Le yimibuzo evamile efunwa ngumfazi ukuba enze isigqibo. Ngoku siyazama ukuphendula.
Emva kwesondo, naluphi na ulwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, kwaye kunye nokungabikho kwabo. Lo bubomi kwaye akunakwenzeka.
Umhlobo wam walala ngesondo emva kokudibana nomntu, emva koko baqala ukuhlala kunye kunye nokuqeshisa indlu. Ngoku ke isibini esitshatileyo esilindele umntwana.
Kwaye mna owayesandifunda naye esikolweni emva 'kobusuku obuthandanayo' isoka lakhe elinikwe ukuba litshatile. Ngentsasa elandelayo wayesele ammisela kubazali bakhe, kwaye yayijika ... Ukufaka isicelo, ukukhangela iimpahla kunye nezinye izinto ezazinomdla kwabafazi.
Ewe, kwaye ndinamava kwimiba enjalo. Ndiyakhumbula ukuba ndingafuni ukuya kutyelela omnye kum nyuliweyo, kodwa emva kwenyanga yokuthetha kwethu, ndavuma. Emva kwenyanga yeentlanganiso salala ngesondo, kwaye kwakumnandi gqitha ukuba ndandiva kuqala kuye ukuba uyandithanda kwaye ufuna ukuba ndibe nabantwana kum. Ekuqaleni ndandingakhathazeki, kuba ndandicinga ukuba kusekudala ukuba ndibe nabantwana, kodwa ke ndaqonda ingqiqo yamagama akhe. Ngandlela-thile uye wandixelela ukuba ukuba wayengandithandi, asiyi kuba nesondo. Ungumntu ophezulu ngokomoya kwaye oko kwandiqinisekisa.
Kodwa ngelishwa, isibini sitshatileyo sivame ukuphuka emva kwesondo. Izizathu zihluke kakhulu.
Ngamanye amaxesha oomama kunye nogogo bazinene xa bethetha ukuba ubudlelwane obukhula ngokukhawuleza buphela ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye omnye umntu oqabane naye uya kubandezeleka, nakuba engekho ngokwenyama, kodwa ngokufanelekileyo! Ewe, oku akunjalo, kodwa ukuthanda umntu, emva kokulala ngokukhawuleza kuya kuba yinyani, nangona ukuba olu lamano luya kukhawuleza.
Isizathu sokungaqondi kakuhle kulwalamano lubangelwa ukungakwazi okanye ukwesaba ukunxibelelana ngezihloko ezingenanto, khuluma ngezinto ozikhathalelayo. Ngamanye amaxesha sisoyika ukuba sithi sithanda into ethile, kodwa into ayikho. Ngokomzekelo, ndandisoyika ukuthetha nomfana wam malunga namaphupha ami ebhedini ngaphambi kokuba andibuze kwaye ndiqinisekisile ukuba ndithini - akunjalo. Ngoku sinokuqonda ngokupheleleyo, nangona andiyi kufihla, andisisoloko ndiyingelosi, kodwa ndicinga ukuba uyayithanda.
Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo, zama ukuqonda ngokwakho kuqala kwaye uqonde oko kukukhuthaza: ukunyamekela, uthando, ukuziva, ukuphindiselela, njl njl. Ukuwa thandana nendoda emva kwesondo akuyona nzima kakhulu, kodwa omnye kufuneka alumke kakhulu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda acinga ukuba ukuba intombazana ifumaneka phambi komtshato, ke lo ngumqondiso wokuba ngumzali onomdla, kwaye umlahla. Kodwa oogqirha beengqondo beengcali bahumusha le meko ngokuhlukileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha sakha ubudlelwane ngokusekelwe kumgaqo "wothando ngocansi," kuba sishukunyiswa ngumnqweno wenyama. Kwaye ekugqibeleni asiyithandani kunye neqabane, kodwa ngokuthanda kwethu! Ngoko ke, qalisa, funda malunga nekwenkwenkwe yakho ngakumbi, kwaye ke ungene kwi-intanethi.
Awukwazi ukusebenzisana ngesondo ngaphandle kokuqikelela.
Ukuba ukwenzile, ngoko kufuneka ukhumbule ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo emva kwesondo, ngakumbi ukuba ufuna ukuthandana nomntu. Qinisekisa ukumnika ikhefu kunye nokutya, kuba balala ngesondo kunye namandla. Ungalibali ukumxelela ukuba wayenomdla. Oku kuya kutyhola iimvakalelo zakhe. Yibambe ngobumnene uze ucindezele kuwe, njengoko kubalwa amanani, oku kukufunwa ngabantu abaninzi. Bathanda abantwana badinga ukufudumala kunye nokukhathalela abayifunayo kwisiqingatha sabo sesibini, ngoko ukuthanda umntu, emva kokulala ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, umfazi, kufuneka ahlale engumgcini wekhaya kunye nokufudumala kwintsebenziswano, ngandlela-thile uzama ukumchukumisa kwaye ungaxeleli zonke iinkcukacha ngaye. Makhe akufunde njengencwadi yokuzonwabisa, kwaye yonke imihla ufunda into entsha. Ngoko, uya kuba nomdla kuye rhoqo. Umntu wam wathi kwandithi: "Ndikuninzi iminyaka emibini, kodwa andizange ndiqikelele ...". Ndicinga ukuba le mfihlakalo kum kumtsala.
Inhlanhla kuwe! Vumela kwaye unenhlanhla njengawe!