Uthando lwenqanawa aluphuli nje ngokuphila. Enyanisweni, kwintsapho nganye kukho imiba emininzi yeengxabano ezinokubangela ukupholisa. Kufuneka baxoxisane kunye, bathethe ngokucacileyo kwaye 'bangaboni'. Ewe, umzekelo, yile yodwa yale mibuzo: zingaphi kangangeveki intsapho eqhelekileyo yenza isondo?
Ukonwaba ngokwesondo kunye nokwaneliseka kuxhomekeke kumgangatho, kungekhona ubuninzi. Oku, kubonakala, kuyaqondakala kweso sibini esincinane. Emva kobusuku, umnqweno wesondo uyaphela.
Kuyacaca kubo bobabini abatshatileyo ukuba banelisekile ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye ukuba intsapho ihlala ngokwahlukileyo kubazali babo, nayo yile naliphi na ixesha. Kodwa akusiyo into yokuba iBhayibhile ilumkisa ngezilingo. Yaye isilingo esinjalo kwiintsapho ze-nyunyukliya (indoda, umfazi, kwaye akukho zizukulwana ezidlulileyo phantsi kwephahla elilodwa) unokulala ngesondo.
Endaweni yokonwaba ngokucebileyo ubuncwane bokuvakalelwa kwendalo, abatshatileyo (kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo iqabane) baqala ukuzibuza: zingaphi kangangeveki intsapho eqhelekileyo isondo? Kwaye intsapho yethu iyaqhelekile kule ngcamango?
Kuvela apha ukuba "kuvela iingxaki ezahlukileyo". Ukususela kwiingxowankulu ukuya kwi-frigidity, kwaye emva koko-iingxabano kwisihloko esihluke ngokupheleleyo, kubonakala kungabandakanyeki nobomi obusondeleyo bentsapho. Kodwa eneneni, ininzi kulwalamano lubangelwa uvuyo umyeni nomfazi abanikayo kwaye bafumana. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokunxulumanisa intsapho, kwaye mhlawumbi iyahlukana.
Kanti, kungakanani?
Ukuba siqhubeka ukusuka kwinto yokuba silinganisa umgangatho wesini kwintsapho eqhelekileyo ngobuninzi, ngoko sifumana oku kulandelayo. Iingcali zithi ukufikelela kwiminyaka engama-40 (ewe, ukudibanisa okanye ukunciphisa iminyaka emihlanu), ngokuqhelekileyo isibini silala embhedeni kathathu ngeveki.
Xa bekhulile, isixa sinokuthi sinciphise amaxesha angama-2-3 ngenyanga, kwaye kwincinci (ukuya kuma-25 ubudala), amadoda azimisele ukwenza i-coitus 2-4 ngamaxesha ngobusuku bonke. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda anamava akanakukwazi ukuhambisana nawo ngobungakanani. Kodwa, mhlawumbi, banokuhlawulela "ukungabikho" komgangatho, kwaye kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ngendlela yokwenza ngayo ...
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, nokuba ngabadlali abakhulu bezesondo, abalingani bezocansi abahlala bexoxa ngeenzuzo zabo, basikhumbuza ukubahluko phakathi kwezimo.
- Kukho abantu abanesimo sengqondo esifudumeleyo, abashushu - kodwa banomdla omncinci kwisini.
Izidlo zokugqibela zokulala zokulala azihlali kumnandi, kodwa "abanqwenela" ukulala ngesondo. Kwaye kukho abantu abaneemodamente ezisezingeni eliphakathi. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba ininzi yamanani enani lezenzo zesini kwintsapho "eqhelekileyo" yenziwe ngabo - kwenzeka ukuba isondo "soxhatshazo" ngenxa yentsholongwane ephakamileyo yezibini ezithandanayo.
Yintoni ebangela iimbandezelo?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zingaphi kangangeveki kukho isondo kwindawo ebizwa ngokuba "yintsapho" yesiqhelo, akufanelekile ukuqwalasela. Emva kwakho konke, ukubala ukubulala konke ukuthanda, ukomoya, ukuguquka, ukuguqulwa emsebenzini. Omnye umcimbi wendlu kukunelisa indoda (okanye umfazi onobubele) - oku akufani nokuzonwabisa kwezifiso. Xa kukho umsebenzi - akukho buqili, uvuyo olungqinileyo nolungileyo. Emva koko umyeni (okanye umfazi) ukhononda ukuba iqabane (s) lizithembele kwi-caresses okanye zikhetha inqobo ethile.
Iingcebiso kulabo abafuna 'ukulinganisa' inani
Iingcebiso ezilungileyo kakhulu kulabo abaya kubala ukuba zingaphi iintsapho eziqhelekileyo zithatha isondo ngeveki okanye ngenyanga ziya kuba nesifiso sokubala ukuba ziphindwe kangangeenyanga ngenyanga.
Kwaye kuphela into "engadliwayo", kodwa ihlala isenzo sokubambisana ngokubambisana, ukusetyenziswa kweengqondo zengqondo - isabonwa kwaye ifanelekileyo.
Kwamanye amaxesha, ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukubala - cinga malunga nobani okwenzayo oku. Ukuba kummelwane - njengengqungquthela eyaziwayo malunga nendoda endala kunye nolwazi lwazo ngokwesini, ugqirha wacebisa ngokuchanekileyo. "Yaye uya kubaxelela." Futhi ungazami ukwenza indlu yokulala igumbi lomdlalo weMidlalo yeOlimpiki.
Emva koko, abantu abatshatileyo bakhulu, kwaye bayaqonda ukuba ubuchule kunye nokuhlukahluka akuhambelani nesiqubulo esithi "ngokukhawuleza, phezulu, kunamandla."