Kodwa apha kukho enye ingozi - indoda ingakwazi ukuguga ngamandla, kwaye ke, poduvshis, isigxina kuwe ngesandla sayo kwaye iya kuqala ukukhangela elinye iqabane lezesondo, eliya kuthobela ngakumbi. Yaye ke ngubani na omele uxanduva? Kwakungadingeki ukuba abe nexhatshazo kumlingane, xa wayesetyenziselwa ukulungiswa kunye nothando. Kodwa ukuba kwakungekho mvakalelo? Emva koko umthumelele ngezobupolisa! Mhlawumbi ngoko imizimba yakhe ephazamisayo iya kuzincama, kwaye ingcamango yokufumana omnye umlingane ayiyi kukwanela ukumyanelisa.
Amadoda aphakathi "kwezidalwa" kunye nobudlelwane obunengqondo obunengqondo, ngoko banokuthintelwa ngabantu abaphilileyo ngaphandle kwemizamo ekhethekileyo. Ukuthi "akukho" rhoqo, okuthethwa ngezwi elibi lokuxubusha lingathelekiswa nekati, ehlala ihlasela umsila. I-Cotscheet, ukukhala kunye nokufihla phantsi kombhede. Ukuba umfazi wenqaba umyeni wakhe ngesondo, uya kwenza okufanayo, qalisa ukukhwaza, ukukhupha nokulala kwelinye igumbi, kodwa oku kusemgangathweni. Kwimeko embi kakhulu, ulala nje kwenye indawo, apho uya kuba nzima ukuyithatha. Ngaba ndingayenqaba njani umyeni wam, endaweni engamcaphukisiyo? Ngoku sicamngca lo mbuzo.
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Ukuba umntu uyakuthanda ukubethelela ngesondo kungekhona ngexesha, kutheni ufuna ukuhlambalaza sonke ixesha? Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka kwinqanaba elincinane, ngaphantsi kaninzi kwinqanaba elingaziwayo. Inyaniso kukuba naziphi na izimangalo zesondo (ngokukodwa ukuba asifuni ukulala ngesantya), kunye nomlingane wethu othandekayo uthathwa njengezame zobundlobongela kunye / okanye ubundlobongela. Yingakho sine-reflex kwaye sizama ukulwa, ukukhulula ihlunu. Njengam, ndishiye, ndithandekayo, ndithandwa, ndedwa, kungenjalo umnyango uya kufakwa. Kubonakala ngathi yonke into iyacaca, kodwa kungekhona indoda.
Indoda iyaqonda yonke into kungekhona njengoko thina kunye nokuphendula okunjalo kunye nezihlunu "ezikhululiwe" zibonwa ngokwahlukileyo. Ezingqondweni zabo, umnqweno wokuthandana nomfazi ufaniswa nehlazo. Yaye ukuba iqabane elithandekayo liye lalahla ngesondo, kwaye kwimeko eqhelekileyo, loo mntu uyayifaka izigqibo zakhe aze eze kwisigqibo sokuba wayeka ukumthoba. Kutheni kwimeko apho amadoda akhubekileyo enza? Ukuzifakazela, bafumana iqabane lezesondo kwicala. Kwelinye icala, ngaphezu kwecandelo lomzimba, kukho ukuphakama kokuzithemba.
Kwintsapho, iiphulo labathembekileyo kwicala liye laphela ekupheleni. Kutheni ehlala egijimela indlu ngendlu, ehlala ekhupha, ezayo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo? Ngaba akulula ukuba angene endlwini yowesifazane ongenamkhanyeli ngesondo. Kakade, kulula, ngakumbi ukuba umfazi, ufunde ngokunyaniseka kwaye yena ngokwakhe uphosa kwamanye abantu.
Kakade ke, kukho amaxesha apho umfazi kuphela amaphupha ukuba uthembekileyo wakhe ushiye indlu yakhe. Kwaye ngoko wenqwenela ukunqunyulwa ukwenzela ukuba angayikhupha ngokukhawuleza. Uninzi lwabasetyhini alufuni enye yeentsuku kwiidrobhethi ukuba ingabi neengubo zomlingane, kunye neendlwana zakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba akukho mnqweno wokufunda ngesondo ozithandayo, funda ukuba "cha" ngokuchanekileyo. Kukho iindlela ezinokuthi uzikhanye ngesondo, nangona ungayithuki indoda.
