Emva koko, ngaphandle kwenene "iparadesiyali" yolonwabo, njengokuba isondo kungekho nto akufanele sishiywe. Kwimeko apho intombazana inemizuzu engaphezulu kwe-10 ukuya kwe-20, ngoko akungcono ukuba uchithe umntu wakho othandekayo kunye nawe ngokwakho othandekayo, kuba unelungelo lokufumana kunye nawe? Nangona kuyafaneleka ukuba uqhelane nale mibono elandelayo ayifuni ukulala ngesondo nomntu.
1. Ndidiniwe ... Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ubuqhetseba bokuphila buyakwazi ukukhawuleza kunye nomfazi onqabileyo. Intombazana inokuzikhupha ngamandla kangangokuthi iya kuba nomnqweno omnye kuphela malunga nendlela yokukhawuleza ukuhambisa intloko yakhe "enzima" kwi-pillow soft. Nangona eso sizathu siyakwazi ukuqonda ngokucacileyo, saqaphela, kodwa musa ukukhawuleza iintambo.
Ngaba uye wakha wacinga malunga noko kwenzeka ntoni kwimeko apho wenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo? Ngaloo ndlela: uze ekhaya kwaye ngokuthe ngqo kumbundu uya kuthunyelwa ukubhaka komoya kunye nokukhangela kwindoda yakhe eya kuzama ukukuphendula ngento enhle. Kwaye nje ngemini, kwiimitha ezimbalwa zehhafu ukusuka kwiiyure zokusebenza, zama "ukunyathela" intloko yakho kunye neengcamango zesondo, iingcamango. Mhlawumbi banokucinga ukuba kumgangatho oyimfihlo bafuna ukudala into kunye nomthandayo. Emva koko, kuya kuba lula ukusebenza, kwakhona, ekubeni uya kunika ingqondo yakho inomdla, iluncedo, iingcinga eziphazamisayo ezivela kwimpikiswano engapheliyo efunekayo ukuba uvuselele imvakalelo yakho. Kwaye ukuhlwa kwamanqweno akho angakukugcina ngokupheleleyo ekukhatheni okwenziwe ngexesha losuku. Ngoko kulungele ukunikela ingqalelo, ukunyamekela, uthando, umnqweno kumntu wakho, okuya kukunceda ukhulule, unganiki ithuba lokushuqa kwaye ulifihle emva kobuqhetseba obunjalo.
2. andinaso ixesha nonke. Ngamanye amaxesha intombazana ayifuni ukuchitha ixesha layo elixabisekileyo kwizinto ezithile zesini. Ishedyuli esomeleleyo yosuku lokusebenza, ukuba akukho xesha lokutya. Uza kuhola phi umsebenzi onzima kangaka? Ewe ukucindezeleka okulula. Ngaba uyayifuna le nto? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba amagama aqhelekileyo aphikisayo ukuba kufuneka ubeke ixesha lakho, isondo kunye nabantwana, awuyikunyamekela. Kufanelekile ukucinga ngezinto eziphambili. Xa ubeka enye into kwindawo yokuqala yokuhlonipha, ingaxhunyiwe kunye nokuzonwabisa, ngokwemvelo akuyi kuze kubekho ixesha. Nangona kucacile ukuba akudingeki ukuba ubeke isondo kwindawo ephambili, kodwa nakwasekugqibela akufanelekanga.
3. Andiyithandi umzimba wam ... Ingxaki enjalo intombazana inokuvela kubomi bayo bonke, kwaye nje ngaphambi kokuba usebenze ngesondo. Kwimeko yokuqala, kufuneka ulwe noyiko lwakho okanye ngoncedo lweengcali. Kwimeko yesibini, kufuneka uzame ukucima zonke iingcamango zakho ezingenangqiqo, gxininisa kuphela ekuthotyelweni ngokupheleleyo. Khawulibale ingcamango yokuba awufuni ukulala ngesondo. Ukuphucula umphumo wokuphazamiseka kwezi ngxaki, xa ungafuni ukulala ngesondo ngenxa yazo, unokwenza izinto ezithile. Kungcono ukugqoka iingubo ezintle, ezibiza kakhulu, ezinokuphazamisa ingqwalasela yemibono yendoda, eyongezelela kuyo yonke into, izitokisi ezinobomi kunye nezihlangu.
4. Ndibukela iichungechunge zam TV . Mhlawumbi onke amacandelo amathelevishini afana neengcungcutheko zenzelwe ukuphazamisa kwiimeko ezinzulu ezifana nolwalamano nomhlobo wakho. Nantoni na othetha ngayo ngabo, kuyisizathu sakho sobuwula. Emva kwakho konke, unokuyicombulula yonke into ecacileyo, okanye urekhode uchungechunge kwividiyo, okanye uyibuke kamva kwi-intanethi, okanye ucele nje intombi yakho ukuba ibuyele into ekhoyo kuyo. Ungalokothi uchithe ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo xa kufika ithuba elinjengezesondo. Uninzi lwabasetyhini lunengxaki, ngokuchasene neyakho, xa sele umntu engashukumi, avuke ngesini. Ngoko, ngokunjalo ukufumana ukuzonwabisa, kungcono ukuyisebenzisa xa kusekho.
5. Intloko. Kaloku ukuba ibuhlungu ngokwenene, kodwa kuthiwa kuphela ngendlela efanelekileyo. Okokuthi, akusiyo into elula, isizathu sokungenwa kwintlalo yesini kunye nendoda. Emva kwakho konke, ke kuwe kukho isixhobo esihle kakhulu, isini esingenalingozi. Inzululwazi ixesha elidlulileyo libonakalise ukuxhamla "unyango" lweentlungu kunye nobulili. Ngokuncedwa, unokukwazi ukuphelisa ngokukhawuleza intloko ebonakalayo evela kuwe ngenxa yokukhathala okanye ukusebenza ngokweqile. Kodwa xa intlungu iqhubeka, unako konke ukuthatha iyeza elifanelekileyo, okanye ucele isiluleko sogqirha onolwazi. Abafazi abathile abasazi ukuba intombazana ayithandanga ukulala naye, kwaye iyamnciphisa ukuba ayikho. Isenzo sobudlelwane bezocansi esikukholisayo sinokulinganiswa nesenzo saloo mva.
6. Andinayo imvakalelo. Ngokwemvelo, umfazi akakwazi ukuba ngumatshini wesondo, alungele ukuhlala rhoqo kunye nendawo yonke ukuba abe nesondo. Kwaye ukuze kuvuselele umnqweno wokuzibandakanya kuyo, kwenzeka ukuba uthando olulula aluvumelekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka wenze ubuncinane inzame kumntu. Iingcebiso ezithakazelisayo zanikwa ezinye izazinzulu malunga nendlela onokubonisa ngayo umnqweno wokulala ngesondo, kwaye uphumule kwizinto ezingento zansuku zonke. Kufuneka nje ukuba abambini abalingani bahlambe i-naked, baze balala phantsi emibini embhedeni. Zibophelelane komnye nomnye, zivalelane. Oku kwaneleyo ukwenza nayiphi na iminqweno kwingqondo yomntu. Kodwa, kwaye ukuba akukho mphumo oyifunayo, kungcono ukulala, ulindele ngomso. Mhlawumbi kusasa kufuna.
Thandanani kwaye nikhohlwe ngezizathu.