Ukukhuliswa kwabantwana, njengengxaki ebalulekileyo kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo, kunikwe ingqwalasela ekhethekileyo ngamaxesha onke kwihlabathi. Ukubaluleka kwayo kuye kwaye kwaqatshelwa, amawaka amaninzi emisebenzi eyenziwa yiengcali ezivela kwimimandla eyahlukileyo-ukusuka kwii-psychologists ukuya kubadlali-abazinikele kuyo. Ewe, isihloko sinokuthi sininzi kwaye singenamkhawulo, njengesihloko. Emva kwakho konke, ngokukodwa ukuba isizukulwana esilandelayo siya kukhula, kuxhomekeke kwindlela abantu abaya kuqhubeka ngayo baphila kwaye baphuhlise.
Akukho mzekelo jikelele, ongenakuqonda ngokuchanekileyo wokukhulisa kwaye, ngokuthe ngangoko, akunakuze kube njalo. Kuyacaca ukuba kumazwe ahlukeneyo iindlela ezahlukeneyo zemfundo kwiikholeji ezahlukeneyo zenziwe - kwanele ukuthelekisa kule ntetho nge-Sparta neYapan yangaphambili ukuze kuqondwe indlela eyahlukileyo ngayo. Ukufana kufakwe kuphela kwindlela efanelekileyo-ukuziphatha. Kwaye oku kubangelwa ukuba ifikelele kwinkulungwane yeshumi elinamabini, ulawulo oluphambili lwabaqeqeshi bomsebenzi wabo lusekholeni. Kwakhona wabusa intsapho, kwaye ngoko ilapha, ukusuka ekuzalweni komntwana, isiseko semfundo safakwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, umehluko kwiindlela zemfundo elalichazwe ngabafana-abesilisa kunye namantombazana akhuliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kwanaMazwe Aphakathi. Kodwa, nangona abafana abaneminyaka engama-7 bekhuliswe ngabomama kunye nabannies, babesazi kakuhle ukuba ngubani okufanele abe. Kwiintsapho zanamhlanje, ngezinye ezimbalwa, ukukhuliswa kwabantwana Kukho ikakhulukazi kuxhomekeke kumahlombe oomama. Ngako oko, kuxhomekeke kwimpawu zakhe zomntu, imbono, uthando, ukholo kunye noxanduva oluxhomekeke kwiliphi uhlobo lwabantu unyana wakhe okanye intombi yakhe eya kukhula, inzuzo okanye inzondo iya kuzisa, ngubani oya kuphakanyiswa aze aveliswe kwakhona. Kuhle, ukuba umntwana ozelwe kwintsapho unqwenela, ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho bubele, kwaye unina unothando kwaye unethenda: kulo mzekelo umntu unamathuba okukhula umntu ophawulekayo. Kwaye ukuba "unethamsanqa" ukuba azalwe kwintsapho apho ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali abukho kwizinga eliphezulu. Impembelelo yobudlelwane nabazali ekukhuliseni abantwana babo inomphumo omkhulu.
Amadoda abandakanyeka kakhulu kwiintsapho zobudlelwane. Ngelishwa, zibandakanyeka ngokuthe ngqo nangendlela engathanga ngqo - emva koko, ubudlelwane obubi kwintsapho abuyiyo nto kodwa ukuphendula ukuphelelwa yithemba, xa uxinzelelo lweentsapho, ukhathalela, imicimbi, nomsebenzi, kunye nesikolo, nokukhulelwa kuhlaselwa ngumfazi. Xa ufuna ukwenza yonke into, buyisa, ufumane, uthenge, upheke, xa kungekho mntu uncedayo kwaye unokuzithemba kuphela. Kodwa imikhosi ayinomkhawulo, ukujika okuza kuza, zombini iimbilini kwaye kuya kuqala ukusilela. Kwaye ukufumana umzimba ngaphandle kwesi sithintelo, umsindo uya kuhlangulwa.
