngamnye wethu unamaqabunga akhe kwikhefu. Ngaba uxhalabisayo ngezikhalazo zangaphambili?
Iminyaka emithathu edluleyo ndashiya inkundla yezemidlalo "uPyotr Fomenko's Workshop", apho i-startbutty yam yenzeka khona. Ngoku, ndijongene nabangangisebenza nabo, ndiziva ndingonwabi kwaye ndingonwabi. Nangona ndicinga ukuba umsebenzi wakhe wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo-ngokuthanda iTheater-Studio u-Oleg Tabakov. Le yodwa imeko ebomi endikhathazayo. Sadibana noPyotr Naumovich Fomenko kwesinye seziganeko ezithandathu ezinyangeni ezedlulileyo, kodwa akangibingeleli. Oku kumangalisa kwaye akunakuqondakala kum. Kodwa njengomntu ofundisayo, ndithi "Hayi!" Kwaye ndifuna ukugcina ubuhlobo obuphucukileyo naye. Emva koko, uPyotr Naumovich utitshala wam, ndadlala iminyaka emihlanu kwimboniso yakhe. Ndiyamthanda ndamthanda, ungumntu ogunyazisileyo kum. Inyaniso yokuba angandibulisi nguye ukhetho lwakhe. Ukuba, ngoko, undiphindezele ngokumshiya "kwiTabakerku" - ayiyonto. Ngaba wena ungumntu onempindiselo? Hayi, ayikho. Mhlawumbi, akukho namnye undikhubekisileyo kangangokuba ndagqiba ekubeni ndiphinde ndiphinde ndiphinde ndiphinde ndihlasele umntu. Andifuni ukuchitha ixesha lam, amandla kunye neentsholongwane kwizinto ezinjalo ezibudenge. Nangona ukuba i-zapolyat kakhulu-ndiya kuphendula ngesithunzi.