Izazi zengcali kunye neengqondo zezinto zengqondo zichaze idatha ngokubhekiselele kuyo kuphela iipesenti ezilishumi elinambini zeembini ezithandanayo ngokusekelwe kwintando kunelungelo lokufumana intsapho eqinile. Ukukhanga kakhulu ngesondo kunye nomdla, okwakubonakala ekuqaleni kokuthandana okanye intlanganiso, kuya kufana. Emva kwakho konke, ulwalamano oludinga ukuxhaswa kungekuphela nje ngeengcinezelo ezithandanayo, kodwa kunye neengxoxo, ukuhamba, kunye nolwazi olusondeleyo "lweengqondo". Lo mkhwa ukhankanya ngokukodwa malunga nesiqingatha sesetyhini. Ngoko ke, amaninzi amantombazana afuna ukuhlehlisa ixesha lobudlelwane bokuqala kunye nomlingane ixesha elide.
Ewe, ukugatywa kwesondo ngokobuhlanga kunokukhubekisa umntu omncinci. Ngokukodwa ukuba umiselwe kuphela oku. Kwaye ngoko ubuhlobo buya kuhamba bubi. Kodwa ngolwalamano olusisiseko olusekelwe ekuvelaneni, kwakhona, ngokukhawuleza umbuzo uza kuvela xa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buya kwenzeka.
Intombazana inokumsebenzisa i-circumspection kunye nokuqhelanisa nokuqalisa ukulwa nobulili kunye neqabane elitsha kwithuba elithile. Ngoko, ukuba kungabikho ukuvuthwa ngokusondeleyo, kungcono ukudibana okokuqala kungekhona ekhaya okanye ngendoda, kodwa kwiindawo zoluntu. Ingakumbi ukuba uthanda imihla yokuhlwa.
Kodwa ekuqaleni kobudlelwane nomhlobo wakhe konke kukulungele ukutyundela emini. Emva kwakho konke, imeko enje, xa, umzekelo, ulala phambi kwendawo yokucima umlilo, ehlanganiswe ngengubo enye, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ube nebhotile ye-champagne neziqhamo, amadoda ayazibona njengempawu evulekileyo kwimisebenzi yesondo esebenzayo. Musa ukuvumela "iziganeko" ezinjalo kwizigaba zokuqala zokuthandana kwaye ngokubanzi uze uthathe isigqibo sokuba ulungele ukulala ngesondo. Musa ukuzisa umntu wakho ekhayeni lakho kwaye ungahambi kuye.
Makhe abuyele kuwe kwaye uya kwindawo ethile ephakamileyo okanye kwisiko likarhulumente. Uthando olusenyongweni alubonakali ngaphandle kokubanga. Kodwa ukunyuka kwemilebe emlonyeni kakhulu isondo kunye nesimo senyama. Ngoko ke, zikhokelela ekukhuthazeni kakhulu amaqabane. Amantombazana akufanele aqale ukumanga xa usendaweni apho akukho nto inokumisa khona, ukuze ulwalamano lusondele kakhulu. Musa ukuwanga xa uhleli ekhaya kunye nomfana wakho. Kwakhona, ungavumi ukuba indoda okanye inkwenkwe ibandakanyeke kakhulu ekukhoneni kunye nokuwanga xa uwedwa kunye naye.
Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda afuna ukukhawuleza ukulala ngesantombazana angakwazi ukuguqula ngamabomu imeko eyahlukahlukeneyo. Ngoko, umzekelo, emva kwemihla emibini, ubuya ekhaya kwakhona, kwaye ixesha liza phakathi kwamabili. Ukuba iincwadana zakho ezincinci kwikomityi yekhofi, ungayibona le ngcaciso njengememo yesini. Ukuba awukakulungeli ulwalamano olunjalo, musa ukuphindaphinda ngezi ngxoxo kunye nezicelo. Kungcono utshiye intsimbi emnyango wesango, uqedele intlanganiso ngokukhawuleza. Kule meko, qiniseka ukubulela umfana wakho ngokuhlwa. Khumbula ukuba nangona umema intombi yakho ekhayeni ngokukhawuleza "ebusuku nje", ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba nokuzama ukuthandana naye.
Izimemo ezinjalo zithathwa ngumntu wesini kunye nesigxina kwisenzo. Ukuze ungagcini ekuqaleni kwesihloko sesini, ihlaya ngaphezulu, uhleka ngamabali axelelwe kwaye ngokubanzi uzama ukuba ngabaqabane. Injongo yeyantombazana kufuneka ibe yinto yokuba umfana ubona njengomhlobo, kungekhona nje umthandi. Unokuqonda ukuba uhamba ngendlela elungileyo, ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntu osemncinci uhlala ekutshela ngaye. Amadoda azibonakalisa ngokupheleleyo ngokupheleleyo kuphela kubafazi abayithandayo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ibhinqa likwazi ukudlala ngothando, kodwa musa ukuqala ukudlala ngothando.
