Ndingamthabatha njani indoda kumnye umfazi

Ubusuku, umsila ngezinyembezi, iiyure ezide kwaye zingalindelanga, akazange eze ... Unayo. Akukho mandla ukunyamezela le ntlungu, ukuba siphile njengaphambili kungenakubekezeleka, kufuneka senze into ethile. Kwaye, ekhangele ekubonakaliseni kwakhe kwintlungu, efunga ukuba uya kuphelisa oku, ukuba uya kwenza konke ayenjalo.

Umfanekiso oqhelekileyo kubo abaninzi, akunjalo? Inxantathu yothando inesihloko ngokudala njengehlabathi. Uphosa amabhinqa kuwo onke amabharricades. Abanye bavalelwa yimvakalelo yindoda esatshatileyo, cela icebiso malunga nento oyenzayo, ukuze umntu othandekayo "ayeke le ntonga". Abanye baxhaphaza ubuchopho babo malunga nendlela yokubuyisela umyeni kwintsapho, ukuze uhlobo oluthile lwe-vertigo lungamthathi. Ngokumalunga namanqaku okubhala kunye neencwadi, cela imibuzo kubafundi beengqondo. Ngaba nantoni na enokuyenza xa indoda efunayo inokwabelana nabanye? Kunokwenzeka kwaye abaninzi abesifazana-abanentlonelo banemfihlelo "yokuhoxiswa" kwamadoda ngokugqibeleleyo.

Ngaphambi kokuba uvuke "kwi-warpath" kwaye ucinge ngendlela yokuthatha indoda ngaphandle komnye umfazi, kufuneka uqale uphendule kumbuzo othi: "Ngaba uyayifuna le nto?"

Ukuba ungumfazi kunye nentsapho yakho kulondolozo lwenjongo ephambili, ngoko kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza, emva kweendaba zokuthi umyeni wakho unomhlobo. Akuyi kukwazi ukulibala ukuba akuyiyo yonke indoda eya kushiya intsapho. Kwixesha elifutshane elijongene nelinye icala elingakwaziyo amadoda amaninzi, kubonwa ngabo njengokwenziwa kwesikhashana. Kodwa ke bambalwa abafuni into emininzi evela kwindlovukazi, banqwenela ukutshintsha kwehlabathi. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, akufanele ukhululeke.

Emva kokubanjelwa kunxantathu yothando, musa ukwabelana ngoluhlobo nomhlobo okanye osebenza naye. Ungafumani ukuba uyayazi yonke into kwaye ujonge iintlanganiso kunye nomdla wakhe. Kwaye ungammangazeli, ungazami ukukhwaza umona, musa ukwenza izigcawu. Kuya kumkhawulela kuphela. Kwaye akukho mzekelo akufanele ibenze kumatsalane nabathakathi. Kungcono ukuba ungacingi ngento enokukufumana yona. Kubalulekile ukuqokelela "ifolda" kumdlali, ncinane, utshatile okanye ayikho. Ukuba badibana naye, inkosikazi ingatshatanga. Oku kuya kuqinisekiswa, kuba umthandi ozayo uza kushiya isidumbu sokungcola. Kwaye kuya kuba yiphutha lakhe! Kutheni? Ukuphupha ukuthatha indawo yakho ebomini bendoda, umlingani oyedwa uya kuhamba ubude obukhulu ukuze anikezele ingcamango yowesifazane omhle kakhulu. Kwaye, kuyo yonke into-ngesini, kwizicelo, ekunxibelelaneni nasekubambeni. Indoda, esidle iilekese, ziza kubaleka ngaphandle kokuthetha. Kwaye unokuvuyiswa.

Ukuba bathatha umhlala-phantsi kwiidilesi ezahlukeneyo: indawo yokuhlala, ihotele, indlu yelizwe, imoto kwaye ihlasele ngokucokisekileyo iingoma, ke inkosikazi isatshatile. Kuthetha ukuba ngomso yonke into iya kuphela, okanye iya kutshata naye. Kwaye akukho nto yokwenza. Ubomi, konke kwenzeka ...

Iingcali zengqondo zicebise ukukhusela imeko ezinokubangela umntu ukuba athathe umyeni wakho kude nentsapho yakho. Ukwenza oku, sebenzisa iingcebiso ezindala eziqinisekisiweyo. Musa ukuphika umyeni wakho ngesondo kunye okanye ngaphandle. Ungamshiyi ixesha elide wedwa, engekho kwiihambo ezide kunye nohambo lwezoshishino. Awuboni. Ewe, ke, musa ukulibala ukuba ungumfazi. Zibukele, zama ukukhangeleka kungekuphela kokutyelela kunye nomsebenzi, kodwa nasekhaya.

