Zivela phi izakhiwo?
Yonke into ilula kakhulu kwaye ngexesha elifanayo kunzima. Ukusifeza nge "esi sifo" ngabo bathatha inxaxheba ekukhulisweni kwethu - abazali, ugogo, ootata, ootitshala, ootitshala, njl njl. Kakade, abazenzeli ngamabomu ukungaqiniseki, ukwesaba kwaye mhlawumbi i-phobias. Imfundo yindoda yenzululwazi kakhulu. Izigidi zenzululwazi zisebenza kule ntsimi, unyaka wonke ulwazi oluninzi lupapashwa kwimfundo, kodwa ingcamango "yemfundo echanekileyo" ayizange iphuhliswe okwamanje. Umbhali ngamnye unikeza iingcebiso zakhe ngendlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo nangokufanelekileyo xa ukhulela umntwana. Kodwa nangona kwaye ngokulandelelana ngokulandelelana imiyalelo ekhethiweyo, umntu uya kukhula alahlekise izinto ezinzima. Isizathu kukuba kulo mzekelo umntu uya kuba engenalo uthando, uya kuhlala kuphela ngomyalelo. Kwaye ngamnye kuthi ufuna iimvakalelo, kwaye kungekhona nje eyethu, kodwa nabangaphandle.
Iinkomfa zilula kakhulu ukuzifumana, kodwa kunzima ukuzisusa. Ngokomzekelo, umama ebuntwaneni bakhe akazange abonise uthando olukhethekileyo kumntwana, kwaye unokuhlakulela ubunzima obuphantsi. Okanye utata uya kuxela unyana wakhe "ukuba uyabhonga, ngaba le ntombazana? Ndicinga ukuba ndinekhwenkwe," okanye intombi yam "intombazana kufuneka ibe yinto efanelekileyo, kwaye unento encane engcolileyo, nje ingulube." La magama anjalo alula, kodwa athi entliziyweni, unokushiya umkhondo emphefumlweni womntwana. Kwaye oku kulandela ubomi bakhe bonke. Inkathazo yintonga kwaye igxilwe, kwaye iba yinxalenye yomntu.
Iintlobo zineenkalo ezithile. Zibonakaliswa kuphela xa ziboniswa ngumntu ocinga ngayo. Vumelana ukuba kaninzi asinakhathalela ukuba umntu ongaziwayo uya kuthi ntoni ngathi, engafanelekanga nayiphi na inhlonipho kuthi. Kodwa ukuba into esondeleyo kuthi isitsho into engathandeki kuthi, inokusihlazisa kwaye ibenokubangela uxinzelelo.
Enye inkalo yeengxaki zizinto ezitsha zibonakaliswa kubantu abanobubunzima obuphantsi. Abantu abazithembayo ngokuqinisekileyo ababonakalwanga kwingozi. Awuyihlungi ulwazi oluyidingayo okanye aluyihoyi ngokupheleleyo.
Indlela yokukrazula izakhiwo kunye nokuzithemba
Musa ukhathazeka kwaye ungakhathazeki. Oku kukuthintela ukwamkelwa kwesigqibo esifanelekileyo. Ukongeza, ukwesaba kunye nemvakalelo kunempembelelo embi kwimpilo. Kwaye ukuba bahambe, zama ukumomotheka nokuhleka ngaphezulu. Ndikholelwe, kulula kakhulu kunye nokuhle ngakumbi ukuhlala, ukuhamba ebomini ngoxolo kunye nethemba. Ukugxininisa ngokugqithiseleyo ingqalelo kwiindawo zabo eziyinkimbinkimbi, abantu ngokwabo baphukisa ukuphuhliswa kwabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, apho abaninzi bethu benza izinto ezinzima, sinokuzibonakalisa njengobumnandi, njengento ebalulekileyo, ekwazi ukuhlula kwabanye. Kodwa impumelelo incike kuphela kwisimo sakho sengqondo. Isimo sengqondo esilungileyo kuwe, ukusilela kwakho kunye neziqhamo ziyakunceda ulahlekelwe iinkomfa.
Qala ukukholelwa kuwe. Yiba nethemba kuyo yonke into oyenzayo. Zama ukukholisa okokuqala kuqala, kuba wonke umntu akayithandi. Ungesabi ukubonisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Akumele uqiniseke kuwe kuphela nangamazwi akho, kodwa uthethe inyaniso kwaye uphile ngokuhambelana nale nyaniso. Oku kuya kukwenza ube ngumntu ovuya ngokwenene. Uqala ukuhlonipha abanye, uya kuthandwa. Kodwa uthando luyona nqanaba eliphezulu kunoma luphi ubudlelwane. Ubomi bakho buya kuba mnandi kwaye bukhanyise.
Khumbula, umphumo wokulwa neziinkalo, kunye nakweyiphi enye into eyenziwa, inokufunyanwa ngenxa yemibandela emibini-ukholo kunye nesenzo. Ngoko kholelwa kuwe kwaye wenze, kwaye uya kuphumelela.