Njengomthetho, oogqirha abacebisi ukuba balala ngesimo esithile, umzekelo, ukuba kukho isongelo sokukhupha isisu, ukukhulelwa, ukungena kwegazi lomfazi, ukuzalwa kwangaphambi kokuzalwa, ukuvuza kwe-amniotic fluid, i-placenta ephantsi okanye ukusuleleka kwintsholongwane yomzimba kwelinye lamalingani. Kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko, akukho mingcipheko ekuqhubekeni kobudlelwano obusondeleyo. Kwaye uphando lwezenzululwazi lwakutshanje lubonisa ukuba kwezinye iimeko, isondo sifanelekile.
Nazi ezinye izinto ezintle zesini ngexesha lokukhulelwa:
- Kukho inzondo yokuba ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kunokwenzeka ukulimaza umntwana ozayo. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo, inkunzi ifihliwe phantsi kweendlela ezininzi, ukukhusela kuyo nayiphi na ingozi. Udongeni lwangaphakathi lomzimba kunye nezihlunu kunye neendwangu ezininzi zeoli, kwakunye nezicubu ezinzima ezixubileyo; isisu esisodwa, esinezihlunu, umlenze wesisu, umfesane obomvu ozele ngamanzi - konke oku kuguqulwa naluphi na ukugubha, kwaye ekugqibeleni, iplagi enomthi evala umlomo wesibeleko.
- Ngexesha lesondo kunye nomthandayo, umzimba womfazi uvelisa i-hormone yolonwabo, ebuye ibe nefuthe elihle kumntwana.
- Ngokuzilahla ixesha elide, owesifazane okhulelweyo uqala ukuqokelela iimvakalelo ezimbi.
- Ngexesha lokukhulelwa, akukho mfuneko yokuzikhusela.
- Inambuzane iqulethe i-enzyme kunye ne-hormone yamadoda (i-prostaglandins), enefuthe elihle, inceda umlomo wesibeleko unyanzelise, okuya kumncedisa ukuba avule ngcono ngexesha lomsebenzi.
- Ngexesha lesini, kukho ukusikwa kwemisipha yombeleko, osebenza njengoluhlobo lwezempi zokuqeqesha ngexesha lokubeleka, okuvumela ukuba ugweme umsebenzi obuthathaka obasebenzi. Ukongeza, ukuba kukho i-hormone yamadoda okwaneleyo, isibeleko siza kuvula ngokukhawuleza.
- Kwixesha nangemva kwe-orgasm, i-uterus iqala ukuvumelwano, kwaye akukho nto isongela umntwana ongakazalwa. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ukuba isibeleko singakulungeli ukubeletha, ngoko ukuphambana kwayo ngexesha le-orgasm alinakubangela ukuqala komsebenzi. Kodwa ukuba ixesha lokukhulelwa lide likhulu, oko kuya kubangela ukuqala kweemfazwe. Yingakho abanye oogqirha bacebisa ukulala ngesondo, njengesiqalo esilulayo somsebenzi kwiiveki ezingama-39 ukuya kwii-40.
Akunakwenzeka ukuthetha ngokukodwa ukuba umnqweno wesini ngexesha lokukhulelwa uza kutsha okanye ukunyuka ngokuchaseneyo. Konke oku kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi, kubandakanya umsebenzi wesondo kwintombazana ngaphambi kokukhulelwa, kunye nokusuquka kwee-hormone ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Kule nqanaba, kukho uphawu oludumile: ukuba umfazi ulindele inkwenkwe, ngoko umgangatho wesini ubukhulu (mhlawumbi isizathu sokuba le nto inokuba yinyani ephezulu ye "hormones" yamadoda), kwaye ukuba le nto intombazana ilinde, ngoko iphantsi. Abanye besetyhini baqaphela ukwanda okrakra kwesifiso sesini, esinokukhula kunye nokwanda kwithuba lokukhulelwa. Kule meko, eli xesha linokukhunjulwa njengento enhle kunazo zonke, zombini kwindoda kunye nendoda. Musa ukucinga ukuba wenza into enyanyekayo, kodwa kunokuba ungasebenzisa umzuzu ngelixa ukhulula ngesondo.
