Ukuhlalutya indlela yakho, ukungaphumeleli kwakho kunye nempumelelo, umntu ngokukhawuleza ufumanisa ukuba, ngokubonakaliswa kwakhe kwangaphambili kwanokubonakala kakuhle, ubuntu bakhe abufezekanga. Kubonakala ukuba ixesha lichithekile, loo nto encinci yenziwa xa kuthelekiswa nento enokwenziwa. Ngamanye amazwi, uhlaziyo oluthile lwexabiso lwenziwa, umntu uhlaziya ngokucacileyo "I". Umntu ufumanisa ukuba izinto ezininzi ebomini azikwazi ukutshintshwa. Awukwazi ukuguqula wena: ukufundisa, utshintshe uqeqesho, utshintshe indlela yakho yokuphila. Inkxalabo ye-thirties ihlala ihamba nayo imfuneko engxamisekileyo yokwenza "into". Ibonisa ukuguquka komntu kwizinga elitsha leminyaka - isigaba sokudala.
Iyintoni ingxaki yeminyaka engamashumi amathathu?
Enyanisweni, ubunzima beeminyaka engamashumi amathathu kumadoda nabasetyhini - imbono enemiqathango. Le meko iyakwazi ukufika kungekudala okanye emva kwexesha elithile, mhlawumbi lenzeke ngaphezu kweyodwa, kunye neempembelelo zesikhashana.
Amadoda ngeli xesha badla ngokutshintsha indawo yabo yomsebenzi okanye batshintshe indlela yabo yobomi, kodwa ukugxininiswa kwabo emsebenzini nasemsebenzini kungatshintshi. Isizathu esona sihlandlo esiphezulu sokuguqula indawo endala yomsebenzi kukunganeliseki ngento ethile kwindawo eqhelekileyo - umvuzo, imeko, ubunzima be shedyuli.
Abasetyhini ngexesha leengxaki zeminyaka engamashumi amathathu badla ngokutshintsha izinto ezibalulekileyo abazibekayo ekuqaleni kokudala kwabo. Abasetyhini, ababegxilwe ngaphambili emtshatweni kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana, ngoku bakhangwa kwiinjongo zobugcisa. Abo babesinike amandla onke ekuziphuculeni kwabo kwaye umsebenzi uqale ukubakhokela kwisifuba sentsapho.
Ukusukela kuloo nkathazo yeminyaka engamashumi amathathu, umntu kufuneka aqinise i-niche yakhe ebomini obutsha obutsha, ukuqinisekiswa ngokucacileyo kwimeko yakhe njengomntu obanjwe. Ufuna ukuba nomsebenzi ohloniphekileyo, uzama ukuzinza nokukhuseleko. Umntu usenethemba lokuba uyaziqonda ngokupheleleyo iimbono zakhe namaphupha, kwaye uzama ukwenza konke oko.
Ubuninzi kunye nomdlalo we-experience experience crisis can be different. Kuxhomekeke kumoya womntu. Oku kungaba yintlungu engaphakathi, ihamba kunye nenkqubo epholileyo, engenakubuhlungu. Kungaba sisibonakaliso esivuthuzelayo, esinemvakalelo enzulu kunye neenkanuko ezinzulu, ezithi, ngamanye amaxesha zikhokelela ekuhlakaleni ngokukhawuleza kobudlelwane obudlulileyo. Ingxaki enjalo ihamba kunye neemvakalelo ezinzulu, zize zikhokelela kwizifo zomzimba. Izifo eziqhelekileyo kule nkcitho zixinzelelo, ukungapheli, ukudinakala okungapheliyo, ukunyamezela, ukukhathazeka okungafaniyo. Ukulungiswa okulula kweengxaki ngokuxhomekeke ekusebenzeni ngempumelelo komntu unokusombulula iingxaki zakhe zophuhliso.
