Ngoko, indoda ifuna ntoni kumfazi, yiyiphi amazwi eya kuphazamisa indlebe yakhe, ivuselele kwaye ivuselele ingqiqo kunye nokubaluleka? Yintoni esifanele thina, bafazi, sitsho kubantwaba bethu abathandekayo ukuba sibonise ubungqina babo, sibonise uthando?
Wonke la mazwi, afunekayo kuwo wonke umntu, axhomekeke, kuninzi, kwinto afuna ngayo ubomi. Ukususela kuloo mvakalelo, iinjongo, iimvakalelo kunye nempumelelo, apho ayenandiphayo kwaye uyonwaba. Nantsi, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokuzimeleyo: kwimeko nganye, indoda ingathanda ukuva into ethile ekhethekileyo, kodwa kukho iingongoma eziphambili ebomini babo, okukuvumela ukuba ufumane impendulo ngqo kumbuzo othi: "Yintoni indoda efuna kumfazi?".
Mhlawumbi, enye yeenzuzo eziphambili zomntu ingamandla kunye nokuthembeka kwakhe. Andiphikisi - kungekhona onke amadoda anjalo, kodwa ndifuna ukukholelwa ukuba okhethiweyo wakho unayo impawu ezimangalisayo. Ngoko kutheni ungamxelela ngaye? Kutheni ungathethi ukuba ungemva kwakhe - njengodonga lwamatye? Ingaba uyinkxaso yakho, ikholelwa yakho kwikamva elonwabileyo? Ngamanye amaxesha sinoyika ukuthetha la mazwi ngokuvakalayo. Kwaye akucaci: kutheni? Mhlawumbi omnye wethu ukwesaba "jinxing", kwaye omnye umntu ucinga ukuba ngamazwi anjalo umntu uya kuphumla aze ayeke ukuthembeka kwaye anqine? Andizi, andinakuyithetha. Ndiyazi ngokuchaneka kuphela into enye: akukho mntu akayi kunqaba ukuva ukuba usebenza njengenkxaso yangempela kwintsikelelo yakhe esithandekayo yesibini. Ngoko masingamthinteli lo lonwabo, ingakumbi ukuba uyayifaneleka ngokwenene isihloko esithi "Mntu"!
Yintoni umntu afuna ukuva kwiintombi zakhe? Ngokuqinisekileyo, indumiso, isandi esilungileyo (esifanelekileyo) sokubaluleka kwezakhono kunye neetalente. Awucingi ukuba nguwe kuphela ofuna udumo olufike ngexesha, kwaye nguwe kuphela okhuthazwayo ukuphucula nokuphucula? Amadoda afana nathi, njengenxalenye enkulu. Kutheni abafuni ukuva kuwe: "Wow, Vovochka, yintoni na umntu onomhle onami! Ngokukhawuleza ndamisela iphampodi ekhitshini - ngoku ayiqhubekiyo konke! ", Okanye" Yurochka, ungoyena mhle kwaye unengqiqo: uyanconywa ngobunkokheli bakho, kwaye konke oku akusilize, ndandisoloko ndiyazi ukuba ikhondo elimangalisayo likulindele! " . Ezi ntetho ezinoncoko ziyakwazi kwaye zifuneke ukuba zithandwe ngokubanga okulinganayo okuza kuqinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo umntu wakho ukuba konke akwenzayo kulungile. Yaye ukuba uyindoda yokwenene owaziyo okumele akwazi ukuyenza.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye udumo kufuneka, njengoko lithethayo, lunqunyelwe. Ubuncinane nje ngokuba ukuziqhenya neenkwenkwezi ezikhanyayo ebunzini "akukacinywa. Ngokukhawuleza kubandakanywa kwiimeko apho abasetyhini bekhahla ngamadoda abo ngamatye ahloniphekileyo. Kwaye into eyona nto yinto yokuba "abafana" banjalo baqala ukuziva bengakhululeki nakubani na ukugxekwa. Kwaye, ukuba uThixo akavumanga, awuyi kuthanda oko akwenzileyo; qaphela isiphepho! Indoda engacaciswanga kwaye iyaxabiswa yinto engathandekanga kunokuba ibhinqa efana nesimo esifanayo.
