Ngokuqhelekileyo lo mbandela unomdla ovela kwindawo yokuqala, uhlala emfutshane, ngoko ufanele ujabule olu lonwabo kunye nokuvakalelwa kwendiza epheleleyo. Ngeli xesha elifutshane, zonke iimvakalelo zakho zibukhali kwaye zihlambulukile, kwaye wena ngokwakho unika amandla olwabelana ngesondo. Ukutsala, "ukukhwela" kumntu unokukwenza okuninzi: ukuvumba, indlela yokuthetha, indlela yokuhamba, ukubukeka kunye nokumomotheka. Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhangwa okunjalo kunokukhokelela ekuqhubekeni kobudlova, umzekelo, ukuya kwesini.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngosuku lokuqala, ngokwemiqathango yokuziphatha kunye nemigangatho yokuziphatha, ayimkelekanga kakhulu. Wena ngokwakho, mhlawumbi, ungathandabuzekiyo-kwaye ufuna kwaye uyahlulwa, kuba ulwabelana ngesondo ngomhla wokuqala - kuthetha ukufumana idumela lomntu o fi kelele. Yenza okanye cha, kufike kuwe, makhe sizame ukucima ngokujulile kwizizathu zokubangela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukulala ngesondo kunye nendoda engaqhelekanga.
Mhlawumbi udibana nendoda ehambelana nengcamango yakho yindoda enhle. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngokwenene, kunzima ukuyeka ubusuku bothando nothando, ngokukhawuleza isiganeko esinjalo asiyi kuphinda sinikezwe. Cinga malunga nokuba kukuphi okukukhuthaza. Ukufumana ukukhangwa ngokwesini kukuphendula ngokuqhelekileyo kwimizimba enempilo. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba unqabile ngesondo, khumbula ukuba kweli gama ugcwele amandla ukunika indlela yokuphuma, uxakeke ngezinto ezibalulekileyo ezidlulileyo.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, wagqiba ekubeni uqhubeke malunga neminqweno yakho, khumbula ukuba umntu, xa esenza uxhaphalo olukhawuleza, akafane acinge ngokuqhubeka kwakhe. Ukuba uvumelana nobudlelwane ngobusuku obubodwa, ke yonke into iyacaca, ukuba akunjalo, ke ungabonakali uhlobo oluthile oluvuswa ngumntu kwimpembelelo enjalo.
Ukuze uyiqonde indoda ngokwenene, kufuneka ulinde ixesha elithile. Umnqweno wakho uya kunqumla, uya kuzincama, uya kufika kwisiqhelo esivamile kwaye unqume ukuba ufuna ukufumana le ndoda okanye cha. Ngokukhawuleza, kwimeko yokuzola, awuyi kuthanda.
Khumbula, akufanele uphikelele ekuthandaneni ngokwakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomtsalane kangakanani, loo mntu ngokwakhe kufuneka aqhube ngesondo. Unokwazi nje ukumxelela ukuba awunxamnye nolwazi olusondeleyo. Imibuzo emithathu ephambili ehlwayayo amantombazana kule meko: njani ungadideli indoda, ixesha elingakanani lokulinda ngaphambi kokuba ulale ngesondo, njani ungadideki kulo mntu?
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomhla wokuqala ngokuqinisekileyo uyingozi yoshishino, ngenxa yokuba awuyazi ukuba uyibona indoda yangempela okanye imaski ekhangayo, phantsi kweempawu ezingenanto. Ukuba awubalulekanga kuphela iimpawu zesini zesini, kodwa nakwabanye, kungcono ukuba ungabi nxamnye ngesondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ulwalamano emva kwesondo ngomhla wokuqala luhlala lude. Ukuvumelanani ngesondo, khumbula ukuba emva koko unokulindela zombini izinto ezinokumangalisa kunye nokudumala okukhulu.
Ubusondelelo obusondeleyo ngosuku lokuqala, njengokungena emanzini ukusuka kwi-springbodi - isigqibo, sagxeka, ayizange ibone ukukhulula i-trampoline. Kwaye, ukuba ulwabelana ngesondo nangona unomthwalo othile, ngoko umntu-into ebonakalayo, into engayibophekanga.
Kwaye okokugqibela, ukuba izifiso zakho zithintela ukufikelela kwe-oksijini kuwe, ubuncinane unyamekele impilo yakho! Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokukhuselekileyo ngesondo kunye nekhondom. Uthakazeliso lunomdla, kwaye impilo ingaphezulu kwayo yonke!