Uthando olungagqithwanga luyenzeka ubuncinane kanye kwimeko yobomi bowesifazane kwaye ngamanye amaxesha waba yimbangela eyona nto ebangela ukuba ibhinqa lilandele indoda. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu okhethiweyo akanakuqonda ukuba ibhinqa ivakalelwa ngaye, ngokokuqala ukuba ithatha inyathelo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuchaseneyo, uyazi malunga nento yonke, kodwa akafuni ukuyijonga. Kodwa, ngaphezu kwothando olungenakunqwenelekayo, umfazi unokuphumeza umntu ngezinye izizathu zengqondo, esiza kuzama ukukuxelela malunga nale nqaku.
Uthando lufana noko kunye nemibonakalo yalo
Uthando kunye novelwano oluqinileyo olunokubangela ukubhalwa kweengoma, iingoma, umculo kunye nesizathu sokuba kutheni abafazi bebaleka emva kwamadoda. Kodwa ngomzuzwana xa umntu evakalelwa ukuxiliswa okupheleleyo kumfazikazi okanye nje ufuna ukubonakala engenakho ukuphazamiseka emehlweni akhe, uqala ukuziva ingqondo yokungazinzi nto leyo emnyanzelayo ukuba igijime le ndoda kwaye izame ukutshabalalisa ubuncinci emehlweni akhe. Konke oku kuqhubekayo kude kube yinkwenkwe engayifumani umnqweno womntu okanye uya kumxelela ukuba akayithandi. Ngethuba le nto inokujika ibe yinto encinci xa ukhumbule ngomthandi wangaphambili okanye ubambe entliziyweni yakho isilonda esibi kwaye ungenzakali nje kuphela lo mntu, kodwa uhlanga lwabantu bonke.
Ewe, inxalenye yendlela yokuziphatha yowesifazane inokuthi ithathwa njengesenzo esingenangqondo, esingafanelekanga ukwenza konke, kuba awukwazi ukufumana umntu ukuba atyelele ingqalelo. Ngendlela, kwamanye amadoda, ukuqinisekiswa okunjalo kwinxalenye yendodakazi kungabangeli nje ukuvalelwa, kodwa ukwesaba ukunyamezela kunye nomnqweno wokungafumani "oko".
Izizathu zokucinga okanye "umbhobho wesepha" weengcamango
Ukongezelela kwintando engathandangayo ibhinqa kule meko inokukhokelwa yimiba ethile yengqondo. Ngokomzekelo, emva kokukhula, akazange akwazi ukulahla umkhwa wokulutha umyalelo wokufuna uthando olungenammiselo kunye nokukhathalela kwabanye, okuvela kwisini esinamandla. Ekubuntwaneni, ihlabathi lomntwana onjalo libandakanya uthando kunye neengqalelo kunye nezihlobo kunye nabahlobo, kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba imimiselo yobomi abadala isineemeko ezahlukeneyo. Akuyena wonke umntu onokubuyisela kwakhona kwaye anikeze umfazi ukuba unomdla kunye nomsa. Yingakho ibhinqa eliphangileyo lingenanto yokunikela indoda kwaye iqala ukusebenza emva kwayo, izama ukufumana ingqalelo kuye.
Oku kunokuthi kubangelwa ubomi obungenanto yowesifazane, apho kungekho zinto ezithandwayo, ezithe zenzeke kwaye zilukhuni. Ngoko ke, inenekazi ikhetha into ethile yokudumisa kwaye iqala ukuhlaziya "ubundlobongela bomi" ukuwuphishekela. Kwakhona ngelo xesha, iintshukumo zamabhinqa ziyakwazi ukukhokelwa nguloyiko lwakhe kunye namava akhe, okunye kukho ukwesaba ukuphela. Ngokomzekelo, emva kwemizamo ephindaphindiweyo yokulungisa ubomi bomntu kunye nale ndoda okanye loo ndoda, ibhinqa lijongene ne-fiasco epheleleyo. Ngoko ke, udidekile, uzama ukulungisa imeko, kwaye nawuphi na umntu oya kubonisa ingqalelo kuye, ukhangelwa kwisigxina sakhe njengomgca wangempela wee-knights. Kungenxa yesi sizathu nje loo nto umfazi uzama ngandlela-thile "ukumbamba" le ndoda, imenzele.
Esinye isizathu esicinga ukuba uqhube umfazi ukunyamezela ngamanyathelo kukuzama ukubonisa into ethile ngaye "umdlalo" ngesini esomeleleyo. Kwimeko enjalo, le ntokazi ikulungele ukubethelwa kunye nokuba ngokwaloo nto iyakwazi ukufumana umntu okhethiweyo kwaye, ukulibala ukuzikhukhumeza kwayo, iqala emva kwakhe, njengokungathi ixhoba lakhe, ukuyixosha, njengoko bethetha, kwizithende. Ngendlela, ngokusoloko ephumelele, le ntokazi inokuyeka ukuthetha nale ndoda. Emva koko, ibhinqa ayifuni iimvakalelo kuzo zonke, ukhangelelwa ngamava avulekileyo, umdla kunye nomnqweno wokumvavanya "amaqhinga kunye neengcambu" ngokusebenza. Ngamanye amagama, kwintombazana, umphumo awubalulekanga, kodwa iholide yomphefumlo, ayifumanayo ngokulandela into yakhe kunye nomfanekiso wesifiso sokumnqoba nokumenza okungenani okwethutyana.