Njengoko uyazi, abamelwane abakhethiweyo, ngoko ke kufuneka sibekezelele abo baphila emva kwodonga okanye emva kocingo, kunye nemikhwa yabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ubudlelwane obusondelene bukhula buba buhlobo obuqinileyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha luba yintsikelelo ebombi. Awukwazi ukuvumela imfazwe embi phakathi kwezindlu, kunye neendlu, nokuseka uxolo olulinde ixesha elide? Amalungelo kunye neembopheleleko zabamelwane - abahlali basekhaya, kunye nezindlela zokuthula zokubakhuthaza zichazwe ngezantsi.
THANDA ABANTU BAKHO
Ngokwezibalo zobulungiseleli boMphathiswa we-Internal Affairs yaseRashiya, ngaphezu kwe-5% yazo zonke izenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho zenziwa kwiindawo zasemakhaya ngabamelwane. Enyanisweni, kwenzululwazi yanamhlanje kukho into enje "njengengqondo yabamelwane". Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubonakala ungenazihambi, kwaye uneminyaka emininzi uhlala kwenye indawo, kwaye kwenye - awukho izihlobo eziseduze, ngoko ke unelungelo lokuva ulwalamano kunye nokubonisa uxhatshazo. Unokuba nesimo sengqondo esahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo ebomini, ukucoceka, iindlela zokuzonwabisa-akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Ukongezelela, akufanele uvuyiswe yimpumelelo yomnye nomnye. Nangona kunjalo, kulo mzekelo, ukungathandi kuya kuqokelela kwaye, ngokungangabazeki, kuya kuba yintlonipho yangempela xa ungayeki ixesha kwaye ungakhumbuli umyalelo oyintloko wommelwane-thanda ummelwane wakho njengoko uzithanda wena! Umthetho uyongeza: Yazi amalungelo akho kunye noxanduva lwakho.
Akukho mntu uthi ngelinye ilanga ufune ukuthanda iiPetrovs kunye nomntwana onobudala okhulayo, ugogo onomsindo, othanda ukusela umntakwabo kunye nokukhwaza ngokukhawuleza inja-ngokufutshane, bonke abamelwane - abahlali bendlu ngangoko. Esikhundleni sokuba neentloni kunye nokuxhalaba malunga naso sonke isihlandlo, shintsha isimo sengqondo sakho kwimeko. Zama ukumisela imithetho yakho ekuhlaleni. Isitshixo ekuphumeleleni kwakho sinesidima kunye nokuziphatha kwakho okuchanekileyo. Ukuba ufuna ukuthula emva kwe-23.00, khumbula ukuba kungekudala uza kuba nomhla wokuzalwa. Kwaye ke, endaweni yokubeka phambili i-ultimatum, nikela ukulungiselela amalungiselelo okuhlwa, umzekelo, kanye ngenyanga, nilumkiso malunga nabo kwangaphambili. Ukuba ukhathele ukukhumbuza abamelwane malunga nokugcina ucocekileyo, bhala ileta ehloniphekileyo uze uyixhome kwikorori okanye kwi-elevator. Akuyimfuneko ukusebenzisa izityholo kunye nemigqaliselo ebuthakathaka, isimemezelo esifana nesithi "Asinguye ihagu! Yeka ukukrazula kwizitebhisi uze uphonsa yonke indawo inkunzi! ", Ngokuqinisekileyo, iyicacisa, kodwa ayinakusebenza. Ngokuphambene noko, ileta ehloniphekileyo, ebonisa ukuba uyayixabisa indlu kwaye uyiphathe ngothando, iya kwenza abavakalisi abanganelisekanga bacinge. Ekugqibeleni, faka i-ashtray okanye i-tin kwizitepsi uze ubhale kuyo: "Beka i-cigarette butts kum" -kubeka ukudibanisa smiley ekupheleni. Abavakalisi ngokuqinisekileyo bayayixabisa indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kunye nezobuchule kwaye baya kuvuyela ngokunyanisekileyo ukuveliswa kwakho.
