Okokuqala, phawula ingqalelo iimpawu zangaphandle zokuziphatha kwabantu.
Ukuba udibaniselwano wakho ukhwehlela ngokukhawuleza, uphefumula kakhulu, i-stutters, ihlala ikhanya, ibunzi lakhe likhunjulwe ngamaconsi okuthuthumela, ubuso bakhe bubomvu okanye ubude, buhlala buhlamba umlomo wakhe, konke oku kuluphawu lokuba uthetha amanga.
Ukuze uqonde ukuba umntu uyakhohlisile okanye cha, kufuneka ukwazi ngokusisiseko isisetyenziso sokunxibelelana. Ukunyamekela i-gesticulations kunye nemiqondiso eyenziwa ngumzimba wakhe.
Umntu othetha into engeyonyaniso, ufihla amehlo akhe, ugweme ukubonana kwamehlo nomnxibelelwano. Ngokuqhelekileyo uyichukumisa ubuso bakhe, ubeke umlomo wakhe ngokungathandabuzekiyo, uthinte isifuba sakhe entliziyweni. Imisitho yomnxibelelwano iyanqamle kwaye ikhuselekile. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuchasene noko, umqambimanga unokunikela ngokunyameka okukhulu. Ngokomzekelo, ulungisa rhoqo iimpahla, iinwele, akhuphe kwi-engines, iiglavu ezigubungelayo, iminwe ebinayo, ukuhlamba izandla. Ngexesha elithethwa ngumntu ongeyinyaniso, unganqongqoza unyawo lwakhe phantsi, ulungiselele izinto kwitafile. Ngelizwi, ukuziphatha ngokuphumla.
Indlela yokuqala yokuphendula iyona inyaniso. Ukuba, emva kombuzo wakho, amehlo ombonelelayo avakalisa ukungathandabuzeki, ukudideka, ukungaqiniseki, kwaye uthi ngolu xuku nje ukuba unesiqiniseko, kuyafaneleka ukufaka izigqibo.
Umntu unokucinga ngomzuzwana ukuba eze nempendulo oyithandayo okanye uya kukulungisa, kuyafaneleka ukuba uhlale uqaphile. Vumelana ukuba xa umntu ethetha inyaniso, akayi kucinga. Kwakhona qwalela ingqalelo kwintetho yesenzo kunye namagama. Ukuba, ngeempendulo ezilungileyo, umnxibelelwano uyagubungela intloko yakhe kakubi, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uyagxininisa intloko yakhe ngokuqinisekileyo, ukubiza amagama ambi, mhlawumbi, kuthetha ukuba uxelelwa oko ufuna ukukuphulaphula, kungekhona inyaniso.
Njengomthetho, abantu abaqamba amanga, bathathe isikhundla sokuzivikela, zama ukuzithethelela. Abo bathetha inyaniso baya kuhlambalaza. Nangona kunjalo, ungalibali ngegama eliyaziwayo "ukukhusela okulungileyo - ukuhlaselwa".
Ukuqamba amanga akubi, ngoko umnxibelelwano wakho unokuzama ukushiya ummandla wakho wombono, umzekelo, ukuxhomekeka emnyango, ecaleni ukufihla emva kwayo, ukuwa phantsi kwinqaba yezihlalo, njl njl. Ingqiqo, umqambimanga unokumisa umqobo phakathi kwakho ngendlela yekomityi, incwadi, ukuma, i-vase, okanye nayiphi na into ekufikelele kuyo.
Xa uphendula imibuzo yakho, umntu usebenzisa amagama akho, aphendule kwifom echanekileyo. Uzama ukuthetha ngeengcebiso, endaweni yokuthetha ngqo. Umkhohlisi uya kuthetha amazwi amaninzi, echaza zonke iinkcukacha ezincinci, ezama ukungavumeli ukuba ufake igama. Naka ingqalelo yethoni yomnxibelelwano. I-stamp ephakamileyo yezwi izokuxelela ukuba umntu ufumana uxinzelelo kunye nevakalelo. Intetho ekhohlakeleyo yomqambimanga yenzelwe ukuba uqaphele.
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu uyakhohlisayo, zama ukuguqulela umnxibelelwano kwenye isihloko. Umxoki onoyolo olukhulu uya kuxhasa le ngcamango, kuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuphelisa ingxoxo engathandekiyo ngokukhawuleza. Abamsulwa baya kugxininisa ekuqhubekeni ukucacisa ubudlelwane kuze kube yilapho ubulungisa buyoyisa, kwaye zonke izigwebo aziyi kuphakanyiswa kuye. Ubuninzi bokuthungca kunye nokuhleka kwintetho kwintetho yomnxibelelwano luphawu lobuxoki. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwimeko eqhelekileyo oku akuyona into evamile yokunxibelelana komntu othile.
Ukuba ufumanisa yonke le miqondiso kwingxoxo kunye nosapho okanye abahlobo bakho, musa ukugqiba izigqibo. Mhlawumbi le yindlela yabo eqhelekileyo yokunxibelelana?