Kufuneka uqaphele kunye namahlaya kwisihloko sesini. Iintlanzi ezinjalo azifaneki nokuba nefuthe okanye intsingiselo efihliweyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda asebenzisa amahlaya anjalo ukujonga, ngoko kuthetha, umhlaba ongaphantsi. Akufanele ube yinto engalunganga malunga naluphi na uhlazo, kodwa ukwazi ukuba uphendule ukwenzela ukuba kuyacaca kumntu ukuba awukulungele ukulala ngesondo ngoku.
Ngokwemvelo, loo ngcamango ifuna ukuziswa kuye. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungayikhokeli ingqalelo kwizinto zesini, kungcono ukuguqula ingxoxo kwenye yesihloko. Ukuba umhlobo wakho unemoto, ke ungahambi ngaphaya koko kuvunyelwe kwaye uhleli kuyo. Musa ukuvumela umntu ukuba ahlambe iingubo zakho okanye awasuse kuwe. Ukuba kukho nawaphi na amanyathelo okuqala, kuya kuba nzima ukuyeka. Ukuguqulela ulwalamano kwisiteshi esinobubele, qho xelela insizwa yakho yincwadana. Umnqweno wokusondela kumntu unokuqinisekiswa kungekhona nje ngezenzo, kodwa nangamazwi. Tshela le ndoda ukuba ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe kwaye ithetha kakhulu. Bonke abantu bayavuya xa intombazana, njengokungathi yengozi, kodwa inzulu kwaye inomdla iphefumula iphunga lemanzi yangasese ngexesha lokubambisana. Kwakhona kwintlanganiso, xelela le ndoda ukuba ibonakala ikhulu. Ngoko ubonisa umntu ukuba ulinde kwaye ubone ukuziphatha akubanga ngenxa yokumthandayo, kodwa unomdla kakhulu kuwe njengeqabane. Ukuba kunzima kuwe ukukhusela iimvakalelo zakho, ngoko ke, unako kwaye ungazibonisa. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kwenziwe kwintlalo okanye kwindawo kawonkewonke. Ekubeni into engakumbi kule meko ayinakwenzeka. Amantombazana amaninzi, ahlehlise ukuqala kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nomntu omtsha, njengokungathi ubeka phambi kwexesha.
Ungamxeleli umntu malunga nesidingo sokulinda ubuncinane inyanga okanye ezimbini. Yaye ungabelanga imihla ethile. Oku akufanelekanga konke. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba akukho mntu unyanzelekile ukungena ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Oku kufanele kwenzeke kuphela xa ucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko. Loo mzuzwana kufuneka uzimisele ngokuphela komnqweno nokuzimisela. Kodwa ungathathi indawo yenkqantosi engenakunakunqandwa, ukuba umntu uyamthanda kwaye uyasihawukela. Bonisa izenzo zakho onomdla kumntu kwaye unomdla ngaye. Oku kunokwenziwa ngemisebenzi elula. Umzekelo, gxotha intloko ehlombe lakhe, thabathe isandla salo mfana. Oku kuya kumnceda aziva amandla akhe angamadoda. Amantombazana akufanele akholwe ngamagama omntu onokuthi u-pobinimaetes nje. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kokuqala kwemibutho enjalo, ihomoni zamadoda zivakalelwa kwaye ungaya kude kakhulu. Jonga izenzo zakho kwaye ungamniki umfana ngisho nangomqondiso osisigxina okanye omhle. Amadoda acinga ngokucacileyo. Kwaye kunye netyala lakho elingenacala lingamkela ngenxa yokuzimisela ukulala ngesondo.
Isiqingatha sabantu sesilungiselelo ngendlela enokuthi intombazana ishukumiselele ngesondo iya kubonakaliswa kwimihla yokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abantu kunye namadoda entliziyweni yabo bafuna ukuba abafazi bahlehlise ukuqala kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngoko banomuvo wokuthi phambi kwabo intombazana okanye ibhinqa ekhethekileyo. Okungaphezulu kwezesondo, amadoda afuna ukubawafumanise, ahlekisayo kwaye ayimvelaphi. Wonke umntu amaphupha ukuhlangabezana "noothixokazi" wakhe. Kwaye abafazi besi sicwangciso asikwazi ukuyeka ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Kufuneka ithatyathwe. Ngoko unike amadoda elo thuba.