Ukuba ungumfazi othanda indoda e tshatayo, ukuba awuyiyo inxalenye yabazingeli basetyhini, kodwa ukholelwa ngokwenene ukuba lo luLuthando, ke le ngcebiso ilandelayo kuwe.

Zama ukufumana iimpawu kumfazi oxabisa kakhulu, kwaye akayikunyamezela umoya. Ukwazi oku, hlengisa indlela oziphatha ngayo, oku kuya kubongeza iibhonasi kuwe.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kukukhohlisa okulungileyo, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokunyaniseka. Ngesondo esinye, ubudlelwane obomeleleyo kunye obude abukwazi ukwakheka. Awukwazi ukuchitha ubomi bakho ebhedini.

Izwi elithi "umfazi omncinane esiyithandayo, ngakumbi thina simthanda" usebenza kumadoda kwaye unceda ngombuzo wokuthatha umntu ngaphandle komnye umfazi.

Olunye ubandayo kunye nesithenjwa lukhokelela kubo, kodwa kulula ukuwudlula. Kwaye ukutsala ukungenazi nto kuya kuba yilahleko.

Cela umntu ukuba ancede kwizinto ezincinci. Umzekelo, cwangcisa i-antenna kwiTV, faka inkqubo kwikhompyutha. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ubonise ubuthathaka bakho besifazane ukugxininisa amandla kunye nengqondo yomntu. Oko akwenzayo kuwe, ngakumbi uya kufakwa. Kodwa musa ukumhlawula ngokulungiswa okukhulu okanye ukumcela uncedo lwezemali.

Inkxaso. Yabelana ngeemfuno zakho kunye naye. Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo, kodwa ungamvumeli ukuba abone kuwe "i-vest", apho unokukhala khona.

Musa ukumisela iimvakalelo zakho kuye. Musa ukusho izigidi ngezihlandlo ngosuku osikhathazayo. Kubonakala ngathi umsebenzi wakhe othe ngqo kukukuvuyisa kwaye kukuvuyisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo umntu osikrakra uza kuzala umntu.

Ungaziphindi iimpazamo zomfazi wakhe. Ungavumeli ukungaqinisekanga kwiingubo, ukulahla ukuphosa ngokusoloko uyazi apho ukhona kunye naye.

Phinda uphumelele "ufumana" wakhe umfazi. Ukuba ulungile, pheka, ke ungabonakali inzondo yokupheka, ukuze umntu angazisoli ngokuba wamshiya. Musa ukulahlekelwa ngumntu ngamnye.

Ungazami ukutshintsha indlela yobomi bakhe nemikhwa. Umzekelo: ukuba ungumdlali webhola okhwela umdlalo, ke akafanelekile ukuba akhangele umdlalo. Uthando olungakumbi, ukunyaniseka ngakumbi, ukuqonda okungakumbi - yilokho okuya kunceda ulwalamano lube namandla.

Simele sivume ukuba uya kuhlaniswa nenye. Yiba nomonde, oku akuthethi ukuba ulahlekelwa ngokuthelekiswa. Hlala wena!

Kuthekani ukuba yonke imizamo yakho yokuthatha indoda evela kwelinye ibhinqa ibonakala ingasebenzi? Akukho nto! Jonga ngenyameko kuloo ndoda ngenxa yokuba uzame kakhulu. Kukho uluhlu lwamadoda apho inkqubo yokutshintshwa komfazi omnye kuya kwesinye isiqhelo sesithethe esiqhelekileyo kwaye akusiyo malunga nawe. Iifowuni, iinyembezi, isazela, ukugcoba umnyango, ukucacisa rhoqo ubudlelwane-kuba amadoda anjalo, i-adrenaline engapheliyo. Xa kunqwenela ukuphazamiseka, yonke inzala kumfazi iyalala. Yile ndlela abantu abanamakhono aqhelekileyo abaziphatha ngayo, bekhokelela ubomi obunjenge-grey, ngamathuba athobileyo, iingcamango ezimbi kunye neenjongo ezingabonakaliyo.

Yeka imeko leyo ngentliziyo ezolile uze ucinge ngeentanda zakho. Ungamamatheli kwixesha elidlulileyo, ungaphaya kokudideka kunye nentukuthelo. Ukuzijonga ngokwakho kwisibuko, uthi: "Ndoda, ndiyakuthanda kakhulu kwaye ukususela namhlanje ndithembisa ukuhlala kuphela kuwe ..."