Ukujonga ngenyameko okhethiweyo, sifumana ukuba ziphi iinjongo zakhe. Yaye ukuba ngaba ngokucacileyo senza ukuba siqaphele kwaye singathandi - kuyafaneleka ukulinda kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kodwa kunzima kangakanani ukuba umntu angenzi ngaphandle kwesondo. Ukusuka kwimbono yezokwelapha, imvelo iye yaqulunqa iindlela ezininzi zokulondoloza indoda ekungcoleni, ngoko ukucaphukisa "Unobungqingili ... Ndikunayo yonke into apho, masibe nesondo ngokugqibela!" -ku nje ukucaphukisa. Kwaye zonke ezinye iinkqubo zengqondo, imigaqo kunye nobunzima bokungaqiniseki. Makhe sizame ukuqikelela, ukujika ukungaqiniseki kwimeko eqondakalayo nelula?
"Ndiyingozi kakhulu ..."
Kukho uluhlu olupheleleyo lwe-"notebook" yamantombazana amabhinqa, abaluleke kakhulu kumdlalo kunye nolunye uloyiso. Ngoko ke, ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwesondo kunye ne "tipchikami" bunokuhlala ixesha elide okanye lifutshane kakhulu. Ingakanani indoda engayenza ngaphandle kwesondo? Indoda enjalo inokuthi "iqhube" intombazana ezimbini ngeveki kunye nonyaka ngenxa yegama elinye "kwingxelo yokulandelela". Yilungiselele kwangaphambili ukuba into yokuba ungavumelani nobudlelwane obusondeleyo, uya kuba "ulandelwa" ngokungazi.
Izingcingo kanye ngeveki okanye ngaphantsi, mhlawumbi kanye emva kweenyanga ezintandathu (kwaye ngokukhawuleza into into ishintshile, ngoku ukhululekile okanye uya ku "gulp", uxabane nekwenkwenkwe kwaye unako "ukuthuthuzela") - zonke ezi zibonakaliso zomntu ongekho mthethweni.
Mhlawumbi uya kuba nomdla kuwe ngenxa yengqesho enye. Kwaye kunokwenzeka - kuya kuba mnandi, kodwa kungekhona ixesha elide kwaye ngandlela-thile "kakhulu" ukunyamekela. Ukuba awunalo lonke eli liva, okanye ungene ebuhlotsheni kunye namadoda ashukumisayo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufana nale "nge-whirlpool". Kodwa olu lonwabo luya kuhlala ixesha elide nje emlonyeni wakho awuzange uphule umlingo "ewe" ...
Blasp Wena
Ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile ukugcina ubuntombi ngaphambi komtshato ngenxa yeenkolelo. Ewe, ngoku kubonakala ngathi i-anachronism, i-relic yexesha elidlulileyo. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iindwendwe, ukuzinyanya nokucoca kubalulekile. Yaye ubuhlobo bunqweneleka kakhulu ... Kwaye ke amantombazana azibuza ukuba ingaba umntu angenza njani ngaphandle kwesondo, ngaba abo bakhethiweyo baya kumela uvavanyo olunjalo?
Ngokwamava, iibini zitshintsha okanye ziqhube ubudlelwane kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukho isondo phakathi kwabo, okanye akunjalo. Mhlawumbi injengeengcatshana zothando lomantombazana amancinci, kodwa nangona okhethiweyo axabisa iimvakalelo kunye neenkolelo ze ntombazana, akayi kumtyhola kwisini okanye afune ukubeka isistim.
Musa ukukhawuleza, kodwa ungalibali
Imizamo yokwandisa "ubudlelwane" kwisithembiso ngesondo, iyakuthi iphumelele. Akukho mntu unokukwazi ukubona kwangaphambili indlela umntu angenza ngayo ngaphandle kwesondo, umxholo omncinci (u kisses, hugs, mhlawumbi udibanisa). Kodwa sinokuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba awukwazi ukugcina indoda "ngesondo" esingenalo. Udinga kwaye unomdla, kwaye uyakwazi ukuzonwabisa, kwaye unomdla onyanisekileyo kumnxibelelwano.
Ngoko ke akunakunceda "ukulibazisa" umzuzu wobudlelwane obusondeleyo, ukuba ulungele ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Futhi ngokuhlekisayo, ukutshisa ngentshiseko, ukuzitshiyelwa kude "Ukubamba okulandelayo-akukho-akukho!".
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kulubuqili ukukholelwa ukuba unokonwaba kuphela ngesondo. Ukuba umntu akacwangcanga nje "ukulala nokulibala", kodwa esakha ukwakha ubudlelwane - kunengqondo ukuba angasasazi phambi kwakhe. Ukuba awukathembeli kumntu, awunayo loo mvakalelo leyo, eqinisweni, iyayichukumisa indoda kunye nowesifazane ukuba baxhomeke. Yaye ukuba awukwazi ukubona umthandayo kwinqununu, ngoko ke uthembeke kunye nawe.
Mhlawumbi, le ndoda enjengomthandi, ukuyibeka ngokuthobeka, ayikukhuthazi. Kodwa uyakhathalela, uyakhathalela, unike izipho kunye namaphupha obomi obufanayo! Kwaye kunye namantombazana amancinci, kunye namantombazana angqongqo, ukhetha phakathi kokuzinza nokuziphatha ngokwesondo, kaninzi ukuyeka ekuqaleni. Kwaye okwesibini kuya kwenzeka!
Inyaniso yokuba awukwazi ukuzithemba ngokwakho okanye i-destiny yakho (ngokuza kuthi emva koko uza kufumana ubunzulu nangokwezesondo), kungcono indoda ukuba ingazi. Kwaye ukuba uthe wabiza kuye njengomlingani othembekileyo "onjengodonga lwamatye," ke ube nengqiqo kwaye ungakhangeli ukuba umntu angenza njani ngaphandle kwesondo. Okanye bengazakheli izilwanyana ukuba ngolunye usuku uphazamise ngengozi ngomnqweno ...
Akukho mithetho!
Ngoko, unomfana okanye umntu ongenakukhathalela nangasiphi isizathu. Ngoko, kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kwenzeka - kwaye unomdla wakho ukuzithobela, ukwenzela ukuba umzuzu wobudlelwane obusondeleyo awufiki nje - kodwa awubhubhisi ubuhlobo.
Intuition yowesifazane yinto eya kukuxelela ngokuthe xaxa "nini." Kwaye inkolelo-mbandela malunga nomhla wokuqala (apho-akukho-no!) Okwesithathu (ukuba kungenjalo ngoku - akunjalo!) - ezi ngonyana nje. Ukusuka kwimbono yezokwelapha, indoda ingenza ngaphandle kwesondo njengoko ayithandayo. Ngoko ke, sigqibo malunga nokuba kude kube nini na ngesondo, kwaye xa kuya kuba khona-kuphela lona wesifazane ngokwakhe.