Enye into ebalulekileyo kulwalamano oluhle nommelwane kukuqonda! Zama ukungena kwindawo yabo abahlala emva kwodonga lwakho. Akunabo bonke abanetyala lokuba umntwana wabo oneminyaka emihlanu engalali ubusuku, kunye nomkhulu utata ukukhwehlela ngokugqithiseleyo aze aqhube kwiintonga. Ezinye iimeko azikwazi ukutshintshwa, kwaye ngoko ke indlela yokuphuma kwakho kukuvuma kwaye ufumane ukuphazamiseka kwexeshana.
KUNGABENZISWA KANYE?
Umntu ongaphandle angakuthandi nantoni na, nokuba ngumkhwa wakho. Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezifumana kwiimbilini eziphantse kuwo wonke umntu!
♦ Ubutyebi. Ifenitshala elungileyo, umrhumo obizayo wendlu, indlu yecaterari enekrini epheleleyo, imoto yangaphandle phantsi kwewindow - konke oku kuya kubangela ukuba inzondelelo yabantu abanokwenza izinto eziphathekayo kushiyeke. Akukho nto inokumangalisa apha - izazi zeengqondo zijonga umona "ukuvakalelwa kwemvelo, isakhiwo esibandakanya ukukhuphisana, ukuxhalabisa kwinto yokuba into enqwenelekayo andinayo, kunye nenzondo ebangelwa yiyo."
Yintoni enokuyenza: jonga ubungani kunye noontanga kwiimeko zentlalo ngabantu, kunye nabamelwane abancinci behlala bengathandani, musa ukubamema ukuba batyelele, musa ukucela ukuba babukele enye into emnandi.
♦ Izingozi zasekhaya. Ukuba uhlala uzalisa abamelwane bakho ngamanzi kwaye ulungelelanisa ukusweleka kwetambo, lindele ingxaki. Oku akumnandi kumntu kwaye akakho! Ngokomthetho, ilungu elenzakalini linelungelo lokufuna umvuzo wokuziphatha kakubi kunye nempahla eyenziwe (nangona kungenakulungelelaniswa).
Into enokuyenza: kungcono ukwenza ukulungiswa okuyimfuneko kwangaphambili. Ungalindeli kude kube yilapho umbhobho wakho uphula kunye namanzi ugijimela phantsi, ubize i-plumber kwiphawu lokuqala loxinzelelo. Ukongeza, zonke iifowuni ngenxa yokungasebenzi kakubi kubhalwe kwiincwadi zokulawula, kwaye ukuba kwenzeka ingozi, uya kuba netyala elihle enkundleni.
♦ Ukulungisa. Abamelwane abaqhoqhoqhoyo rhoqo banokwenza i-Stoics engapheliyo.
Yintoni ongayenza: ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukulungiswa, qi niqiniseke ukuba ubuze abamelwane, ngaba abavaliwe nentsingiselo kwaye ngexesha lilungele ukuqhuba umsebenzi? Ngaphambili, cela ukuxolelwa ngenxa yokuphazamiseka - imvume iya kukhulula izandla zakho.
UKUQALA
Bonke abantu bahluke, kodwa iintlobo ezithile phakathi kwabamelwane basoloko behlangana.
♦ Umdlali. Usandul 'umhlalaphantsi, kwaye ngoko ke akakwazi ukushiya isigxina somsebenzi. Umfazi onjalo uyangena kwisisombululo seengxaki zoluntu kwaye ngokukhawuleza abe yintloko yendlu yonke - ikhulu lemihla ngemihla egijima kuwe ukuba uqoke umtshini omnye utshintsho oluncinane emnyango kwaye ukhononda kwi-Ivanovs ukusuka kumgangatho wesihlanu ongabonakali .
Indlela yokunxibelelana: Musa ukunika yonke imali kwaye ungayiphikisi. Makungavumi ukuxabana nomlindi.