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba "ukuzonda kunokutshisa ngaphezu kokuthanda." Kufana nokunika umoya wesibini, uziva unamandla, unesibindi, unesihluthuzelo, wenza indlela yakho, ungabali ngaphezu kwanoma ubani. Kodwa nje ngokuba wonke umntu uyazi kakuhle ukuba le meko iyingozi kumfazi kwaye kwaye yingozi kwintsapho yakhe. Ukugqithisa kubangela ukuba kuqhutywe ulwaphulo, insimu yolwazi yehlabathi lethu iqokelela kwaye ibuyela "kumbhali" kwinani elikhulu. Kwaye ke, kuthatha amandla amaninzi kunye nobushushu ukulwa kwakhona, ukunqoba ... kwaye le ndlela ivalwe. Iqalile kwaye iyancitshiswa kwisangqa se-bitch ngokwayo, ihlaselwe kwisigatshana esigxina, esingapheliyo, esingapheliyo.
Kwaye, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, ukuba kunye naye kule ngqungquthela, i-vortex yeemvakalelo eziphazamisayo eziza kuphuma emhlabeni, umzabalazo ohlala njalo kunye nomsindo uyanqunyulwa ukuba angazi "izibopho" - izihlobo zakhe, indoda, abantwana. Ngaba kuyamangalisa ukuba ukuxabana kwentsapho kwaqhekeka, kwaye unyana kunye nentombi baqala ukukopisha ukuziphatha komama? Emva koko, indlela ephakamileyo yemfundo ngumzekelo ophilayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngabazali banomnqweno, abantwana bayaziqonda okanye baqaphele ukuba bathathe umzekelo wokuthintana, ubudlelwane, iimpendulo kunye nokuziphatha. Kwaye ke, ukuba unina ngokungazelelwe angathandi indlela abantwana bakhe abangayitshintshi ngayo ngcono, akukho mntu uyakucasulwa: lo ngumzekelo wakhe wokuziphatha.
Yile ndlela i-bitch iba ngakumbi ngayo, kwaye, ngelishwa, oku akusamangalisi, njengokungathi "isiqhelo" esitsha sobomi. Ngoko yintoni esilindele kwixesha elizayo - uluntu loluntu?
Ndifuna ukukholelwa ukuba akukho. Ngenhlanhla, abaninzi abafazi abafana nale nkcazo banothando oluzeleyo nomonde kwabo bantwana babo. Le meko ibhetele ngakumbi xa kukho umntu omncedayo kule nto. Emva kwayo yonke into, nokuba yintoni na, kwaye umzali kufanele avelise abantwana, kwaye kungekhona nje umama, nokuba kulungile. Okokuqala, ngenxa yokuba inkqubo yezemfundo iyaqhubeka, ayikwazi ukubandakanyeka ngexesha labo elithile. Okwesibini, nabani na oya kuthi le nkwenkwe idinga uyise - kwaye ibe ngumzekelo wokuziphatha, kwaye njengomhlobo, njengomncedisi kunye nomcebisi. Kusemagxeni kayise ukuba umthwalo oyintloko ubeka kwimfundo yonyana wakhe. Kwintsapho apho ngenxa yesizathu esithile kunomama kuphela, esinye sezihlobo sinako kwaye sifanele sithathe indawo yisebe, ekubeni inxaxheba yendoda ekukhulisweni kwenkwenkwe ayiyi kuphinda yenziwe ngenye indlela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umfazi unzima kangakanani.
Kakade, ukuba intombi, uyise kufuneka abe ngumzekelo wesilisa, inkxaso kunye nokukhuselwa, ngoko ke akukho namnye umkhulula ekufundiseni intombazana. Kukho isidingo sokuvuma ngokubanzi kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba. Ngoko ke, nayiphi na abazali abangaphandle kwentsapho, kufuneka bazise ikhaya ngokukhanya kunye nokufudumala, okulungileyo kunye nenjabulo, ukuthatha inxaxheba ngokunyanisekileyo nothando. Umzekelo wobudlelwane phakathi kwabazali yinto yokuqala abantwana abayifumanayo, kwaye ukuhlonipha, ukuxhaswa kunye nokuxhaswa, ukunyaniseka nokuthanda uthando kwintsapho kuya kwenza umntu ahambelane nomntu.