Izinto ezibonakalayo
Siqhotyoshelweyo kubo, sithintela ebomini babo ngokomzwelo. Silungele ukuchitha ixesha lethu kunye nokunyamekela ukulungiswa, ukuhamba kwi-vet nokufumana ukutya okunomsoco ... Sinyamezela zonke iziphazamiso ezinxulumene nokugcinwa kwazo: uboya babo, obonakala ngathi sele bekhona kwindlu yonke, zabo zivumba. Ziziphi na zonke ezo maxhoba? Kuze kube kutshanje, bonke oogqirha bezengqondo bavuma ukuba ukuba nesilwanyana endlwini kudlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ebusweni benja yakhe, umntwana ongakwazi ukugxininisa kwaye ongenalo ithuba lokufunda izibongo, ngokukhawuleza uyabatshela ngaphandle kwe-hitch. Abantu abakhulileyo bafumana ukunxibelelana kunye nezifuywayo ngokungahambi kakuhle. Sithanda ukuthetha kunye nezilwanyana kuba zikhuselekile ngokomoya, ziqikelele kwaye ziyaqondakala. Siyazi ukuba xa siwela umnqamlezo wendlu, intaka ethandekayo iya kuqala ukugubha ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye igubungele imilenze. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba siphosa kangakanani ibhola, inja yethu iya kusizisa ngokuqinisekileyo kumazinyo. Ukunxibelelana nabazalwana bethu abancinci kubangela ukuba sivuyiswe ngokwenene kunye neentlawulo ezilungileyo, kukhululekile kuthi. Emva koko, sithetha nabo, sabelana ngeemfihlelo zethu namava, sikholelwa ukuba izilwanyana ziyasiva kwaye ziqonde yonke into. Ngamanye amazwi, sihlala siqinisekile ukuba siya kufumana ingxelo yempembelelo kunoma yiyiphi izenzo zethu okanye nokuba lizwi, elibaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Ngokubanzi, ubukho benja okanye ikati ekhaya linamathuba amaninzi. Kubonakala kuthi ukuba bayasiqonda, sivakalelwa ukubulela nokuvalelwa kwethu, isimo sengqondo. Asoze asigxeke, asamkele njengathi. Emva koko, inja, ngokubanzi, ayinandaba nokuba umntu ungumnikazi wayo. Yinto efana nolo lwamkelo olwamkelekanga, oluzelwe ngumama kumntwana wakhe. Kwaye emva kwayo yonke into, sinjalo thina abasweleyo xa sikhula.
Ndiyavuma, kukude kuhlale kukhululekile kwaye kukhuselekile ukuba sibe kwinkampani yabanye abantu, kwada kusondele kakhulu. Emva koko, awanakulinganiseki, amaxesha amaninzi amazwi kunye nezenzo zabo ziyakwenza ubuhlungu buhlungu. Ngaphezu koko, bavavanya, ngelixa bengasoloko bethemba kakuhle, ngokusoloko begxekwa. Kwintlangano yabantu, asinakukwazi ukuxhomekeka kwiimvakalelo esizifumanayo ekunxibelelaneni nenja yakho oyintandokazi okanye ikati. Kule meko, akusiyo sonke siya kuba neengxabano ezinamandla kwimpikiswano nombhali we-aphorism eyaziwayo: "Xa ndiyazi abantu ngakumbi, ndithanda kakhulu inja." Kwaye ke, kuphela ngezilwanyana ezifuywayo sinamandla kwaye sinamandla. Emva koko, ubomi babo, inhlalakahle kunye nentlalo kuxhomekeke ngqo kuthi nakwizigqibo zethu. Kwaye ukuvakalelwa kwintlungu esiyifumanayo, ukukhathaza isilwanyana, basithuthuzela, bathuthuzele. Kwaye impendulo yombuzo, kutheni iilumpi zezilwanyana ezinomlilo ezifudumele ziba zizilwanyana zethu, zibonakala zicacile. Nangona kunjalo, akukho konke okulula. Sitshala imali kakhulu kwizilwanyana zethu ezifuywayo kungekhona kuphela ngenxa yokuba sifuna kwaye sifuna kanjalo.
Sinika izilwanyana zabantu iimvakalelo, izenzo, iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango. Akumangalisi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ukuba okunye-kwaye uya kuqala ukuthetha, kwaye abe ngumntu opheleleyo. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-anthropomorphism. Kungenxa yokuba inkunzi yezilwanyana ihlaziywa iba yindoda epheleleyo yentsapho yethu. Kuqukwa kwintsapho yethu yobomi. Akusiyo into yokuba abanye ababini abaneminyaka emibini, abangenazo abantwana okanye abantwana, sele bekhulile baze bashiye ikhaya labazali babo, babhekisele kwinja yabo okanye ikati njengomntwana wabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo bayavuma ukuba abanako ukuvakalelwa okunzulu kubantwana babo.
