- Ngenxa yokuba waye neentloni.
- Ngenxa yokuba wayeziva enetyala.
- Ngenxa yokuba wayeyika. Ukwazi ukuba abayi kumkholwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo kwilizwe lethu imeko ibhetele kangcono, asizange senze iiphando ezinjalo. Musa ukucinga ukuba idlula umntwana ngaphandle komkhondo, nokuba ngaba encinci ukuqonda into eyenziwe kuyo. Le memori ayisoze yaphela kwaye emva kwexesha uya kuqonda yonke into. Musa ukucinga ukuba phakathi kwabahlobo bakho nabaqhelanayo akukho nto ikwazi ukuguquka - awukwazi oko ngokuqinisekileyo, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo babukeka banjengabantu abathandekayo, abafundayo, abantu abaqhelekileyo. Khumbula: abantu abanjalo banokuba phakathi koogqirha, ootitshala, abaqeqeshi, abaphathi, njl njl. - bonke abasebenza kumaziko abantwana.
Indlela yokukhusela umntwana kwaye ngexesha elifanayo musa ukuhlwayela ukungathembeki emphefumlweni wakhe kubo bonke abantu ngokubanzi?
Ukususela kwiminyaka yokuqala yokuphila, umntwana oqhelekileyo ukuba umzimba wakhe ungowaye kuphela kwaye akukho mntu unelungelo lokumthinta ngaphandle kwemvume yengane. Musa ukumanga okanye ucindezele umntwana ukuba akafuni oko kwangoko. Aze ungavumeli ukuba oku kwenziwe ngabanye abantu kunye nezihlobo, kubandakanya oogogo, oomkhulu, njl.
Chaza ukuba akukho namnye umntu oqhelekileyo ongaqhelekanga ofuna ukuba umntwana abe ngendawo. "Okubi" kuncinci kakhulu kwaye kungekhona ukuba umntwana uya kubahlangabeza. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukwazi "okubi", kuba kubonakala ngathi "kuhle." Ngoko ke, xa kwenzeka, umntu akakwazi ukuhamba naphi na umntu ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali.
Tshela umntwana ukuba "abantwana ababi" bakha njani abantwana: ukutya kunye nokudlala; isithembiso sokubonisa into enomdla - intsana, iikiti, iitokethi, umdlalo onomdla kwikhompyutha, njl.; izicelo zoncedo; izikhokelo kubazali ("Ndathunyelwa kuwe ngumama ...").
Musa ukuxelela iinkcukacha malunga nento "engalunganga" enokuyenza kumntwana, kodwa uthi yinto eyoyikisayo. Ukuba umntwana, ngaphandle kokucela imvume, wahamba esuka egcekeni, kubamelwane, kubahlobo-isijeziso kufuneka siqineke: kufuneka unqande ngokuthe tye ukuhamba kwakhe (okanye iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, imidlalo, iicattoon, njl). Ukuzimela kule ngxaki kuya kuphendulela kuwe ngamava ayingxaki xa umntwana efika ebusheni kwaye ungazi ukuba ungubani, kunye naye ...
Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu: yenza konke okusemandleni ukuba umntwana akwethembe. Ibali lomntwana ngaye kunye neziganeko ebomini bakhe ziya kukunceda ubone ukuba umntwana uhamba njani kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye unokuzikhusela. Kule ndlela ungayifumana ukuba kukho iiphambeko phakathi kwendawo yakhe kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okukhusela. Ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uxakeke kangakanani, kufuneka uhlale uphulaphule umntwana ukuba ufuna ukukuxelela into ethile. Kwaye ukuba umntwana wakho akadingeki ukuba akhulume ngaye, ngoko ufanele umbize ukuba akhulume. Indlela efanelekileyo kukuxelela ibali ukususela ebuntwaneni bakho okanye ukususela ebuntwaneni bentsapho okanye ngabahlobo bakho. Oku kukhangeleka kakhulu kubantwana: "kubonakala xa umama (utata) encinci njengam, kwaye izinto ezimbi, ezingathandekiyo, ezihlekisayo nazo zenzeke kubo!".
Gcinani engqondweni: ukuba umntwana akaqhagamshelana nabazali, ke uyayifuna kwabanye abantu nangaphandle kwekhaya.
Ngoko, umgomo 'wemfundo ephephile' ukufaka umntwana ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukuba uyamathela kwimigaqo ethile yokuziphatha, akayi kuba neengxaki, kwaye ukuba kukho imeko engozini, uya kufumana indlela yokuphuma kuyo, kuba abazali bamfundisa indlela yokuyenza .