Ubutyebi obuninzi bamadoda aqhelekileyo aqhubelela abafazi kwizinto ezinje, nangomsebenzi. Ukutshatyalaliswa, nakunoma yini eyanyanzelekile ukunyaniseka kumsebenzi okanye nabani na ongayi kuphazamisa. Khangela abafazi abavakalelwa kukuba bathanda amadoda, ngokuqinisekileyo "baxhamla" ngokuvuya. Kwaye kunamahloni enkcazo yamadoda "amaphiko akhula." Vumela abaninzi baqwalasele le nto yokuzilibazisa, kodwa loo mvakalelo, iimvakalelo ezithatyathwa ngumfazi ziya kuba nefuthe ngokuzithemba kwakhe.
Inkonzo yencwadana, ngokubhekiselele kwabasetyhini abadala, akufanelekile ukuba, kuba lo, nokuba ngumntu ogqithisayo, uphazamisa umsebenzi, ukhokelela ekubukeni kweentlebo, ukwahlula kwabasebenzi kwiinkampu ezimbini "onokuthi" kwaye "ophikisanayo." Amantombazana anamhlanje akakho nantlinkleko, abonisa umzimba kunye nobulili ngesithunzi. Yaye yintoni na umntu onokumelana nalo "luhle"? Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda avuselela abafazi ukuba baqalise ubudlelwane benkonzo, kunye nomfazi, "ukubamba" umdla, uqala "ukudlala" nendoda, ebiza ngokuthi "inqaba eyingenakunqandwa," ngokuthe ngcembe ibambe indoda "kwiintanethi zayo."
Ukuthandana kweenkonzo ngabasetyhini abahlukeneyo kubonwa ngokuhlukileyo. Kweminye, le yinto enye yokuzilibazisa, kodwa abanye bayakwazi ukuphela emtshatweni. Ukuba ibhinqa lingazange lidibane nalo "likhulu" elilindelwe ixesha elide, ukuthetha nabantu, kwanomsebenzi, kuya kwenza ukuba kube lula ukunquma uhlobo luni lomntu ayidingayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela imicimbi yothando ngexesha leemeko zenkampani, eziba "zivuselela" zeenveli zenkonzo. Abasebenzi baphumla, utywala uphinde uxhumane, unxibelelwano luba "ngabazalwana", ngamanye amaxesha "imbobo egciniweyo" iyatshintsha kakhulu indlela yokuziphatha ngayo.
Ukuba umntu uhlala kwindawo yokulawula kwaye uyazithobela, ngoko kwimbono yabasetyhini, inkonzo yothando ingasiza ekuqhubekeni komgangatho okanye ukukhokelela emtshatweni, kodwa ke uya kuqala ukukrokra ukuba abaninzi abafazi abasemgangathweni wakhe baxhomekeke kumntu wakho, kuba ukuba nabo ngokwabo babekho kuloo ndawo. Inkokheli inxulumene nendoda yinyani enomsebenzi, imali, iinjongo, kwaye oku kukhangeleka kakhulu kumantombazana amantombazana aqalise ukwakha umsebenzi.
Phakathi kwabasebenzi, incwadana ingaba yimizuzu emibini kwaye iphele iminyaka. Kuya kuphuma emva koko, ukutshaya kwakhona. Ibhinqa elinobudlelwane nomqeshwa otshatileyo, njengomthetho, imele umfazi "ngemibala emnyama", ngaphandle koko, akayi kukhangela. Eyinyaniso ngokuqhelekileyo iyahluke. Emsebenzini umntu onjalo unokubonakalisa "i-macho", kwaye ekhaya ukuba abe ngumyeni onothando nonomdla wabantwana bakhe. Kutheni akwenza oku? Kuba ekhaya - umfazi, abantwana, imisebenzi, kunye nomsebenzi konke oku akunjalo.
Yaye ukuba ukuthanda kwakhe kwaqala ukuphelisa? Ngaba wayenomdlalo omtsha? Ngamanye amaxesha amabhinqa ayazibona njengendlela yokuziphatha. Baye bacinga ukuba lo mntu "wabo" kwaye balungele "ukuchoboza" umchasi, ngeendlela zonke. Emva koko emsebenzini wokwenene "amaMexico" aqala ukuqala kwaye le "ntsebenzo" isoloko ibenabo "ababukeli", nokuba nabo bahlala bebuya emsebenzini, baqale ukufika ngexesha lokufumana iindaba.
Kukho nenye inketho, xa umphathi-bhinqa "ehlaselwa" phantsi kwakhe. Xa ulwalamano lwenkonzo luya kwi-hloncedment, ngokuqhelekileyo "ixhoba" liyaxothwa, kodwa ukuba akazenzeli izigqibo ezithile, emva kokumisela omnye umsebenzi iphinda iwele "kwiinkqubo zangaphandle".