Iintlukwano phakathi kweengxaki zesilisa neyesetyhini
Ngeli ngxaki, amadoda namabhinqa adlula kwinqanaba elifanayo, ukuvakaliswa kwabo kugqithiselwa kuphela. I-psychology yamadoda isetyenziswe ngakumbi ekuqinisekiseni kulo msebenzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo intsimi ekhethiweyo yomsebenzi iyahluka ukuba yintoni eya kubangela ukuba uphumelele. Ukongezelela, ukukhumbula iminyaka engama-30 yendoda iyavumelana ngokutshintshwa kweengcamango kwaye ngokwayo kukho umbuzo wokuzikhethela-ngaba ndiyahambelana nale migaqo, ndingubani mna ngoku kwaye ndiya kukulwela ntoni kwixesha elizayo?
Emva kweminyaka engama-30, abasetyhini baphinde bacinge indima yabo yentlalo. Abasetyhini, abaseminyakeni emincinci bejoliswe emtshatweni, ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana, ngoku baqhubele phambili ekuphumeleleni kweenjongo zobungcali. Ngethuba elifanayo, abo babekade bebandakanya umsebenzi, njengomthetho, zama ukukhawuleza ukudala intsapho kunye nokuzala abantwana.
Ukuzithemba ngamandla kunye nokuqonda ubuchule bakhe, kwakunye nokusekwa kwamabango anele ngokubhekiselele kumava obomi bomntu, kunika umntu ngengqiqo. Abantu abasayikholelwa ngokuzimela ngokumangalisa, kodwa bazikhethele bona: "Impumelelo yam ehambelana ngqo nomlinganiselo wenzame endikulungele ukuyenza." Ukugcina ixesha lakho lokukhulula, umdlalo ozithandayo uvumela ukuba uqaphele konke okusemandleni omntu ebomini. Umhlathi ngokusebenzisa umda ongenakukuphepha wokuba unyaka wama-30 uvumela umntu ukuba atshintshe ubomi bakhe ngokukhawuleza nangenjongo, ukuze abeke iinjongo ezicacileyo kunye nezinto eziphambili kwixesha elizayo. Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu yile minyaka yobudala, ubuqhopho buntu. Eli lixesha apho ukulungiswa kwemigaqo yokuphila kunye neenjongo kwenza kube lula ukwenza izicwangciso ezininzi.
Iingxaki zengqondo kunye nezobuqu
Iimpawu zengqondo zale minyaka (ngokwemisebenzi yazo zonke iinkqubo zomzimba) zihambelana ngqo nomoya wengqondo. I-physics, kwininzi yabasetyhini abaneminyaka engama-30 (malunga nama-65%), isondo sokuqhuba isondo sifinyelela kuphuhliso olupheleleyo. Kulo nqanaba, kuya kuba sele malunga neminyaka engama-60. Enyanisweni, kwamanye amabhinqa kukho ukwehla okukhulu komnqweno, ngokukodwa kwiminyaka engama-40. Kwamadoda, nangona kunjalo, imfuno yokuphila ngokwesondo kwinqanaba eliphezulu lifikelela kwiminyaka eyi-25 ukuya kwe-30. Emva koko kukho ukuhla kokuhamba kancane. Yingakho abaninzi abafazi abaneminyaka engama-30 bakhononda ukuba amadoda abo asebenze kakhulu, aze ahlasele embhedeni, kwaye emva kweminyaka engama-30 bahlala bekhalaza ngokungaboni kakuhle umsebenzi wezesondo ngabayeni babo.
Ngaphandle, abantu abadala, abaneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala abanesimo sengqondo somzimba basakhula. Ngeempawu zabo zendalo, zinokuthathwa njengabantwana abaselula, bengayazi. Ngenxa yoko, abantu abatsha abaye badala intsapho kwiminyaka engama-30 ukuya ku-35, abanalindelekanga kuphela ukuqala kobomi bentsapho, kodwa neengxaki ngokubunjwa kwayo. Kulo nyaka ungoko-mthetho oluqhelekileyo kwiintsebenziswano kuboniswa.