Cinga ubudlelwane obunjalo xa kukho ithemba kunye nokuqonda phakathi kokubambisana. Bahlala bekhululekile kunye kunye. Baye bafumana ixesha elaneleyo kunye kunye nobunzima obuninzi, bebachasene nesidima kunye kunye. Basondelene kakhulu, kuhlala kukho into ekuthetha ngayo. Ngelo xesha, ulwalamano lwabo alushiyi ubudlelwane kunye nolonwabo kwisini, bayathandana. Kungatsholwa ukuthi uthando lusaphila kulwalamano lwabo, kunye nothando lwabo.
Ulwalamano lwawo alukho izihlazo ezingenangqiqo ezisekelwe kumona okanye ukungaqondi. Bakuba yintsapho kunye nabantu abasondeleyo, ngamanye amaxesha namagama ayadingeki ukuba aqonde ukuba yintoni enye isiqingatha esifuna.
Ubudlelwane obuhle buzaliswe ngeempawu ezinjalo. Kodwa, nangaphantsi kweemeko ezinjalo, kukho ukungathandabuzeki, kodwa akunjalo uthando? Uthini umahluko phakathi kothando nothando? Indlela yokuziva nokuqonda xa uthando luba yintando.
Xa ulwalamano lwakho alukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi uthando, kodwa unokubiza ngokuba ngumkhwa. Uhlala kunye nomlingane kunye, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, ukuhlala kunye akuvuyi uvuyo kunye nentlonelo emphefumlweni. Kodwa, ingcamango yokuba uyingxenye kwaye uqale ubomi obutsha ayifuni kuvela entloko yakho. Ukuqhathaniswa yinto ongeyicinga ngayo.
Uthando luya kuchazwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: iigobolondo zakho zisekufutshane, kodwa imiphefumlo yakho, ngokwenene, yahlula amakhulu amabini amakhilomitha.
Ulwalamano olungenalo uthando kunye nolunye ufana noluthando, lunokuchazwa njengolu hlobo: "njengesihlunu esingenawo umthwalo - kunzima ukuwuthwala, kodwa kunesihawu ukukhupha ngaphandle."
Kutheni ulwalamano luba uthando? Ixesha elininzi lidlulileyo, ubudlelwane buye buthengisa iingxaki, isi sibini sisetyenziselana omnye ukuba sele sayeka ukuphawula ukuba khona komntu othandekayo. Kodwa, ngelo xesha, nangona olu hlobo lolwalamano alufanelanga bobabini bobabili, abacingeki ukuhlukana. Ngamnye wabo uloyiko lokutshintsha ubomi babo, ukungathandi ukuchitha amandla abo kunye nexesha lokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha.
Babuqhelisa ngokwabo amathuba abo okuvuya kunye nothando.
Ulwalamano olwakhiwe ngothando, luchaza umnqweno wobabini abalingani ukuba banike abanye ulonwabo kunye nokuthuthuzela. Abantu abathandana bathandana; bayonwabile kuba bebonke; phakathi kwabo kufudshane kunye nokuqonda. Kwimeko enzima, umntu onothando uya kuhlala ehlangula aze axhasane nomthandayo, kuba akakhathaleli ubomi kunye nokuphela kwesigamu sesibini.
Uthando nothando zihluke ngokupheleleyo. Akukho mcimbi unokwenzeka ukubeka uphawu olulinganayo phakathi kwabo. Uthando - xa umntu onothando engakhathaleli nayiphi na into encinci ebomini womthandayo.
Uthando alukhathaleli kunye nezenzo ezizenzekelayo ngokuphathelele kumlingane.
Uthando lokwenene luhlala ngonaphakade. Kule nto kufuneka sikholwe. Ukuba udibene nothando lokwenene, okuvela kuwo wonke umphefumlo wakho, ulugcine kwaye ukhuse kwaye aluyi kuba yintando.
Kodwa ukuba ulwalamano lwakho, oluye lwazisa ulonwabo kunye nolonwabo, luye lwaba uthando kwaye awukwazi ukuba wenze ntoni ngalo. Siyacebisa, hlaziya ubomi bakho kwaye uhlalutye ubuhlobo bakho nomlingane wakho. Zama ukubheka emphefumlweni wakho uze uqonde oko ufuna ngokwenene: ukuvuyiswa nokuthandwa, okanye ukuva ubunzima bakho bonke ekuthandeni, enzima kakhulu ukuyeka?
Emva kokuba uqonda kwaye ufumana iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo, unokuthi uqhubekele kwisenzo. Ukuba unomntu oqinileyo kunye onokuzithemba-ke uphonsa yonke into uze uqale uphila ukusuka ekuqaleni.