Kwiminyaka engama-90, xa izinto ezininzi zokuhlala ziphela, kwaye zatshintshwa ngamatyala ayingqangi nje kuphela ebandakanya imfashini, i-psychology, i-aesthetics, kodwa kunye nehlabathi langaphakathi lomntu, imitshato engalinganiyo yaqala ukungena kwimfashini, inkokheli ithatha «Umqhubi wezorhwebo». Ixesha lalikhethekileyo, kwaye ngubani owaziyo "ukugubungela" naye emlenzeni, wahlala phantsi okanye "wahlala" kwindawo. Kwaye kwakunjani ukukhangeka ukuba uchithe amantombazana phantsi kwe "vodka" kunye nabahlobo, ukuxoxa ngeentsha eziselula.
Kuze kube yimini, umtshato ongalinganiyo, umfazi omdala usenokuba ngumsebenzi oqhelekileyo kunokuba "uhlobo lwefashoni." Amantombazana anamhlanje azalwa eneprogram entloko: ukugqiba isikolo esiphakamileyo, ukufumana imfundo yangempela, ukuqeqeshwa okufanelekileyo, umsebenzi ohlawulelwayo. Ukuzimela kunye nokuzimela-credo, i-motto, kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngako, phi, ukutshata apha? Makheke okungenani, ungalingani?
Emncintiswaneni wokuphumelela, ixesha alanele ukuba ukhethe iqabane elifanelekileyo: elilumkileyo nelomnene, eliphilileyo kunye elinamandla, elifanelekileyo kuwe nangeminyaka yobudala, kunye neembono kwixesha elizayo elilanayo, konke oomama abaphuphayo ebusheni babo.
Amanamhlanje achitha ixesha elide ekuziqheleni, kwaye xa ixesha lilahlekile ujikeleze, konke oku kutsha kwaye kuphumelele, ngoko ubona bani? Amakhwenkwe abancinci abancinci, njengengenakukhuseleka njengoko uqobo iminyaka engama-20 edlulileyo, kwaye ufuna ukukhusela, ubafudumeze, ufundise imithetho yempilo. Yaye xa uqala ukuqonda ukuba ufundela, ulungiselela lo mtshato ongalingana. Emtshatweni, xa umfazi ekhulile kunomntu, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba ulwalamano lufana nonina, kungekhona wonke umntu onokukwazi ukujonga njengoDemi Moore. Kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ubudlelwane bwakhiwa ngokubambisana ngokusemthethweni: uyindawo yam kunye nokudibanisa, kwaye ndikunika ubuncinci bam.
Ubutsha bakhe yinto oye waphoswa, ukuzuza, ukwakha nokwaphula. Sekude kubekho ubungqina bezobugcisa bezesondo ezithatyathwa ngumfazi othandana. Ibhinqa elithandanayo lomtshato ongalinganiyo: Ukuthobela umlingane wakhe omncinci kufuna ukuba kusebenze ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama, kwaye ukuba ezi zilandelayo zizuzisa umzimba (impilo, i-yoga, inkqubo yokuvuselela), ngokokuqala oko akusiyo rhoqo. Kwiintsapho ezininzi ezingalinganiyo, "ukuhlaziywa" ngoomama maxa wambi bazihlambalaza kwaye ngokungaqhelekanga bapopishe abafazi babo, kodwa ukuba indlela yokuphila enjalo iyafanelana nabo bobabini, ngoko siya kuvuyela kuphela. Kodwa umzuzwana xa "abafazi" abanjalo baphoswa ngaphandle 'kokungabi nzuzo', xa befumene kubo okufunwayo, banikezelwa ukuba bangaphili bonke abantu. Hlala ngoyika rhoqo ukuba uya kuphoswa, uzive nje nge "sub-prime" kunye nomxhasi - kungeyona ndlela ekhethekileyo yokukhetha isitayela sakho kunye nobomi obufutshane.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ukwazi ukuba unelisekile kwaye uyathandwa! Umzimba omncinci omhle kunye nomhle, kungekubi kangako, kuba rhoqo ebomini kukho into enokuyilwela! Yaye ukuba uthe wabuhlungu ngokukhawuleza, wena ngokwakho wenzile, sebenze ngeempembelelo zakho, wenze umsebenzi, uzakhele uphumelele, udale imitshato engalingani kwaye uxoxe kwi-sauna kunye nabahlobo abangaphantsi kwe-vodka: oogqirha baseJamani ase-Jalimane, ihotele entsha e-Bali kunye nawuphi uhlobo lomshini owawunika ngomhla wokuzalwa wama-25 womyeni wakhe omncinane. Into eyona nto uvuyayo!