Lo mbandela awuvuki ngengozi xa uhlala phantsi. Kukhona imizwa edibeneyo. Kakade, kuyajabulisa. Emva koko, kuya kuba nexesha elininzi lokukhululeka ekuzinikeleleni kwintsebenziswano ayithandayo, ukufumana umdla omtsha, ukuthatha ubomi bomntu, ukunyamekela impilo yakhe. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kukho uvuyo kunye nexhala lokuba ezinye iingxaki ziya kuvela. Ubomi buya kufana njani nomhlalaphantsi? Ngaba kukho imali eyaneleyo? Ngaba bekungeke kube nzima ukuhlala ngaphandle koogxa? Kwaye le mibuzo eninzi. Kodwa kulula ukulahla uxinzelelo ngamanyathelo amathathu kuphela. Zilula kakhulu:
Isinyathelo sokuqala
Yenza isicwangciso sobomi bakho besikhathi esizayo. Kwaye kufuneka kucetywe kwangaphambili. Cinga, yiyiphi ikamva ucinga? Musa ukuncika kwixesha elizayo okanye ithuba. Ewe, ukucwangciswa kwezezimali kuya kuba yinto ebalulekileyo kunayo. Ukuyicombulula kuyimfuneko kokuqala, xa kukho iingcinga malunga nobomi obufanelekileyo kwimpesheni.
Kodwa lo mbuzo awusiye kuphela omele uqwalaselwe ngqalelo kwangaphambili. Nika izicwangciso zakho ngekamva kumyeni okanye kwizihlobo zakho. Cinga kunye malunga nendlela oza kuphila ngayo kwaye phi, ukuthembela kobutyebi bakho.
Ngokusekelwe kuhlahlo-lwabiwo-mali, qi niseka ukucinga ngendlela ubuhlobo nabathandekayo obungatshintsha ngayo. Ngaba ungathanda ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo? Indlela yakho yobomi ingayishintsha njani? Yiyiphi ibhizinisi elikhethekileyo nelinomdla okwenzayo? Ngaba unokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo impilo yakho? Njengomthetho, ubudala bomhlalaphantsi bubonakala buninzi bezifo.
Isinyathelo sesibini
Abafazi abaneminyaka engama-50 ukuya ku-5 ubudala bayesaba ukuba umhlala-phantsi uya kuthintela ingqondo kunye neengqondo. Umsebenzi wezobugcisa uya kuncipha, izifo ezitsha ziya kubonakala. Ewe, kwenzeka. Ngoko uzama ukungabi phantsi kweendawo eziqhelekileyo. Ukucinga ukuba ulahlekelwe yintlalo kuluntu, uya kuba nexinzelelo. Musa ukucoca unxibelelwano kunye nabangaphambili kunye nabo osebenza nabo. Kwaye ke awuyi kuvakalelwa kwedwala kuluntu lwabantu kunye nobunzima obukhulu.
Kusuka naziphi na imeko kukho indlela yokuphuma. Ukuba uphoswa ngabahlobo osebenze iminyaka emininzi, qalisa ukuhlala udibanisa nabo. Yenza konke ukwenza abahlobo abatsha. Bandakanya ekwandiseni isangqa soqhagamshelwano. Musa ukuphelelwa yithemba, ukuzodwa kunye nokudandatheka kukufumanisa.
Isinyathelo sesithathu
Ukunyamekela ngakumbi iimfuno zakho. Ungesabi ukunqaba nabantu abasondeleyo. Musa ukuziva unetyala. Lobu bubomi bakho, awunanto ebantwini na. Abaninzi abasetyenziselwe umhlalaphantsi banikela ixesha labo bonke abantwana kunye nabazukulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abangekhe bathathe umhlalaphantsi, kuba bazama ukuncedisa izinto eziphathekayo kwintsapho yomntwana okanye ukunyamekela bonke abantwana abancinci, banike abantwana ithuba lokuba basebenze okanye baphumle ngaphezulu. Ziziphi ezi zinto?
Kakade ke, kukho imeko ezinzima zobomi ezinganiki ukhetho. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, uncedo lubonakala kuqala njengengqwalasela emnandi, kwaye iya kuthiwa iyimfuneko. Iingxaki zabantwana nabazukulu ziya kukhula. Kwaye uya kufuneka ubenokugqiba isigqibo njengento ethile. Izicwangciso zabo zobomi ziya kufuneka zihlehliswe ngonaphakade. Kodwa kukho indlela yokuphuma. Ngokulula, kufuneka nje ukucacisa ubuhlobo kwaye uthethe ntoni na oza kwenzayo noko kungenjalo. Bancede bafumane iindlela zokunceda. Bafuna ukwazi ixesha eliza kunikwa kwimfundo yabazukulwana. Yabelana ngokuzaliseka kwemicimbi yemihla ngemihla phakathi kwamalungu entsapho yakho enkulu. Bazise ukuba unelungelo elipheleleyo kubomi bakho abucala, izifundo zakho kunye neminqweno. Musa ukubeka amahlombe akho phantsi kweengxaki zabantu abadala, nokuba ngaba bangabantwana bakho.
Ngokufunda ukucwangcisa nokulawula ubomi bakho, awusoze wathembela kwiimeko zangaphandle kunye nabantu abajikelezile. Uya kuphila ngezicwangciso zakho, amathuba kunye neminqweno.
Ukunandipha ukuphumla kwakho ngokufanelekileyo kukulungile! Yenza imisebenzi oyithandayo, ulondoloze impilo kwaye ujonge imihla ngemihla umhlalaphantsi ofanelekile.