♦ Umfazi omdala onoyolo. Ngeqabunga elitshitshisiweyo kunye nobushushu obusabekayo, yena kunye nabahlobo bakhe bahleli ebhentshini kwaye bajonga ngokugqithiseleyo wonke umntu ongenayo aze ashiye ukungena. Uyakubona isakhelo sakho esifutshane kwaye enze isigqibo esiphezulu malunga nokuziphatha kwakho okungafanelekanga, uya kukuxelela ukuba kungekhona kuphela amantombazana, kodwa kunye namakhwenkwe afika kwintombi yakho, kwaye umyeni wakhe utshaya ixesha elide kunye noLvet Svetlana Petrovna ovela kwindlu ye-45.
Indlela yokunxibelelana: yehla phezu kweendlebe kwaye ungakholelwa nto. Musa ukunyamekela ingqalelo kwiingxelo. Emva koko, aba bafazi badala bahlala bencedo. Ukuba endlwini yakho, uThixo akavumelekanga, kuya kuba yinto embi, baya kuba ngabokuqala ukuxelela amapolisa malunga nayo yonke impawu yomphangi, kwaye baya kuluqumbela ukweba.
♦ Umphefumlo womhlobo. Unako nayiphi na inani leminyaka - ukusuka ku-13 ukuya ku-90. Uhlala ehamba ngesonka, uhlale nomntwana, ubolekise, uhambe inja, manzi iintyatyambo kwaye unokukuncedisa nantoni na.
Indlela yokunxibelelana: kuba ngabahlobo, yenza abahlobo uze uphinde wenze abahlobo! Musa nje ukuhlala entanyeni yakhe, zama ukuncedana.
♦ Ubumnandi obutsha. Wakhula phambi kwendlu yonke kwaye ngokukhawuleza waphenduka kwidada elibi kwi-nymphet enhle. Ngaphezu koko, loo mfazi osemdala onobubele uyakutshela njalo ukuba umyeni wakho ubukela ubuhle obuhle.
Indlela yokunxibelelana: ngokwenene, akunakwenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho liyakushintsha nommelwane omncinci. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usenomona, kungcono ukuthetha naye kwaye uphendule zonke iingxaki.
♦ Umakhi wommelwane. Ukulungiswa ngumfanekiso wobomi bakhe. Ukususela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku ubamba into ethile, ukusika kunye nezipikili. Uyakuvusa ekuseni ngeCawa kwaye angakuvumeli ukuba ulale ubusuku obude.
Indlela yokunxibelelana: kusengaphambili cacisa iindidi ezamkelekileyo zokulungisa. Unganqikazi ukutsho ukuba awulungele yonke iveki ukuphulaphula izandi ezikhethiweyo kwihlabathi kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba uvuke kubo ngo-6-7 nakwe-9 ekuseni.
♦ Utywala. Kukho njalo kwindlu. Uya kukuxelela ngethuba lakhe elibuhlungu kwaye akayi kunqikaza ukucela ikhulu ngebheriya, i-vodka okanye isinkwa. Ungalindelanga ukuba uya kubabuyisela okanye aphulaphule iingcebiso zakho kwaye uyeke ukusela.
Indlela yokunxibelelana: ngokwenene, inceba ayiyona nto efanelekileyo. Ungesabi ukukhanyela ummelwane wakho unxila. Kungcono ukondla ekhaya kunokuboleka isonka kunye nobisi.
IMIGAQO YESITHATHU "AKUNYE" NABANTU ABANINGI ABANYE
• Musa ukuvumela ukunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo, ukwenzela ukuba, uThixo angavumi, musa ukuthatha isimo sakho sengqondo ngobungani. Njalo gcina umgama! Oku kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba akunakwenzeka ukuba usondele kubantu abanjalo kwaye kungekudala okanye kamva uya kufuna ukuphula nabo, naluphi na ubudlelwane. Ngelo xesha imemori yohlobo olulahlekileyo luya kubanika amandla okulwa nawe.