Ukulwa kweentlobano zesini
Ewe, akunakulungele ukulala ngombutho, ukuba intanda ethandekayo isondela kwaye icela ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Ndikholelwe, akukho nto enhle ezayo kule nto. Naliphi na umntu uya kuqonda ukuba yonke into ecaleni lakho iqhutywe ngamazinyo azinyiweyo. Ngenxa yoko, uya kuziphelisa ukuba ukufuphi kufana nesipilisi esibuhlungu. Unako ukugcina izikhalazo, ezinokubangela ukuba i-vitomage ibe nomnqweno wokuziphindezela.
Ukuthandwa ngumntu othandekayo, ungayitshintshela kwisifiso sesondo ukuya kwenye into, umzekelo, ithoyilo entsha, esanda kufakwa kwiikhomputha (ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, umlutha kumdlalo wekhompyutheni) okanye umdlalo we-poker (ukuba unomlutha). Ukuba akanakunamdla nakweyiphi na ekhetho olukhethiweyo, vula i-TV uze ubukele kunye nomdlalo webhola - ibhola, ibhola lebhokisi, iHockey.
Ekuqaleni kubonakala ngathi ukuqhutyelwa kwabahlali kwibhola lebhola lebhola lebhola kukungathandeki kwaye kungenanto. Kodwa kukho iimeko xa abafazi bengenandaba nomdlalo, baba ngabadlali bezemidlalo okanye banomdla kwimidlalo yezemidlalo. Ngubani owaziyo, emva kwemidlalo embalwa, esinokuyongeza kwiindawo zabo. Kodwa nangona singaba ngabalandeli, sinokuzincama izinto zethu ukuze inyaniso ithembe. Uya kuba novuyo, kwaye nathi, ukuba, ndilibala (ngokuqinisekileyo, ixesha elifanelekileyo) malunga nesondo.
Ukuba awufuni ukunikela ngemibandela yakho yonke, ke ishishini elihle linokudibaniswa luncedo. Ukuba umyeni ufuna ukulala ngesondo xa uthumela, unokuqala ngokukhenkceza (ukukhawula, ukuqabana, ukukrakra, ukuxhamla, kunye ne-genitalia ingabandakanywa), i-apodom iya kwi-caresses yelungu lesini lomzimba. Yaye ezo zezandla zikhululekile! Kulapho ukhangeleka, inkqubo enomdla iya kugqiba kwaye ayifuni ukulahla ngesondo.
Kwaye unokumomotheka uze uhlebezele, "andikulungele namhlanje, kodwa ngomso ndiya kulungisa into ehamba!".
Amadoda akhathalelekanga ngeyona nto yokungaphumeleli, kodwa ngeendlela ezisetyenziswe ngexesha lokwala; ukungazi xa yonke into efanayo iya kuba nesondo nokuba ingaba yinto yonke; apho ithoni yenqatshelwe khona.
Ngako oko, esithandweni ngokwesini ulahla ngothando kwaye uthembisa ukuba ngomso unikezelwa (ngosuku olulandelayo ungalibali ngesithembiso sakho), kwaye kufuneka ukuba yinto eyiyo. Ukuba umyeni udibene, ngexesha elizayo uya kuzivuma ngokukhawuleza ukuyeka ukulala ngesondo ngomso.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, umntu akanakukunyamekela ukunyanzeliswa komntu onothando, ongathandeki ngokukhawuleza. Indoda iyayithanda xa ithetha naye ngothando, ikhuthaze ngokukhawuleza ukungala. Umxholo wesintu apha awusebenzi, kuba unokutsala umthandi wakhe kumviwo. Emva kokuba ufunde isigqibo sokuba ugqirha "uphilile", uza kuziphendulela njani phambi komyeni wakho? Ngoko cinga ngento ethile yangaphambili. Khumbula, amadoda ahlala ebalekela abafazi abahlala bephelelwe zizifo ezingekho!
Ngokuqhelekileyo, khumbula ukuba isondo ngumsebenzi onomdla kwaye onomsebenzi ovuselela, uxolo, ukunciphisa ubunzima, uxoshe uxinzelelo kwaye ngoko awukwazi ukucinga ukuba kungcono ukugatya ngesondo!