Kunzima ukuphendula umbuzo othi ngubani olula ukuphakamisa nokuphakamisa. Uninzi kunokwenzeka ukuba akukho mpendulo ecacileyo nelingabonakaliyo. Nangona kunjalo, kukholwa ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba kulula ukuba utata afundise inkwenkwana, kunye nentombazana kumama. Kodwa apha konke akulula. Le ngcamango ayiqwalasele into yokuba bonke abantwana bahluke, ukuba umntwana ngamnye uhlukile. Kodwa kuxhomekeke kuninzi kumgangatho womntwana kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo.
Imfundo yabantombazana.
Umama, okhupha intombazana, udla ngokubhekiselele kwizinto ezithile ezinzima. Ngezantsi zichazwe iimpawu zeengxaki eziqhelekileyo zoluphawu, okuthi, ngokubaluleka kwazo, kunokubakho kwiipatheni zangaphambili.
Amantombazana anemvakalelo.
I-Mostamam ibonisa ukuba intombazana, ngokukodwa ekuncinane, idla ukutshintsha imvakalelo yabo isoloko isuka kumntu ongathandekiyo ukuya kumlingane, oqhelekileyo kubafana, abaye bathambekele ekugcinweni kwexesha elide.
Udla ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye ufunde.
Uphuhliso lwentetho kumantombazana lukhawuleza kwaye ngenxa yezinto ezithile zokuphuhliswa kwamantombazana kulula ukufumana izakhono zomlomo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngakwesinye icala oku kuhle kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuthetha ukuba umama kufuneka ahlangabezane nayo yonke imbonakalo, iifom kunye nezinye iimpawu zobuntu kunye nomlingiswa wentombazana.
Unobudlova.
Abafana bathambekele ekuboniseni ubugwenxa ngooncedo lweendlela zokwenyama, ngokungafani nokugqoka, okunokwenzeka ukuba bahlasele intshaba ngeendlela zokuthetha, oko kukuthi, amahemuhemu, izimvo ezikhohlakeleyo, iincwadana, ukukhutshwa kwimidlalo, njl.
Imfundo yabafana.
Ngokutsho kweengxelo zoluhlu, iingxaki ezininzi kwimfundo yabafana zizinto ezilandelayo:
1. Amantombazana asebenza ngokwenyama kwaye anonya.
Amakhwenkwe achukumisa umzimba, onke amaxesha asebenzayo, ukuxumla, ukuwa, ngokuqhelekileyo into eyonakaliswe okanye yaphulwa. Oku kungachazwa ngezizathu ezibini - banezinga eliphantsi nje lokuvelisa, ngenxa yoko inkwenkwe engayiqondi into yokuba "umonakalo" kunye "nokuphuka" kuyingozi kwaye umsebenzi ophezulu.
Ukunxibelelana ngokubhaliweyo ekuqaleni kunzima kakhulu.
Izakhono zonxibelelwano kumakhwenkwe zikhula kancinane kunamantombazana. Ngomlinganiselo obalulekileyo, isitala sazo zakhono zihlukile. Ngelixa amantombazana ezama ukuthetha ngeziganeko ezahlukeneyo zeziganeko, abafana bathetha kuphela oko bafuna ukuthatha, ukwenza okanye ukufumana. Njengomzekelo, unokuqwalasela ukukhetha ikhathuni yokubukela. Intombazana iya kuqwalasela kwaye ixoxe ngeyakho kunye nezinto ozikhethayo, le nkwenkwe iyakwazi ukumelana nayo.
3. Yonke imisebenzi izama ukukhuphisana.
Abafana bahlala bekhuphisana nabazalwana noodade, oontanga, abazali. Ukuba intsapho inamakhwenkwe amabini okanye ngaphezulu, ngoko idatha ingasetyenziswa ukuba ufuna abantwana badle ngokukhawuleza, ukugqoka, njl.
Nangona kunjalo, iimbonelo azisebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ngexesha elifanayo, akunakunqabile ukuphawula umkhwa oqhelekileyo kwintombazana, okanye ngokuthe ngqo. Ukukhulelwa kwabantwana akuzange kube yinto engabonakaliyo, kuyimfuneko ukuyiqonda, ngenxa yento umntwana ayenayo kwimeko embi kunye nendlela yokuphepha ngayo:
- Umntwana unomsindo kakhulu. Inzuzo apha kukuba kuthetha ukuphuhlisa umntwana onoxhatshazelisayo kunye nokusebenza ngokusemzimbeni, okunokuthi kufikeleleke ngokufanelekileyo ebomini. Kumntwana enkundleni yemidlalo yabo ayengayithwala indlu, unokuhlala uhamba naye edlala esitrato, irekhodi kwicandelo lezemidlalo, njl.;
- Umntwana uyazi ukufezekisa, ukunyanzelisa ukuba utshintshe isigqibo sakho. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntwana unetalente ecacileyo yokunxibelelana okungengomlomo, unako ukukholisa umnxibelelwano ngombono wakhe. Uncede ukuba ukhule kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngokuthetha nomntwana. Kodwa ngelo xesha, ukuba izimvo zakho zihluke, zama ukuhlala ngoluvo lwakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana uxabana nani;
- Umntwana uvame ukuphula amathoyizi, ukuwahlela kwiindawo. Oku kubonisa ukoma ulwazi, ukufuna ukwazi ngengqondo. Kule meko, thengisa amathoyizi ayenzelwe ngokukodwa ukuba aqokelelwe aze adibaniswe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba oku nje kukubonakalisa ukoma ukuphuka, ngoko kukulungele ukufihla amathoyizi omntwana, ade aqonde ingcamango yokuba ukuphulwa akulungile.