Kungenzeka ukuba ngexesha lokukhulelwa, umnqweno unokuphela okanye ulahleke ngokupheleleyo. Oku kuqondakalayo, kuba ngelo xesha i-hormone yokuzola iqala ukuphuhliswa, umzimba wonke weli bhinqa ukhankanywe ngokuza kuba ngumama. Kuloo nto, xa ulindelwe owokuqala, umfazi unokuziva ukwesaba ngenxa yesimo sakhe esitsha, kunye nokwesaba kokubeletha. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntu unokucetyiswa ukuba atshintshe indlela yakhe kumfazi wakhe, kwaye uya kuphinda ahlaziywe ukuze abe nolwalamano oluthile lwe-platonic. Kubalulekile ukunyanga ibhinqa elikhulelweyo elinomonde omkhulu kunye nesisa, ukuzama ukubonisa ingqalelo kunye nomsindo njengoko kunokwenzeka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha ngokwesondo komfazi okhulelweyo kunokuchazwa njengempendulo. Iinyanga ezintathu zokuqala zesithakazelo ngesondo ziqala ukuphelisa, iinyanga ezintathu ezizayo - zikhutshwe, kwaye ezinyangeni ezintathu zokugqibela - kwakhona ziyahla. Ngenxa yintoni eyenzekayo? Ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela ukuba ngowama-trimester yokuqala ibhinqa liyancipha ngenxa yokuqaliswa kwesifo se-toxicosis kunye nokubonakala kwesohlwayo, impilo ebuthakathaka, ukunyuka, ukunyuka kwemizwa, ukukhathazeka kwintliziyo.
Kwi-trimester yesibili, ukwesaba kunye neengxaki ziqala ukuhlaziya. Ukuphucula impilo yonke, kwaye ngenxa yoko, umnqweno wesondo usanda. Uninzi oogqirha basabela ngokuthe tye kwizesini ngeli xesha, ekubeni umntwana ozalwe ngesisu ugqityiwe ekugqibeleni, kwaye ukutshatyalaliswa kwe-hormone entsha emzimbeni akubonakali. Kwi-trimester yokugqibela, iminqweno iyancipha. Ngokona buninzi, oku kungenxa yokungahambi kakuhle komfazi okhulelweyo, isisu esikhulu singasichukumisa, kwaye sikhathaze ngexesha lokusondelana nomyeni. Kunokwenzeka kwaye kubonakala intlungu ngexesha lobudlelane. Isimo sengqondo somfazi sitshintshile, kukho ukwesaba ukuza kuzalwa, ngaphambi kokungaziwa.
Iimpawu zesondo "ezikhulelwe"
Kodwa ngaphandle kwowesifazane, indoda ingaphinda iphinde iyancipha kwinqweno yesondo, ingakumbi kwiinyanga zokugqibela zokukhulelwa. Umbuso onjalo unokuvela ngenxa yokuzixhalabisa ngesimo esitsha kuye, ukuqonda ngenguqu ebomini, kunye nesidingo sokujongana neengxaki eziqhelekileyo ezinxulumene nokuthenga isikhalazo, umqhubi, iimpahla zentsana elizayo, isidingo sokwenza ukulungiswa kwindlu, njl. Nangona kuninzi kuxhomekeka kwintsebenzo yesini sezo zibini. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, ngeli xesha kudingekile ukulungelelelwa ukuba kunokuba kuyimfuneko ukunciphisa inani loqhagamshelwano oluncinci, kwaye kwakhona ukuhlaziya iziphakamiso ezikhethiweyo.
Kukho nje ukuthintela amancinci ngesini ngesithandwa somfazi okhulelweyo:
- Akukho nhlobo ayikwazi ukubandakanya kwi-cunnilingus (isondo ngomlomo, ihamba kunye nokuvuselelwa kwesini).
- Akuvumelekile ukuba ulale ngesondo kunye nabalingani abatsha, kuba kukho ingozi yokufumana isifo.
Ukuba ngexesha lokunikezelwa akubangakho iingxaki, umzekelo, ukubonwa okanye ukuphuka kwe-perineum, kunye nokungenakho ukungenelela, ngoko kuyacetyiswa ukuba uyeke kwisondo kwisithuba se-6 ukuya kwiiveki eziyi-8. Ukuba awufuni ukunyamezela ixesha elinjalo, ungalinda, ubuncinane ukuphela kwegazi lokukhutshwa. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba ukuba ibhinqa liyamncelisa, ngexesha lovuyo, ubisi lunokuqala ukuphuma phakathi kweengono, kwaye kunokuba kuyimfuneko ukusebenzisa i-lubricant eyongeziweyo. Ukuze ugweme iingxaki ezingadingekile, kufuneka udibane nogqirha wakho nangakumbi malunga nokukhulelwa komntwana. Kukho ukungaqondi kakuhle ukuba xa uncelisa, awukwazi ukukhulelwa. Oku akunjalo, umsebenzi wama-ovari ungabuyiselwa kwaye ngeli xesha, kwaye emva kokuqala kokuzalwa kwe-ovulation ukukhulelwa okutsha kwenzeka. Zonke ezi ngasentla zithetha ngesondo ngexesha lokukhulelwa zingabonakalisa ibinzana elilodwa: "Ubundlobongela ngexesha lokukhulelwa nangemva kokubeleka - unako, kuyimfuneko, kodwa ngokunyamekela nangothando."