• Ungazami ukubafumbathisa - ngokuqhelekileyo akunakuncedo. Baya kuthi bathathe izipho njengezibonelelo, kwaye iinjongo zakho ezilungileyo ziwuphawu lobuthathaka.
• Ungaphenduli imibuzo efana ne "Ngubani oza kuwe izolo?" Ngamazwi avela kwinqanaba "Awukhathaleli". Kukulungele ukuguqulela intetho ngokukhawuleza kwingxoxo yeemiboniso zeTV, imiboniso yeTV okanye nayiphi na into enomdla ngakumbi kunobomi bakho abucala. Ungathethi nto malunga nawe, kodwa ungazami ukufihla nayiphi na into - ubukho bezinto ezingavunyelwe ziza kukhuthaza kuphela ukwazi kwakho. Masibukele bhetele iTV kwaye uphulaphule umsakazo!
IMIGAQO YOKUBHALA
/ Emva kokufudukela kwindlu entsha kwaye ugqiba ukulungiswa, ubhake ii-pie okanye uzithenge kwivenkile elisondeleyo kwaye uye kubamelwane. Olu tyelelo luya kubonisa ukubonga kwakho ngomonde wabo ngexesha lokulungisa nokwakhiwa kwindlu yakho.
/ Zama ukubingelela bonke abaqeshi endlwini - ekupheleni, cwaka ku-elevator uze wenze sengathi awuzange ubonane, kungcolileyo.
/ Ungamkeli abamelwane kwiintlobo: ityuwa, ishukela, iiminganiso ziyakudinga ngokukhawuleza kuwe. Maxa wambi akunakulungile ukuhlala kunye nomntwana wommelwane, kwaye uhambe inja yegulayo uMaria Petrovna. Ukongezelela, khumbula ukuba ngokuvuma ukutyhila iintyatyambo ngexesha leeholide likaSmirnov, unelungelo lokucela ukuba londle iikati ngexesha lokuya kolwandle. Nangona kunjalo, uncedo oluhlangeneyo luyinto entle, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngaba melwane bahleli kunye nawe; entanyeni, ungesabi ukunqanda.
/ Musa ukubandakanyeka kakhulu ebomini bamelwane. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kuba nolonwabo xa abantu abanesihawu babemxelela ukuba indoda yakho izisa umfazi kwihostela. Kodwa ukuba lumkise ukuba intombi yommelwane ithathwe ngotywala okanye iziyobisi, kuyimfuneko.
/ Musa ukulibala ukudibanisa nabamelwane ukuphuhliswa kwindlu yakho kunye nokufakwa kwegaraji egcekeni - banelungelo elingokomthetho lokwenza njalo. Ukungahoywa kwamalungelo kunye neembopheleleko zabamelwane - abahlali bendlu abazange baholele nabani na ukufikelela kwindawo enhle.
Amava abo: U- Irina Belkina, oneminyaka engama-29 ubudala.
Xa sathuthela kwindlu entsha, ndaqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba abamelwane abazange bandinike ubomi. Kwakukho emva kwodonga kwakusapho enkulu ngokumemeza abantwana abasenkulanga, abantwana abaselula kunye nabafundi abafunda nabo. Ndandingakhulelwe kwaye ndandinomdla kakhulu kwizinto zonke. Nangona kunjalo, xa iVanya yazalwa, ndaqonda ukuba inene, ndenenhlanhla kumelwane. Okokuqala, ndihlala ndibuyela kubo ngcebiso, kwaye okwesibini, ndiyakushiya indlu naliphi na ixesha ndicele omnye wabantwana okanye abantu abadala ukuba bahlale kunye nosana, kwaye, okwesithathu, ndiyazi ngokuqinisekileyo , ukuba akukho namnye oza kumkhalazela ngendodana yam engathuli. Ndivuyiswa kukuba ndihlobo olunjalo!