Yintoni abantu bayayixabisa kwintombi: iimpawu ezine ongazange uzi

Ekufuneni iimpendulo kumbuzo malunga noko amadoda axabisa kakhulu kubasetyhini, sikhokelwa yilogi yethu yesibini, kuba asinayo enye. Ngako-ke inqwaba yeengcebiso ezifanayo, esekelwe kwiingcamango ezinqamlekileyo, okusolakala ukuba zinika amadoda anjalo njengoMerlin Monroe, edibanisa iimpawu zentombikazi engapheliyo engazange ibe nekhanda, ukukwazi ukuhlala eyingqungquthela nentombazana enomdla, inkohlakalo engenakulinganiswa nongenanto. Kodwa ngaba ngokwenene abantu baqwalasela iimpawu ezibaluleke kakhulu kubasetyhini?

Unokufumana inyaniso kuphela ngendlela enye-ukuphulaphula amadoda. Enyanisweni, ngenxa yobungqina bolu vavanyo, abayi kuxoxwa nodliwano-ndlebe, kodwa ukunyuka. Oku, nangona kungenakuziphatha kakuhle, kodwa iimpendulo zamadoda malunga neempawu zebhinqa ezixabisekileyo ziza kuba zinyaniseka kunokwenzeka. Ukuqinisekisa okanye ukukhanyela ukukhethwa kwamadoda esiya kubabuza iingqondo zengqondo. Bayazi kakuhle oko amadoda ayifunayo nento yokwenza ukuze bahlale beyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kubo. Ngoko ke, masiqhawule iimpawu ezine zeentombi, apho amadoda ekuqhubeni uphando aye abize eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kwaye awuzange ucingisise okanye usenokukrokra:

  1. Ikhono lomfazi ukuvumela umntu ukuba ahlale ngokwakhe Indoda ikulungele ukuxolela umfazi ongabonakaliyo okanye ukungabikho kweetalente zentlonelo, kodwa akayi kuluqonda umnqweno wakhe omhle wokufakela kuye, njengokuba kubonakala, into entsha ephuculweyo yendoda efanelekileyo. Ukuzama ukutshintsha umntu, "uvuselele" umlingiswa wakhe, ungavumeli ukuba ngokwakhe - indlela efanelekileyo yokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane. Indoda ifuna ukwazi ukuba wayethandwa ngendlela ayenayo, kwaye akayi kuzingca, ukugqoka iimaski nokudlala indima.
  2. Ikhono lokuvuma kunye nokufumana ukunyaniseka Umnqweno wokuba ulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi awuyithathi ibhinqa emehlweni endoda ehlakaniphile. Enyanisweni, inyaniso izalwe kwiingxabano, kodwa, ngokuqhubekayo ibonisa ukuba ilungile, umfazi uqala ukusebenza njengomntu ophethe ubudlelwane kwaye uthatha indima yenkokheli. Abantu abanamandla, abanokuzithemba baxabisa ngakumbi ubulumko bowesifazane, ukukwazi ukuvuma nokunikezela. Kwaye lelinye lamakhadi ayixilongo egciniweyo, avumela, ngaphandle kokugxininisa kwedwa, kusasaza.

  1. Amandla okudumisa ngobuqotho nokubulela. Amadoda njengabantwana, xa bebonga, bakhuthaza kwaye bavuselela, ngakumbi bazama ukufanisa umfanekiso owenziwe kunye nethemba elinikeziweyo. Ngokuchasene, ukugxeka, ukunganeliseki okanye ukusola, kubangela ukuvukela kunye nomoya wokuphikisa kwimicabango yabantu. Amadoda ayawaxabisa abasetyhini abawaziyo ukuwaxabisa kwaye banakho ukubanceda ukuba benze ngokunyaniseka nokuthokoza.
  2. Ilungelo lokonwaba. Amadoda amaninzi akhalazela ukuba abafazi bafuna ukufumana umntu oya kubavuyisa, ukukhulula uxinzelelo okanye ukuxazulula iingxaki zemali. Abafazi abanjalo bangaba novelwano, baphulaphule, baxhaswe, kodwa abantu bathandana nabasetyhini abanovuyo abanokwazi ukuvuya, bathwala izinto ezintle kwaye bahambelane nehlabathi elibangqongileyo. Banoyolo yaye bathandana nobomi babo, abasetyhini emehlweni abo babesele baxabiseke ngokwabo.

Iingcamango zabantu: kutheni amadoda axabisa abafazi?

