Kuqala kuphi?
Okokuqala, akusiyo ingcinga embi ukuqonda ukuba amandla okunqoba nayiphi na ubunzima kuyimfuneko. Ukuba awuhambi kwaye uphelele phambi kokusweleka konke, akukho mfuno encinane kunazo zonke eya kusondela. Umntwana kufuneka afunde indlela yokuhlala kwihlabathi elidala, kodwa amanyathelo kufuneka athathwe ngokuthe ngcembe ekubhekeleni ubomi obunembopheleleko. Umbono wakhe wehlabathi ngoku kude-lo mbono womntwana, apho akukho ndawo idlulileyo nezayo, kodwa kuphela nje. Ukuzama ukunyathela umqobo, umntwana uqala ukubona apho iinjongo zakhe zikhokelela khona. Emva kwexesha, uya kufunda ukubala iziphumo zezenzo zakhe kwaye abe noxanduva.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bazama ukukhusela umntwana kuyo yonke imikhosi evela kwimpembelelo engafanelekanga yehlabathi elingaphandle, bazama ukuzalisa iimfuno zomntwana kwaye baqinisekise ukuba ubomi bakhe bunzima. Kodwa kwinkathalo enjalo kukho ukungalunganga. Kwabanye abantwana maxa wambi bafanele benze into, kungakhathaliseki ukukhathala kunye nomoya, umzekelo, hlamba izandla phambi kokutya, beka amathoyizi endaweni yabo, benze umsebenzi wesikolo. Oku kuya kunika ingcamango echanekileyo yokuzimela, kuba sikhulile asikwazi ukuhlala sikwenza oko sifuna. Ngokuqhelekileyo akahluphekanga ukulibaziseka.
Malunga nefuthe.
Ukukhuthaza umntwana kuyimfuneko. Imiyalelo ngaphandle kweenkcazo kuya kubangela ukuba umntwana uya kufunda ukuthobela nokuzalisekisa iimfuno ezithile ngokuzenzekelayo. Kodwa akayi kuqonda into awazama ngayo. Kodwa obaluleke kakhulu - akayi kumangaliswa kwaye aneluncedo kulokho okufunayo kuye. Ngokomzekelo, ubusuku bonke uhlamba amazinyo akho. Abantwana abaphambukisi ukushiya lesi sikhokelo ngokuthanda imizuzu eyongezelelweyo kwi-TV. Ukuba ufuna ukungeniswa ngaphandle kokuchazela izizathu ezifunayo, umntwana uya kubhikisha. Kodwa enyanisweni, ezi zenzo zijoliswe ekunyamekelweni kwempilo yakhe, ngoko umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba ukuxubha amazinyo akho ngumnikelo kwimpilo yakho, kungabikho izibango zabantu abadala.
Okubaluleke ngokukodwa kukukhuthaza kwizifundo. Sonke siyazi ukuba indlela yethu yokufundisa engaphelelekanga ngayo kwaye kunzima kangakanani umntwana ukuba ahlale enomdla ekufundeni kuyo yonke iminyaka ayichitha esikolweni nakwiziko. Nangona kunjalo, imfundo yenye yeemfuno ezibeka phambili ubomi. Ngaphandle kwalo, kunzima ukufezekisa impumelelo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba zenzeke kwizakhono ezininzi. Ngelo xesha, iiklasi zinokubethisa kakhulu. Cacisa umntwana ukuba ulwazi oluyisiseko kwizenzululwazi, iilwimi, ezinye izakhono ezisebenzayo ziya kumnceda abe ngumntu onoyolo. Ukuze ube nobomi obunomatasa obunomdla, kufuneka usebenze nzima. Kwaye kuphela umntu ofundeleyo unokukhetha ngokupheleleyo iimeko zomsebenzi wakhe aze alindele umvuzo ohloniphekileyo.
Ubunzima obungenakukuphepha.
Kuyaziwa ukuba yonke into ehlabathini ayikwazi ukuhamba kakuhle. Kukho ubunzima kwiindlela zokufezekisa injongo yakho. Umntwana akanakho ukuhlangabezana nento ethile. Kubalulekile ukumxhasa ngexesha elithile, ukwenza konke ukwenzela ukuba ukungaphumeleli akuyi kuthusa umnqweno wakhe wokuhamba. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukucacisa ukubaluleka kwamava amabi. Tshela umntwana malunga neepazamo zakhe, malunga nokuba bakunike ithuba lokuba bangaziphinda kwixesha elizayo.
Into ephambili kukuba ukungaphumeleli akuhambisani nokuhlambalahlwa okanye ukuhlwaywa. Musa ukulibala ukuba abantwana bafunde oko oye wakwazi ukukwenza ixesha elide kwaye abanalo mzekelo wakho-amava akho afunekayo, nokuba awuphumelelanga. Ncedisa umntwana, kodwa ungazami ukwenza lo msebenzi wonke. Ngokukhawuleza xa efunda into ethile, uyaqonda kwaye alungise ulwazi, uya kulawulo ngokupheleleyo kwaye engenakho uncedo. Zama ukulibala ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza impazamo, nokuba ngumntu omncinane.
Ukuba usabela ngokufanelekileyo ekubunjweni komntu wengane yakho, ukuba izenzo zakho azikho nje kuphela uthando, kodwa kunye nezwi lokuqiqa, ngamava akho, ngoko ke indlela eya ekuphuhliseni iimpawu zobunkokheli kwi-kid iya kuba mfutshane kwaye ilula.