Iingxaki ngqalelo.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abacothayo abahlali bathule, abazi nje ukuba bangagxininisa njani ingqalelo kwixesha elide. Le ngxaki iphinda ibhekane nabantwana beminyaka yobudala besikolweni, xa bethonyelwa ngumthwalo wokunyusa umsebenzi esikolweni. Abantwana kule minyaka banomdla ekunandipha ubomi apha kwaye ngoku, kunzima ukuba benze oko kubonakala kunzima okanye kunzima kubo, ukwenza imizamo. Umntwana oqhelekileyo ukhetha ukudlala, kungekhona ukulungiselela izifundo, kunye neeklasi ezithandekayo ukucinga ngento ethile. Ungayilungisa le meko.
Ekuqaleni kubalulekile ukuba nomdla kumntwana. Isizathu esifanelekileyo siqingatha sempumelelo. Ootitshala bayacetyiswa ukuba bathethe nomntwana malunga nokuba ngubani ofuna ukuba kwixesha elizayo, malunga nezinto ezinomdla angathanda ukuzenza xa ekhula. Udinga ukuchaza ukubaluleka kolwazi lokuba uya esikolweni, ukubonisa ukuxhomekeka kwephupha lakhe malunga nokuba uya kukwazi kangakanani kwaye uya kufunda ntoni kwiklasi. Ukuba umntwana uyaqonda ukuba nokuba imathematika iyamnceda kwaye inceda ukuba, ngokomzekelo, i-astronaut, ingqalelo yakhe kule ndaba iya kunyuswa. Ukongezelela kwikamva elide lomntwana kufuneka likhuthazwe kwaye lifumaneke ngakumbi izinto - ukuzonwabisa kwamabakala amahle, amabhaso okukhuthaza, ezinye iibhonasi zokuphumelela kwizifundo.
Ukongezelela, luhlobo loxolo lufanele luqhutywe. Udinga ukudlala imidlalo eqeqeshelwa ingqalelo. Ngokomzekelo, unokucela umntwana ukuba azame ukukhumbula ngesimo samagama, amanani aze aphindwe, atshintshe into eklasini lakhe aze acele utshintsho. Kwimeko apho imizamo yabazali ayinakunceda ukufunda indlela yokugcina umntwana njengoko kuyimfuneko, uncedo lwe-psychologist yengane luya kufuneka.
Umlinganisi onjalo.
Isitoreji sogqirha sisichaphazela ukuziphatha kwethu, ngokukhawuleza ukuthula akuhambisani nokulindelwa kwabazali nootitshala, kuba abanakukwazi ukwenza nantoni na enye indlela. Aba bantwana bafuna indlela ethile, kufuneka baqondwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo baxhamla. Ziyaziwa ngezinga eliphantsi loomsebenzi wengqondo, kunzima ukuba nomdla, kunzima ukukholisa ukwenza njalo, kungenjalo. Abantu be-Phlegmatic babonakala bengenamdla, banobudenge, baze bagule. Kodwa oku akunjalo. Abadlali be-Phlegmaticians bavakalelwa iimvakalelo ezifana nabo bonke abantu, kodwa bavakalise ngendlela yabo.
Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukubuyisela i-phlegmatic, kufuneka uqonde ukuba kuya kuba nzima kuye ukuba anike nayiphi na utshintsho. Abantwana abanjalo bahlala behlala kunye nabo, banokudlala ixesha elide kunye neentlobo ezifanayo, abanqabile ukutshintsha izinto zabo zokuthanda nokukhetha. Kubonakala ngathi ixesha lihamba kubo ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Fundisa umntwana onjalo ukwenza into enokukhawuleza.
Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ugqoke ngokukhawuleza, kufuneka uvelise izakhono zakhe ukuzenzekelayo. Xa efunda ukubopha ihembe lakhe kakuhle, ukubopha izihlangu zakhe, ukukhupha iingubo zakhe ezingalawulekanga, uya kuyenza ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba akakwazi ukugqoka, ngoko kuya kuba nzima ukulinda umphumo kuye. Kuyafana nokufunda-ukuphumelela ngempumelelo izakhono ezitsha, kufuneka azi izixhobo ngokusisiseko. Izwi: "Ukuphindaphinda umama wokufunda" ngumgaqo wokuthetha nabantwana abanjalo. Indlela efanelekileyo yokulawula umntwana onjalo ukumnika imisebenzi ixesha elide. Xa eyazi ukuba unemizuzwana embalwa eyashiywe ukuxazulula ingxaki okanye ukubeka ingubo, akayi kuphazamiseka ngezinto ezingaphandle, kodwa gxininisa kwisiphumo.
Iingxaki zangaphakathi.
Maxa wambi bangabantwana abakwiimeko ezinzima. Nangona abantwana banengcinezelo kunye nokuxinezeleka, kuphela bona bahlukile kubantu abadala. Ngoko ke, umsebenzi womntwana ungatshintsha ubomi bonke.
Umntwana unokuchaphazeleka yimeko enzima kwintsapho. Ukuhlala uxabana kwabazali, iimfuno zomntwana, ukuqhawula umtshato kunokumphoqa ukuba enze ngokunyanisekileyo kunexesha eliqhelekileyo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntwana ukhetha ukungaziqwalasela yena, ukuzihlukanisa neengxaki zabantu abadala, abangenakukwazi ukuhlangabezana nazo.
Ukuba ngaba abazali balindele kakhulu ukusuka kumntwana, unokukhetha ukhetho loloyiko ngenxa yokwenza ukuphosa okanye kungekhona. Kulula kuye ukuba asolule isisombululo semisebenzi elula ukwenzela ukulibazisa umzuzu xa iphinda iphindwe. Abantwana abanakukwazi ukuhlala beqonda kwaye baqikelele indlela abasabela ngayo abantu abadala, ngoko izijeziso eziqhelekileyo zingamqinisekisa ukuba uya kufumana umququ, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uhlangabezana nalo msebenzi okanye cha.
Ngamanye amaxesha isizathu sokuba umntwana abe ngumdaka okhulayo angabi nantlungu. Ukuba umntwana unentlungu, akayi kuthetha njalo, kodwa uya kugxininisa kuphela kwimeko yokuxhalaba kwakhe, ngoko ke zonke ezinye izinto azakwenza ngokucotha ngakumbi.
Ukuyicombulula le ngxaki nje, kuyimfuneko ukuphelisa isizathu sokuziphatha okunjalo, ngoko umntwana uya kufana nokuqala ngaphambi kokuba nzima.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uhleli, ungafaneleki ukuyeka nokubeka isiphambano phezu kwayo. Abantwana abahamba ngokukhawuleza abanakwenza okubi ngaphezu kokunyamekela imisebenzi yabo, banokufunda ngempumelelo nokuphuhlisa, kodwa bafuna indlela ekhethekileyo. Ukukhathazeka kunye nokuqwalasela iingxaki zomntwana, ukuthembela kunye nomnqweno wokunceda kuya kuba ngumqinisekiso wokuba uhlangane kunye nale nto.