Ngaba kukho uxinzelelo kubantwana? Ewe, ukuxinezeleka kunye neurosa ziqhelekile kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo. Namhlanje siya kuzama ukuqonda izizathu zeli meko kwaye sinike iingcebiso kubazali abanenkathazo.
Ngesizathu esithile, sisetyenziselwa ukukholelwa ukuba ukudakumba kukuba ngumntu abadala. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza umntu uqala ukufumana ingxaki engaxhamliyo, ubuthathaka, uxhalaba, sinokuyixilonga. Kuyabonakala ukuba abantwana banokubandezeleka kwesi sifo ...
Iingcali ziphawula le meko nakwiintsana. Amava okuqala abantwana bokudandatheka bafumana kwixesha elivela kwiinyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwi-1.5 iminyaka. Oku kudla ngokuba ngenxa yokuba umama uqala ukondla umntwana, ukucoca kancane kancane esifubeni, nangona kuhamba nokusebenza, ukuhlawula unina okanye unina. Ngeli xesha ukulwa nokudakumba unokucebisa enye kuphela - ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka kwaye uxhumane nomntwana wakho ngokufanelekileyo.
Kule minyaka, lesi sifo kunzima ukuyiqonda, sinokukunceda kuphela uphando. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Konke oku kulandela kwinto yokuba abazali abayiboni umntwana omncinci njengomntu onobuqili, cinga ukuba mncinci kwaye akayiqondi imeko. Oku kulandela ukuba isizathu sokudandatheka kwangaphambili ngabazali ngokwabo, abangabaphulaphuli abantwana babo.
Njengoko umntwana ekhula, i-depress state iba lula, kuba iimpawu zivele zibonakala kwi-iso isohlwayo: ukunganakwa, nokungafuni ukuqhagamshelana nabantu, nokungabandakanyeki kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo.
Apha izizathu zesifo zihlukile.
Kubafundi besikolo esiprayimari, ukuxinezeleka kunokubonakalisa ngokungenakwenzeka kokugcina ingqwalaselo ephezulu, ukubonakala kweengxaki zememori, kunye neengxaki zokuphumelela kwimfundo ziqala.
Abantwana abanengxaki yokuxinezeleka bangabelana ngamaqela amathathu:
• abafundi abanokunyanzela utitshala, ukungquzulana nabafundi ofunda nabo, abayigcineli ukuqeqeshwa kwisifundo, bangakwazi ukulawula. Abantwana abanjalo babengazixelisi ngokuzithemba.
• Abafundi, ngokusemgangathweni, banokuhlangabezana nempahla yokufundisa, kodwa ngokukhawuleza banokutshintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo, bangabakhathaleli, bajonge kwihlabathi labo elingaphakathi. Oku kubangelwa ukuba inkqubo ye-nervous child does not resist the load training load or emotional stress.
• Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba ukuhlala kwangaphandle (ukufundisisa kakuhle, ukuziphatha kakuhle) kufaka ingxabano yangaphakathi. Abafundi besikolo banokwesaba ukuya ebhodini, bafunda isifundo esifundekileyo, basuke bengacacile, basabela ngentshukumo xa bexeka kakhulu kwidilesi yabo. Kancinci, ukwesaba ukungazilungeleli izifundo, uthisha oqinileyo ukhula ekungabikho ukuya esikolweni.
Kwiintsholongwane, ukuxinezeleka kubonakala, ngokukodwa ekuphambukeni kwemigangatho yokuziphatha: umntwana uyaba nobudlova, ahlambuluke kubo bonke abantu, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ukuhlaziywa kwanoma yimuphi na, ungabalulekanga, ithuba. Impembelelo ekuqaleni kwesi sifo inokusebenza njengengxaki. Kubomntu omdala, uthando lokuqala, iimviwo, ukuphikisana nabahlobo okanye ootitshala, kubonakala zingabalulekanga, kwaye kwintsholongwane ingaba yingozi.
Akukho mfuneko ukuba umntu angenelele kakhulu kwimicimbi yomntwana, ahlekise, enze izigqibo ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle koko kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi. Ukuze ugweme ukugula, abazali bafuna nje ukuthanda umntwana wabo ngaphandle kwemibutho, bazive bekhululekile ukubonisa uthando lwabo, balumkele iingxaki zabo.
Imoya kwindlu kufuneka ibe nobungane kumntwana, ukuze ahlale efuna ukubuyela apho a thandayo kwaye ahlonipheke, umamele umbono wakhe. Ikhaya liyinkqantosi yobomi bonke, indawo apho ungafihla khona iingxaki kunye neengxaki.
Ngethamsanqa, ukuxinezeleka kuyaphathwa, kodwa kutheni ukulwa nalo, ukuba unokulandela amanyathelo okukhusela, awanakunzima. Kufuneka kuphela, emva kweziphakamiso zoogqirha, ukuxhasa inkqubo yeentlungu zabantwana ngamavithamini kunye nokulungelelanisa ukutya okuphelileyo kwiprotheni. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ekuthintekeni nasekunyangekeni koxinzelelo kubantwana, indima ephambili yabazali. Sidinga ukuqonda ukuthetha nomntwana, ukuphulaphula uluvo lwakhe kunye neengcebiso, ukufudumala uthando lwakhe, ukunceda ekuxazululeni iingxaki. Ngamafutshane, ukwenza konke ukwenzela umntwana ukuba azive njengomntu opheleleyo, wafunda ukuphila ngokuvisisana naye kunye nehlabathi elikufutshane naye. Ukudandatheka kunye neentsholongwane kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo-imeko, njengokuba oogqirha bathi, kulungiswa, kodwa kungcono ukukhusela kakade kwisigaba sokuqala.