Ngoko ke, masenze isigqibo sokuba kunjalo. Apha wenza into enjalo kwihlabathi jikelele kwaye engalindelekanga, kodwa luncedo kakhulu - wamdumisa, musa ukuwasebenzisa ngamazwi anomnene. Lapha usebenze ekunyuseni okufanelekileyo, uthi unengqondo yangempela, ukuba uyadutshulwa, kodwa kusekudala ukuphumula, kuba kukude kwinqanaba lomsebenzi (mhlawumbi, kungekudala, kodwa indlela, njengokuba ithetha, i-thorny and severe ). Okanye ndilapha ndahlambulula indlu, eyayizange iphawulwe ngaphambili - yinto enhle naye! Kufuneka uhlale ugxininisa kwinto oye waphawula ukuba uyayixabisa le nto engapheliyo. Ewe, ke, phantsi kwengxolo, ungathula ngokuthula, bathi, "Ndingathini na, ndithandekile, ndidiniwe lo kucocwa: umva ubuhlungu, kwaye umlenze ulapha apha ... kwaye uyavuya kakhulu!". Nantsi inqaku: mhlawumbi liya kususwa ukususela ngoku ngoku? Kwaye nasi esinye isizathu sokudumisa: uvela kumsebenzi ukhathele, kwaye wena-isidlo se-chic, ibhotile yewayini oyithandayo kwaye yena, enzima kwaye enobubele. Uyancipha ngokukhawuleza, uyakondla, enze i-massage enkulu, abeke ezandleni zakho egumbini lokulala, aphinde aphinde akhombise indlela enothando ngayo, aze ahlambe izitya aze asuse imifanekiso yothando. Ewe, makwenzeke ngokuqhelekileyo-kodwa ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, kutheni kungekusa kusasa kusondela kuye kwaye ungabetheki ngothando: "Ndiyabonga ngokuhlwa, uthando lwam, ubuhle!". Ndikholelwe, amazwi anjalo kunye nomoya wakho ovuyayo uyona nto inokubangela ukuba uphinde uphinde uvuselele lo mdlalo wothando! Kwaye ke, kaninzi kangakanani abafazi, ubusuku bonke benomdla, banxila ngothando, kusasa kwakhona kuba yinto encane. Kwaye kuqala "ukumbona": bathi, kwaye iwayini yayimuncu, kwaye izitya zihlanjwe kabi, kwaye ebhedini kwakungekho nto enhle. Kwaye ke siyakhononda: bathi, siphi isithandana sethu sinobubele, kuphi na konke?
Ewe, okugqibela kwiluhlu lwethu, kodwa, mhlawumbi, okokuqala kubaluleke kukuthetha ngothando. Ewe, ekuboneni kuqala, ibhanki kunye noshukela omnandi: "Ndiyakuthanda" kwaye "Ndiyakudinga", naye, akukho mntu ukhansele. Wena ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwamagama, uziva njani? Ingacingi ingacangca engqondweni, bathi, ukuba bengathethi, mhlawumbi bawa ngothando kwaye abafuni ukundiqonda kwakhona, nje ukuba besoyika? Kuyafana namadoda: maye benze ubuso bzitena kwaye athi "bayabangel 'umdla kwaye abayifuni, kodwa basenzulu emphefumlweni (mhlawumbi bangabi nzulu njengokuba bafuna ukubonisa) ngoko bafuna ukuva kuthi kuthi siyayithanda njani kwaye siyayixabisa! Kwaye ukubenza bave ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngezenzo ezixhaswa ngamagama acinayo yinto yethu engcwele (nangona kunjalo, nabo banomsebenzi wabo, nangona bahlala belibale malunga nalo).
Ibhinqa kufuneka ibe sisilumko kwaye iqine, kufuneka ikwazi ukulawula indoda engabonakaliyo, imkhokele, imkhokele ngendlela efanelekileyo. Hayi, andiyi kuthetha ngokuthobela okungabonakaliyo - izigqila azikho ngoku ngoku, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha amadoda alungele ukwenza izinto ezinjalo zokuhlambalaza, apho sifanele sizikhuphe khona! Kwaye kuya kubakho okufunekayo ukuba ukwazi ukufumana amagama alungileyo nechanekileyo angayi kumnqanda kuphela, kodwa wamphakamisa ukuba abonakalise ulwalathiso olufunayo zombini.
Yingakho kufuneka ukwazi: yintoni indoda efuna kumfazi, ngamaphi amagama aya kukwazi ukumkholisa into ethile, ayeke, ngqo. Kwaye ngendlela efanayo indoda yakho iyazi ukuba 'unokuthatha' njani. Kwaye akubi, akusikho ukuphathwa - kukuphela kokuphila okudibeneyo, imiqobo enceda ukugcina ihlabathi kuyo.