Abadibanisi abane abaneemilenze
Uphononongo olutshanje aluqinisekisi izigqibo malunga nenxaxheba efanelekileyo yenja okanye ikati ekuphuhlisweni kwentsapho. Inyaniso yokuba thina, engazi nto, sisebenzisa izilwanyana zethu njengabaxhamli ubudlelwane namanye amalungu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubukho bomhlobo obunemilenze emine kwintsapho sele sele luphawu lokungabikho koxinzelelo lwangomntu othile. Ngamanye amagama, isilwanyana sinokuyilungisa ingxaki, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, iyakwenza ibe nzima. Kodwa akayi kusombulula. Isoloko isisigxina somlinganiselo. Kuyaziwa ukuba isilwanyana sasekhaya "sinokuxhasa" intsapho kwizigaba ezahlukeneyo zokuphuhliswa kwayo, umjikelezo wobomi. Ngaphezu koko, ukubonakala kwakhe kwintsapho akuzange kwenzeke ngengozi. Isigqibo sokuqala inja okanye ikati ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala ngexesha elibonakalayo linomdla - xa usapho luya kutshintshwa (ngexesha lokukhulelwa komfazi, ngokukhawuleza emva kokuzalwa komntwana okanye xa ejika kwi-3, okanye 13-15). Kungenxa yokuba amalungu omndeni azama ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo, uxinzelelo olubangelwa ezi nguqulelo ngoncedo lwanyana. Kwaye, esikhundleni sokusinda kubo, intsapho ayilungele yona, ayikwazi ukuhlangabezana nabo. Emva koko isilwanyana esineemilenze ezine siba yintonga. Ngaphezu koko, ngamaxesha anjalo akunakwenzeka ukunyanzelisa intsapho ukuba ingaqalanga isilwanyana.
Okwesithathu?
Kwinkqubo yonyango yentsapho, kucingwa ukuba inkunzi leyo iyomelele ngakumbi kune-dyad. Ngamanye amazwi, intsapho yabantu abathathu igxininise ngaphezu kwesibini. Iyesithathu ivumela amanye amalungu amabini entsapho ukunciphisa uxhalabo. Ngokwesiko, owesithathu uba ngumntwana. Lo ngumzila ogqithiseleyo wokubonakalisa iimvakalelo zabantu abadala: xa uthetha malunga nosana, abazali abanakukwazi ukuchaphazela ubunzima obubudlelwane obuvela phakathi kwabo. Kwiintsapho ezincinci apho kungekho bantwana, okanye kwisibini esithile apho abantwana abadala bebehlukane nabazali babo, intsana okanye inqanaba ithatha indawo yengqondo ... umntwana. Kwaye isibini esitshatileyo, kunye nesilwanyana esilukhulileyo esikhatywayo singadlala indima yokuba "umntwana ococekileyo". Kule meko, akabavumeli ukuba bafunde ukusombulula ngokukhawuleza iimpikiswano eziphakamileyo. Futhi akayikuvumela ukuba intsapho ihambe kwinqanaba elilandelayo lomjikelezo wobomi - ukuba nomntwana okanye ukuvumela abantwana abadala ukuba bahambe.
Indawo engenazo
Ngamanye amaxesha umhlobo onamaqhina amane angathatha indawo yedwa ngumntwana, kodwa enye ilungu lentsapho. Yithi, kwimeko yokuqhawula umyeni okhuselekileyo onokuvumela ukuhlaselwa, ibhinqa liqala inja ekhuseleyo, inomdla. Nangona iinzame zomqeqeshi, umncedisi uvuselela inja ukuba ibonise ukuziphatha okubi. Kule meko, ibhinqa liphindaphinda imeko yesimo "sexhoba-i-hangman", elalijongene nayo emtshatweni. Kule meko, indima yesilwanyana sasekhaya ayiyiyo. Kweminye imeko, intsana okanye inkonti inokunceda ukusinda ukuxinezeleka okubangelwa ukufa kwelungu elithile lentsapho. Nayi indima yepilisi intle.
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Ngokuqhelekileyo, izilwanyana ziba sisikhubekiso phakathi kobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abatsha. Basebenzisa umgaqo - ukuba awuyithandi ikati / inja yam, ngoko andithandi. Ngaloo ndlela, baze bazifihle ngokwabo ukwesaba, ukungathandabuzeki kunye nexhala elijongene nalo qabane. Yithi, intombazana idibana nomfana, kwaye unayo ikati ekhaya. Ngexesha elithile, le ntombazana kwafuneka inqume ukuba ingaba ukuya kubo okanye cha? Le ntombazana yahlushwa ngumbuzo: intombazana inqabile kwizinwele zezilwanyana, ngoko ayiyithandi ikati yayo, ingaba njani? Ngenxa yoko, le ntombazana yagqiba ekubeni ihambe kunye nendoda. Kule meko, ikati, engazi, yaba yinkampani yokuhlukanisa. Le ntombazana yayithandabuze yona kunye nemizwa yalo mfana. Ukuxhalaba kwakhe kwafumana indlela yokuphuma, ukuguqula yonke ingqalelo kwikati. Emva koko, ukuba le ntombazana yayiqinisekile ukuba lo mntu uya kuhlala ubomi bakhe, abelethe abantwana, njl., Isilwanyana sakhe sinokukhangela ezinye iinkosi. Ngaphandle koko, iimfuyo ezine ezinemilenze zinokudlala indima ebalulekileyo, ukuncedisa abatsha abahlukeneyo kubazali abalawulayo rhoqo.