Amadoda asondela yonke into esuka kumbono wokuqonda, usebenzisa ukubala kunye ne-pragmatism. Nokuba luyathanda! Kwaye bavavanya abesifazana ngokwemathematika ngokwemathematika, nangona bahlala beyiqonda ngokucacileyo oku. Ibhinqa lomntu lixabisa ukuba:
  1. Ibeka izixhobo zayo kuyo. Ingakumbi indoda ibeka kwizinto eziphathekayo zezinto eziphathekayo, amandla angqondo, amandla, ixesha kunye nokucinga, kubaluleke ngakumbi emehlweni akhe. Kwaye! Unika kakhulu kwaye unikezela "kwiprojekthi" yakhe, kwaye uyawaxabisa kakhulu ezo ndleko. Kunzima ukungawuthandi umsebenzi wakho onzima. Luthando oluncinci nolunengqiqo olulungiselelwe uluntu. Iingcebiso zengqondo:
    • Ungalokothi ulahle izipho kwaye ungavumeli umntu agcine kuye.
    • Vumela ukunyamekela nakwezinye izinto ezincinci kwaye ukhuthaze iqhinga lomntu ukukunceda.
    • Khuthaza loo mntu ukuba achithe ixesha kuwe kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uzenze ulinde.

  1. Jonga ngokuqinisekileyo. Amadoda athola kwaye azibandakanya kwizinto ezibavumela ukuba bazive bekhululekile kunye nabo, ngokuzithemba nangokuqikelela. Ngaloo ndlela, ibhinqa kubo ngenye indlela "yinto" apho bafuna ukufumana ikamva elizinzile nelisigxina. Kuba ibhinqa lithuba lokudala ukuxhomekeka komntu kuye kwaye kwintuthuzelo engokomoya kunye noyomzimba onokumnika yona. Iingcebiso zengqondo:
    • Bonisa loo ndoda izibonelelo azakufumana xa evuma ingcamango yakho okanye isiphakamiso.
    • Yabelana ngeminqweno yakhe kwaye ube ngu-interlocutor, umlobi-mbambano okanye i-accomplice kwizinto azithandayo.
    • Ungalokothi uzibuze umntu wakho, ungagxeki uze ungafaki iziqulatho!
  1. Ufumana ingxelo engummoya ophezulu. Ngomfazi ozama ngazo zonke iindlela zokukholisa indoda, ukuthula ngokungaboniyo malunga neengxabano kunye nokuba kuyo yonke into evumelanayo, iyinto elula kakhulu, kodwa iyingozi kakhulu. Umfazi onjalo akayi kubuzwa. Indoda iya kuxabisa umntu owaziyo ukunika iimvakalelo, ukunyanzela ukuba ahambe kwaye awele, ayenayo ingqiqo, ukuba kuyimfuneko, kodwa uhlala ebalulekileyo kwaye ehlakaniphile kwimicimbi ebalulekileyo. Ngamanye amazwi, kunye nomfazi ufuna ukufumana lonke uluvo lweemvakalelo, kuba "iinkwenkwezi zibonakala zibonakala ebhakabhakeni obumnyama". Iingcebiso zengqondo:
    • Vumela into eyayiyinto ngaphambili kwaye inqande into ehlala ifumaneka ngokukhululekile.
    • Uxhamle, nceda, umsindo, uphukise kwaye uvumeleke kunye nomntu ovakalelwa kukuba ulwalamano luphile kwaye lukhanyise.
    • Yiba nengqiqo, imfuno, ugxininise, uxabane, kodwa yenza luthando kwaye usoloko ushiye indawo ukuze udibanise.

  1. Usoyika ukulahlekelwa. Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa luqhutywa yintlangano yobudlelwane. Kwaye kwimeko enkulu ixhatshaza amadoda, kuba ubunzima babo bokuzingela bukhokela ukuba bazuze, banqobe, banqobe. Yaye ukuba i-extraction femin elula kwaye engenakubunzima, akukho nto iyayiqonda. Indoda isondliwa ngokufikeleleka kwaye ingesabi ukulahlekelwa, enye ehlala iqikelele kwaye iyanqabile kwi-cloy. Iingcebiso zengqondo:
    • Musa ukukhuphela abanye abantu ebomini bakho. Okukufutshane nomdla wakho wesilisa, ophakamileyo unomthandi wakho.
    • Ngexesha eli vumela uvumele ukunqumla iifowuni zomntu wakho, ukungahoyi iisms, ngamanye amaxesha ungabikho kwinqanaba lokufikelela, nangona useneminyaka engamakhulu ubudala utshatile.
    • Ukuxabisa iimpawu kunye nezenzo zomntu, ziyamkela izenzo ezifanelekileyo zabanye abantu, ukuze umntu wakho abe nenento yokuzama.