Ngaba kukho umntu owake wacinga malunga nento ethi "ubudlelwane bokulala ngokwesini" kuthetha ntoni? Intsingiselo yegama elithi "okungahleliweyo" kulo mongo ibangela ukucinga. Ngethuba, unokudibanisa ifowuni, okanye ukukhubeka ngengozi, okanye ekugqibeleni, ukungazi kakuhle. Kodwa ungangena njani kwisondo sobudlelwane ngokwesondo?
Enyanisweni, akukho nto yenzeke ngengozi. Ukuthetha ibinzana elithi "ukulala ngokwesondo", sinomfanekiso olandelayo entloko yethu. Umntu ongathandabuzi nantoni na, akacwangcisi umntu, ngokukhawuleza udibana nomlingane onokuthi angene kunye nobudlelwane bezesondo naye. Enyanisweni, igama elithi "randomness" kulo mongo alinalo intsingiselo yangempela. Ebomini bethu, ukulala ngokwesondo kubonakala njengesiphumo esithile. Iingcali zeengqondo zinengqiqo enkulu kule nto.
Ukuba siqhathanisa ubudlelwane bobulili obuqhelekileyo kunye negama elidumileyo "uthando ekuqaleni". Oku kwenzeka rhoqo, kodwa, kunjalo, kwenzeka. Oko kukuthi, kulo mzekelo, ubudlelwane obuthathaka buchazwa ngothando olukhawuleza. Omnye akakwazi ukukhawuleza ngezigqibo ezifana nale nto. Ukunciphisa intshutshiso kusekelwe ekubeni unokukhawuleza ukuqesha, kungekudala uza kushiya. Oku akusiyo inceba yesikhathi eside, ngokumalunga nomnye umntu, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba kuthiwa uthando.
Inkcazo yezesondo ezingaqhelekanga kunye neemfuno zabo zemvelo. Ewe, kuya kwenzeka. Kwakungelula, kwaye konke, akukho ncazelo, akukho mfuneko yokukhwela kwindlela yakho ukuzithethelela ngolu hlobo. Nantsi yonke into icacile kwaye icacile.
Kukho into enjalo njengento yesini esingafanelekanga. Oku kubandakanya iimeko ezinjalo, xa emva kweqela elixakekayo, evuka ngosuku olumangalisayo, awuqondi ukuba ngubani oleleyo kwaye kwaye kutheni? Yintoni enokuyenza njengesizathu senkqubo enokuthi ingacatshangwanga? Kungase kuphuze kunye nabahlobo, okubangela ukuba kusasa kusasa. Okanye, mhlawumbi, kwakunokukhululwa kwamandla owawuqokelele ngenxa yongcinezelo owenziwe ngexesha lomsebenzi. Ziphathe ngokwimeko enommothekayo. Kwaye kwaye kwakunjalo. Kodwa zigcine uzigcinele.
Kwakhona, isondo esingaswelekanga sichazwa ngesondo, njengophilisa ekudakaleni. Oku akusona khetho oluhle. Ubundlobongela, kwimeko yethu "yokungaqhelekanga", akusayi kuguqula nantoni na ebomini bakho. Enye into yokuba ukuba ubudlelwane bezokwabelana ngesondo banomntu ohlukileyo, ongasigxina. Kodwa kule ngxaki, ingcinga yokuba ukuxhamla ngokukhawuleza kukunyanga ukulangazelela kuyaphoswa ngokupheleleyo. Oku kuchazwa yinyaniso yokuba iimeko ezifanayo zengqondo zithandwa. Ngaba udinga iqabane, kunye nokudakumba ngaphezu kwakho? Ngaloo ndlela, unokwenza ngcono ngokwakho. Ngoko ke, ukulala ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga kulo mzekelo akukhethi.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga njengempindezelo. Esi sizathu senzeke kaninzi ebomini bethu. Kuphela ukuyiqonda kuyo nayiphi na into. Ukuphindezela kuqhelekileyo ingcamango eyaneleyo. Kodwa nantsi impindezelo njengento yesondo, into engavumelaniyo nonke. Akunakukwazi ukuzonwabisa apha, yinto enye engalunganga.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba ulahlekelwe ubuso obusenyongweni obunqabileyo
IBhunga kuqala. Kukho indlela enjengokubonisa ukuba wonke umntu unako ukwenza ubuhlanya, ukuba akukho nto embi neyikrakra kule nto iya kwenzeka. Kananjalo ukhumbule ukuba ngokwenene, idumela lakho lihluke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye wonke umntu uyazi malunga nalo. Kwaye, kubaluleke kakhulu, rhoqo kunye naluphi na umbuso, ukuzibeka ekhaya. Oku kuya kukusindisa kwiimeko ezihlazo kunye neengcaciso. Kodwa, ekuvukeni ekhaya, uyaqonda ukuba xa uthe wachitha ubusuku, kuthetha ukuba isimo sakho sisesendaweni yaso.
Ibhunga lesibini. Hlola izinto ezinjalo ngokuhlekisa. Yazi indlela yokumamatheka ngexesha lokushiya kwaye uthi intle. Vula ii-wits zakho. Kodwa ungalokothi uxoxe nomlingane wakho nantoni na, nokuba ungaphila. Musa ukwenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu, ziphathe ngokulula kwaye ngokumomotheka.
Ibhunga elinesithathu. Khumbula ukuba akukho zengozi ebomini bethu. Yonke into ehlabathini inesizathu nesiphumo. Kukho inkulumo ethi "ukuhlangana okungaqhelekanga kungekhona ngengozi." Mhlawumbi ukuxhamla kwakho ngengozi kuza kuzisa okunye. Imimangaliso eyenzekayo, kwaye kulungile ukukhumbula. Ngoko ke, ushiye ikhaya, shiya oonxibelelwano bakho, kwaye ukuba, le nto izayo, isiqingatha sakho siya kuza kuwe. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, cima lo busuku kwimemori uze uphile.